How hard to do you find it to rate posts that offend you?

By Leca
@lecanis (16661)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
January 23, 2007 6:51pm CST
I tend to make and respond to rather contraversial discussions. It's not so much like I like conflict, but simply that most of the things that are important to me tend to be kind of contraversial. Just a few moments ago I went back through a discussion I started, and tried to rate replies. I found it to be more difficult than I expected. It's easy to put a "+" on a well-written post that agrees with me. It's even easy to put a "+" on a well-written post that disagrees with me in a respectful manner. But what do I give people who disagree with me in a disrespectful manner, but are well-written and on topic? Should I give them a "-" because they're being rude? Or a '+" because they are attempting to contribute to the discussion? Do you have problems rating posts?
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41 responses
@smuggeridge (2155)
24 Jan 07
if they have made a decent argument, whether i agree with it or not i will give it a + even if they have been slightly offensive, i just write back and be offensive to them, i quite enjoy it really, and i don't like to give "-" marks unless their respomse made no effort to answer the question or discussion. Theres nothing more i hate than someone who writes "I agree"
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@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Jan 07
Thanks for replying! I agree with you on the "I agree" thing! There's a discussion going on about that on mylot already, but I really think people shouldn't post unless they're going to add something. I have no problem rating those people poorly!
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• United States
24 Jan 07
Anyone that takes the time to write to me and answer the best they can will get a +. If they didn't really say much I won't rate it. If they say a one word, I will turn them in with a ! and give them a -. If they disagree with me, that's fine, as long as they are not rude, and I will give them a +. I do not like to be called names or be hurt. That will get them a - and I will say something to them about it.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I haven't been on here long, but I tend to give positive ratings to anyone unless it was obvious that they were just being hateful and stupid. Also, I have given negative ratings to a few people who didn't even bother to read the post before replying. I mean, I'm busy too and can understand not going through hundreds of replies, but at least read the original post thoroughly! lol
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
24 Jan 07
i don't rate people with a (-) just because they disagree with my thoughts. that's why we are discussing here because we do we have different views in certain issues. and that we can't all agree at the same time. it's good actually because we get to discuss things more. the only time i get to give someone a (-) rating is when i get answers like no, yes, i don't know, i agree and so on. but i do accept answers that might even hurt me a bit. it's their own view on the matter and i respect that.
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@Serjas (2328)
• India
24 Jan 07
i usually rate if a discussion or response is some informative also i rate my responses to discussion as they got atleast 2 lines and some sort of description.i rate them as + and other leave no rating and i will add a comment like"please be decriptive as possible,thank you". when i saw a good photo i will check that and rate them.usually i check the photo atatched to discussion as well as i search some photos within my interest and if a photo seems to catchy (for me)i wil rate a +
@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
24 Jan 07
It's difficult to gauge emotion in the written word. A person in a disagreeable positition may come across sounding rude or even disrespectful. If the arguement is on topic and well thought out, I would give them a "+". On the other side of the spectrum, people who answer with "I agree" or "I don't know" get "-" instantly. Or if I really can't tell whether they understood the post or not. If I am on the fence, I don't rate it at all.
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@destroyer (785)
• Pakistan
24 Jan 07
Even if the post if offending but well written and according to the topic it deserves something better than "-", i always try to rate posts on their relativity to the discussion and not based on my personal feelings,
• India
24 Jan 07
Making rating is difficult but if there are most post Rating is the best way to determine their value. So i dont have any problem in rating posts.
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• Pakistan
24 Jan 07
Well I do try my best to rate all my posts and even if a person has a opinion different than mine and has stated his/her thoughts, I give them + for voicing their opinions and for their valid answer. I won't give anyone a minus untill I feel that the answer is really off the topic or its just spamming to earn $
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@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
24 Jan 07
I think the only time you are supposed to give a - is when they are breaking mylot rules, If they have offended u in any way or you just donĀ“t know what to do ... skip the rating, give them neither a + or a -...
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I don't know how to respond to this. Personally I just don't respond to discussions that I find offensive. I think that it is probably better if I give them a negative rating but at the same time I have to respect that it is their opinion and I cannot rate that. Or can I? wink wink
@neon2000 (2758)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
It's not like offending you in your own discussions. It is defending wha will other members comments are. If they respond a well defended post but disagree with you, then rate it though it is very hard. Being rude is different, it is not a defense, it is attacking your opinion and not defending what's his against you.
@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Personally i would still rate them as a + because anything that you post you should automatically expect some good feeback or bad feedback and once in a while it sounds rude. If i were you and like you said they are attempting to contribute to the discussion and they are on topic. If you were to rate them a - then that is the real rudeness because sometimes people come of as rude although they don't really mean to sound this way. Rather they are just trying to get their point of your discussion to them out!
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• India
24 Jan 07
It is rather difficult to rate people's posts for a "-". I think giving a "-" because you are offended by that person even though it is well written is right in my mind. There is no place for being rude in debates , discussions etc. I think you should give a "-" if a person is rude.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I usually rate based on their ability to remain on topic and not pull religion out as their shield of validation. I rarely give "-" unless they are vulgar, rude, or obvioulsy trying to run up points with one liners. There are times I will post a comment to remind readers of the topic and what it did or did not include so that things don't start veering away from the original descussion.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Something you might want to do is just not rate it. If you are unsure if it deserves a + or a - then leave it as is. Sometimes that is all you can do, leave it in the middle. I agree when a post is well written and doesn't agree with what I'm saying I will give it a + as well. However I have had some be very rude or obnoxious on it and in those cases I usually just don't rate it that way my bias isn't in play.
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I agree with giving someone a "+" if their discussion is well written whether they agree with me or not. But if the person responds and they are rude or offensive I would give them a "-" because even though you may disagree with someone and their point of view it does not give that person the right to be disrespectful to someone else, that is uncalled for.
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@raijin (10371)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
You could always leave them for a moment and wait for other opinions that are like same to their views. Then you can measure that and rate them of what you think is the most possible they can get or deserve. Mylot gave us the freedom to do that(rating) so they can monitor who is playing the rules and those who fools with the system.
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
I suggest you dont take discussion too seriously so you wont be stressed out in rating. There's already enough in the world that stresses us so dont think too much about it. Take it seriously, but not too much.
@wesderby (178)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I think being respectful, even if you disagree with someone, is part of writing a well-written post. If you have to get disrespectful about it, then it shows that you (the responder, not you personally), have difficulty expressing yourself and therefore probably shouldn't be posting. I say, if someone responds to you in a blatantly disrespectful manner, such as calling you or your opinions dumb, stupid, ridiculous, or whatever, that probably deserves a minus...Or, if you feel it's well-written enough to deserve a plus, go ahead and give that, but don't hesitate to write a comment on the person's post, expressing that you felt disrespected, and explain how the person disrespected you. Maybe, that person will think twice next time he or she disagrees with someone and at least try to be more civil about it...Just a thought.