What should I do?
By milagre
@milagre (1272)
Portugal
January 23, 2007 5:00am CST
I've been thinking about this for long time. My sister divorced from her ex 4 years ago. He was and still is a surgeon. During divorce he was not very correct with my sister and was messing with her all the time and sometimes with the kids. She asked divorce because of someother person, so, she has her share of fault. My side of the family cuted relations with him due to his behavior with my sister and sons. Anyway, he trully saved mylife once(I was dieing in the hospital and he provide the special medical carings to try to save me, which he succed) he was also providing medical carings to my family any time we needed. I still have his old surgical instruments(he was not using them, and he left them at my house when he move to another place).My family might be crossed with me if i contact him. However i feel i have a life gratitude to him. I dont know if i should contact him or not, at least to tell him i still have his things and that he can pick it anytime. Advice me, what should i do?
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@MyLinnsLynn (292)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Well, this is a tough situation you're in, I know. My brother's ex wife used to be a nurse and she helped us out many times with our medical needs. Although she never "saved our lives" she helped greatly and I did and still do appreciate all that she'd done for us. They had a bitter divorce and like your sister, my brother also contriubted to the demise of their marriage. They've been divorced for about 5 years now, but in the beginning my brother was totally against any of us contacting her for any reason. But time has seemed to heal his wounds and he doesn't mind so much that we speak to her. I hope your family will in time come around also. Maybe for the time being you should just drop them off at his house and leave, or maybe even mail them to him if that is a possibility. Perhaps if you know where he is currently working you could take them to him there. As I've said I do know what you're going through and it's a really tough spot to be in. Hang in there and just pray that your family will come to see that he is a human being who helped you all out at one time or another. Good luck to you. Best wishes! :)
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
23 Jan 07
Its a similar situation. Dropping the instruments at his place is a good idea, shows good will from me, the problem is that he moved (even before they got divorced my sister and him moved to another city and i was visiting them once in a while), and he is living 300km away, i never go there anymore and dont know anyone who's going there. I also dont have his mail address, however o will try to find out through his sons. Thank you for your help, you gave me some good tips
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@MyLinnsLynn (292)
• United States
23 Jan 07
You're very welcome! I hope my advice will truly help you. Best wishes! :)
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
even if your sister have her own fault, i think you should ask your sister to call her ex, so she will be the one who will it to him not you, because it might cause you and your family a feud so better leave it that way if he comes back you can askd him about it.
