How often do you loose your temper - Has it become un controllable

Not very often, but I can still control my temper. As far as I can remember, it was the time when I was in a confrontational stance with the lawyer of a student who sued us in court. I really lost my temper; related to it was during the school investigation when the respondent student repeatedly lied, and I blew my top. Of course I had to control it as I was admidst other students and colleagues as well. More often, I am in better control of my anger.

I have lost my temper a couple of times, but not more often. When my son was only 3 years old, I really lost my temper on him--however, I could not remember now what he did to really make me so angry. But more often than not, I have learned to put my temper in check, and everytime I am tempted to explode, I do self-talk to put a stop to it. In fact, I see to it that I ventillate my anger on a friend--anyone who understands. Of course, I avoid being an "angry champion" just like what I have observed in other people who blow their top at the slightest provocation by others or by events. It would be good to know that losing one's temper is a defense mechanism which is tantamount to aggression, whether direct or indirect. On the other hand, keeping one's anger to ourselves does not also yield desirable results--the person may suffer physical complaints later if negative emotions such as anger are not expressed out in the open. The key is to strike a balance between expressing one's anger vs. keeping silent about it.

I can loose my tmeper very easily. If I am inable to calm down or people just make it worse then it gets to the violent point. I have pulled a baseball bat on my husband and he has called the police. But when they arrived I was still angry enough that I was going to hit them as they came in the door. They did not see me with the bat though as my son had asked me to put it away.