what do you think the best age difference for siblings is??

Canada
January 23, 2007 3:36pm CST
Hello. I have a little girl, she's going to be three in April. I've always wanted to have two children, but I'm not exactly sure what the perfect age difference is. I want my children to get along, and not fight so much. What do you think?
8 responses
@rjbass (1424)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Curently I have 3 children and don't plan on having anymore. Their ages are as follows 6, 4, and 18 months so as you can see the biggest gap is around 2 1/2 years. This was definately planned on our (my wife and I) part as I think that a gap between 1 and 3 years in between children is sufficient as I want them to all grow up having similar interests, friends, etc. And, I also beleive that schooling will be easier for them as they will be so close in their academic curriculum that they can feed off of each others knowledge.
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Do you find your children ever jealous of each other?
@rjbass (1424)
• United States
24 Jan 07
They fight with each other and are jealous over everything from the color of shirt that they are wearing to the amount of juice that they eacg get in their cups. But....this is all part of their growing up process and is a common phase for their ages....I hope.
@amoreco (180)
• United States
23 Jan 07
At least 2 years apart..2-3 years is a good gap to have kids.They can get along, and it will be easier to take care of them.My doctor told me, people always told him 3 years is the best!I think I will try for another one when my son turn 2 1/2.
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• Canada
24 Jan 07
Yeah I've heard that before too but I've also heard that it's the worst. I don't know..
• United States
23 Jan 07
My two boys are 14 months apart due to my last being very premature. I would not have it any other way. My oldest is helpful and never got used to having me to himself and loves his little brother. They dont fight YET but I am sure they will. As far as raising right now they are more like twins!
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• Canada
24 Jan 07
That's soo good that they haven't fought yet and that the older one is helpful! I'm scared that my daughter will be too jealous of a new baby because she always wants attention!
@bigstret (484)
23 Jan 07
I Think Just two or three years apart is good, so they can be friends and grow up together
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Yeah thats what I was thinking also, because my mom made the mistake of having kids with a big age gap with my sister and I. I always thought she was a brat and really annoying.
@quispy (572)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Not fight???? It is a rite of childhood! Let me tell you, my oldest is 14, my next is 8 and my next is 7. They all fight. They will also defend each other to any and all outsiders, so that is hearwarming. I feel bad that there is 6 years between my oldest and middle. My oldest is really like an only child and my other two are more like twins. I really messed up the timing of the ages with all of them, so who knows why I'm responding! LOL
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• Canada
23 Jan 07
Does the oldest have a good realationship with the youngest?
@allina (19)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
hi thank you for being my friend, well i gues is time to get pregnant b4 too late. now yr girl is 3 after 9 months pregnant , yr girl will be 4. and takes other 3 yrs to catch up with yr 1st child the age gap will be too far. and the elder will act as a big sister.
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• Philippines
24 Jan 07
as per my doctor she told me that the best gap for having a baby is 3-4 years because your womb is now ready to hold a baby again.it is strong already.and at the same time i as a mother is healthy and already coped up from the past delivery.it is good also for the family because you and your husband enjoyed your first baby already and ready for the next one. its up of the couple also if they need one.they should also consider their financial status,if they can support another baby.
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@Kaldonya (278)
• United States
24 Jan 07
It really depends upon what you believe and what you would like. It's almost a matter of personal choice. I have a 15yr old, 13, 2 and a 1yr old. The first set of kids are 2.5yrs apart and I thought that was great. The second set is exactly - to the day - 1yr apart and I see awesomeness in that as well.
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