How do you deal with co-workers that you hate?

@hcromer (2710)
United States
January 23, 2007 1:26am CST
I have always had co-workers that I hate. It never fails no matter where I work. I have even been fired before for telling a girl that I was going to kick her butt. How do you deal with co-workers that you cannot stand?
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@Wanderlaugh (1623)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
Avoiding people is a science. Try and see them coming. There's always someone or something else to work with, do that. Minimize contact, don't be around when they go into their little tantrum/rant/dance that drives you up the wall. If you have to be in contact, stick to collections of monosyllables and have a few reasons to be elsewhere. Don't involve third parties. Try not to even comment when that person/ those people are mentioned. Anything negative you say will get around. Remember you've only got X hours of them in a day. Plan those hours so you're as far out of contact as you can get. If in contact, be "busy" enough that even a total idiot will realize you can't talk or interact. Avoid also, as much as possible, their friends in the workplace. Guaranteed to create conflicts. (By the way... 9 already, eh? Well done.)
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
This is the best advice to follow smart you are!! Congratulations on that 9 also good job girl!! If you have to interact also do not even give them the satisfaction of your eye contact and reply with only as much words as neede!
• Pakistan
24 Jan 07
If you got fired for telling her that you are going to kick her butt then before leaving the company you should have kicked her... lolz I try to avoid unlikable annoying elements in the work place. But if they keep on annoying me then i start to annoy them too.
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@Zhanec (1652)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
i'll just turn to deaf-ear and avoid them as i could.the best way is to get your enemy to be your friends.Try to be friend with them.office war will not bring any beneficial to u.
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@freak369 (5122)
• United States
14 Feb 07
If they are doing things to try and get on my nerves, ignoring them is the best thing to do. That really makes them insane and at the same time, makes them look like morons. If it's just a personal disliking, ignoring them works well. I've gotten so good at it that I managed to not talk to someone for the better part of three months. If it stresses you out to the point where you want to wrap your hands around their neck, start looking for a new gig. Money isn't worth getting an ulcer or being miserable.
@ritchel (865)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
It quite bothers me when there is a person that i don't like working with especially if he or she is boastful and pretentious. What i do is i just try to control myself not to be distracted by this person and live my life as normal. We cannot really avoid to encounter with them and it is so hard right? In those cases, i am just civil to them.
• Pakistan
14 Feb 07
well plz dont do that dont play footboll somes's butt thiere is posiblity that some one can kick your but and you are out from the job you can lose your job aslo well ask your self why you hate with your co workors are they more preety or are they more affishant than you or are they have boy friend there is some reason but in all over the world who hate their co workers they treat dont well but in americ they dot do the same becasue they care the hmuman being they know very well if they say any thning rong or they treat badly they gone a hurt and they dont want to do that but in other countires peopel use to take form them more work they treat like a worst than their serverts they do not give over time they do not they take more work and they pay less money some think like that peopel think them very loo mentality so if you want to do and you want to let your coworkers say you that you are very cheap and you belongs to lo mentality go a head if you want to prove a good personality you have to deal them very jentaly soft take care of your co worker definatly they will deal you beeter and they will give you repset BEST OF LUCK
@loousta (24)
13 Feb 07
i dont get on with some people that i work with, im a receptionist and they treat me like a cleaner. making me mop and sweep, but i just grin and bare it. i hate confrontation. sometimes il mention something but im so weak i never say anything. you sound like you can handle yourself. speak to your boss, write a letter to someone high up telling them about your uncomfortable working conditions and see what happens. they might trasfer you or offer help.
@Sawsen (794)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I used to work at a famous clothing department store, and I was hired as a seasonal employee. At that time, they hired a lot of seasonal employees to work with me as well, and there was one girl that I really couldn't stand. She was extremely prejudice and extremely racist. One time our boss asked her to see her in her office. We all werer hoping she would get fired because she was extermely mean. But in fact, she got promoted as a regular employee but when she came back, she told us she was getting hammered on for being prejudice to me. So obviously she knew she was doing something wrong. I never said anything to her, and now I really regret it. Sometimes I think about going back to that store and telling her off. I think there will always be someone that will just push your buttons and really upset you. But I think you got to be the better person and ignore them.
@lisado (1228)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Luckily I haven't had this problem in a long time, but I know that my husband has people that he works with that drive him bonkers! He does his best to ignore them and hope that he can keep his mouth shut until he is transferred, or they are. There isn't much else he can do, especially if they are higher rank than he is. It's hard to keep quiet, but things seem to get worse if you don't. :(
@thanzm (193)
• Qatar
23 Jan 07
Avoid them. This is difficult if your boss is the lucky guy or u happen to be dependent at work with this guy. Then try to focus on something else. Like focus on the work that u r given and not the collegue.
@Miriel (1043)
• Norway
23 Jan 07
Ignore them. If you dont like them, do not bother to use your time and energy to hate them. That is my best advice.
• United States
23 Jan 07
I used to work night shift at a grocery store and I absolutely hated everyone I worked with except for my manager (who was really nice). I was completely miserable every night until I realized that it wasn't helping me any to hate them and hate work so much. So I made myself a goal, to find one thing, no matter how small or insignificant, to like about each person. This was not for their benefit, but strictly for my own benefit. It was pretty hard for some of them, but I found at least one thing. Instead of focusing on the things I hated about them I told myself to focus on that one good quality. It did not make me suddenly like these people a whole lot, but it made me not hate them so much, and it made work a whole lot more bearable. It sounds so dumb, but it made a big difference.
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
you know we have a similar problem but what i did is asked a co worker to take my shift and i will take her shift, lucky me i have a shifting schedule and besides that i always keep in mind that i am professional and i will never step down to their level, and now i just ignore them.
@arvijhon (126)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
It's no Big deal at all!For me, i'm here for work and i'm here to earned money,that's all. I just do what's my task during working hours and i don't care the people specially people that i hate! "Do your work and i will do mine" That's you should do no matter what. They can't help you they just ruined your work.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
First of all, learn to play their game.. then start ignoring them. This must stop them from going to you. If they are really irritating try to have your sweet revenge (evil!!!) by kicking their butt in their own games.. :)
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
This best and easiest solution is to ignore a person and i mean especially in a work place environment. When you are at work you are there for one purpose and one purpose only to do your job as best you can. Besides if you have better work ethics than that person it tends to get them where it hurts more than an argument ever would!