what will you do if your boyfriend's mom doesnt like you??

@chingkz (230)
Philippines
January 22, 2007 11:50pm CST
guys are closer to their moms right?? and some moms would sometimes really feel jealous towards their son's girlfriend..and the next thing you know is your boyfriend's mom doesn't like his son to be spending time with you.. well what will you do??? :(
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• United States
23 Jan 07
First off as a mother of three boys 2 of which are now married, I had issues with many girlfriends. I always gave the girls a chance to prove themselves. Respect, Respect, respect is the most important thing a mother looks for. If the girlfriend didn't care at all about my sons family and showed disrespect towards me what would make her think I would wanted her as the mother of my grandchildren. Honesty is another big problem I encountered as many of the girlfriends actually wanted to present themselves one way but their actions proved another. Respect for themselves is also a big factor. It always amazed me how girls would use sexuality to lure them in and think that alone would keep them. Jealousy is not always what a mother is thinking but Mothers of young men want women in their boys lives that will be caring wives, mothers and also be able to become a part of her sons family. My daughter in laws are precious to me and my sons choose well. I had to trust that my boys saw through many of the antics that some of those "GIRLFRIENDS" thought up.
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@chingkz (230)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
i see.. thnx for bringing that up..i guess mothers know best for their children.. and i think you are right there that mothers want the best for their children...thnx for making me understand it...^^
• United States
23 Jan 07
Your very welcome, remember that if you really want to know something about the boy, befriend his mother. Win her heart, his will soon follow :))
• United States
23 Jan 07
Just be careful how you handle this situation. It can be very fragile. A mother has a strong influence on their children, and can easily turn him against you. I speak from experience. All it took were a few simple lies. Try to prove your mother in law wrong? Almost impossible. You need to talk to your b-friend to be sure he is aware of the situation, and find out what his thoughts are and go from there...good luck with that one.
• United States
23 Jan 07
Boy you are so right on this one... as soon as one of the girlfriends tried to pitt me against my son, they were goners! Girls bare in mind that a mother love for her children is unbreakable, you will never win.
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• Philippines
23 Jan 07
my boyfriend and his mom totally dislike each other. But the first time I saw his mom, I felt intimidated because she's a big mom with a booming voice. Maybe you need to court his mom by giving little things that his mom likes. Try to be her friend, and if it doesn't work, then just be yourself.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
i experienced the same thing. i told my girl to dress decent when she comes over and offer something. or just a simple greeting will do.
@gangasa (220)
• India
23 Jan 07
start spending time with the mom and everything will get fine
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
if you love someone,let them go if they come back they are yours,we cannot compete with their mother, if the guy loves you no matter what the consiquences he will fight for you, it is better to let him decide for his self, don't make him choose between the you and his mom he will eventually do something if he really love you.
• India
23 Jan 07
I will try to analize why she does not like me I will try to see if there is a problem in me like the way I dress or the way I behave and depending on that I will change and also make sure that she knows that I have changed If all this does not work then I will ask her why she does not like me and try to research on it