friends and family interfering in your marriage?

I had a similar situation with my mother-in-law. Not that she interfered with my marriage but with how I corrected my oldest daughter. No matter what I did she would get upset with me even if I just scolded her or sat her down she would get upset and start in on me and how i was raising my children. My oldest daughter was her favorite and very head strong to begin with. She would really push the limits when Grandma was around. So it finally got to the point that I dreaded visiting them or them visiting us. She started in on me one time and I finally told her to butt out. That they were my children and my home and she was a guest there and until she minded her manners that we would not come see them nor could they visit us. After a few weeks she settled down. I hated putting my husband in that position but he was an angel and supported me. Not only that so did my father-in-law and brother-in-law. I never had that trouble with her again.

Unless you confront them they will continue to be a problem. As tactfully as possible, explain the problem to them and why it is making things difficult for you. Tell them your marrige is your business. You may appreciate suggestions from time to time, but you have the final say in your relationship. If they don't like it..tough. You cannot run your marriage to please someone else. Work it out to please yourself. They may be making assumptions without knowing all the facts. It is not realistic for them to try and control your relationship. Put a stop to it before it ends up ruining your marriage.

My wife and i actually went through this. My best friend got along with my wife-girlfriend at the time, great until his girlfriend met her. Now, his girlfriend had a huge problem with someone newer and more interesting coming along and taking attention away from her. So she started leaning on my friend, and he started to give me a rough time. Really what it came down to for me, is this is the woman i wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and ultimately the mother of my child. I chose her, and my family. And he had to live with that decision, and it's probably harder for him than me.

Yep. Banish them, for real. Your husband & kids (if you have kids) is/are your family now. The vows specifically state "forsaking all others." If "others" cannot respect your vows, then they obviously are not respecting you, your marriage or your feelings. Lose 'em.

When they have been in my shoes and slept in my bed then OK until then Butt Out

Well, thisis delicate matters. If it is a friend I would probably stop talking to them. If it is family, well, that is diferent for me because family is one of the closes things that we have. I would absolutely have a serious talk with that "X" relative.

No i dont like friends and family interfering in my marriage because marriage should be according to my choice.

I haven't ever had this problem and I have been married for almost 38 years now. However, if one of my family or friends tried to interfere in my marriage, unless I specially requested them to, then I would just tell them that I need to sort out my own problems. I would never banish them, as some people feel they are doing what is best for you.

I don't know whether friends will interfere in marriage but mostly parents or family members will tend to interfere .They don't like us to choose our partners our selves.Sometimes don't like us to get married to different religious(our partner).