Overfriendly Boyfriend...

Philippines
January 23, 2007 11:20pm CST
This is my first time openly discussing my problem openly. It started just this relationship with a colleague in the same department. He is a great person and i love him a lot. But its just hat he is so very popular with the girls and more often that he's kinda touchy person. I am still ok with this. but then there is this other girl who he is closer with and she likes to touch his back like patting his head. And recently he even bit his hand for fun. When he told me i was fuming. I mean, when you are touching towards a person and the other people does the same it will only get worst, cos its like telling the other person I am ok with this. The girl will think that is ok and well...I cant take it. The other part is that nobody can know that we are together. When he is with another girl I pretend not to see. I Lie to myself that nothing is going on but its killing me inside... What should i do?
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5 responses
• Malaysia
5 Apr 07
wow ! everyone asking u to leave him. GREAT ! that's a start of a new life. seriously, i got a lot of friends (girls) stuck in this situation. u know what ALL of them do... they stay couple with their boys. WHY ! well people, this is love. LOVE is a simple word with a HUGE meaning. sometimes people can lift it, sometime they fall below it, sometime they ask someone to help them with it. OK joyceversa, in ur case. u r still young. soooooooo lovely beautiful ! why r u making ur life worst. i understand that u love him. but it's not only him that look great on your eyes. i tell u what, if u tought he is the best for u, the u r wrong. your eyes has been shut closed while u r with him. that's why u can't see other guys with a great prospect then him. huhuhuhu ! a little business talk here. but it's true, trust me. from my study ages, many of my friend, boys n girl asking for my oppinion on LOVE. it's not that i'm doc love, but i really enjoy studying people. and there r only three things that can make MAN mad..... girlS (with a big S), money (a lot of them), powerS (with a big S too). did u notice that, all in a BIG weight. for girl... only one thing can drive them crazy ....... a LOVE..... did u notice the 'a' before love... it means only one love. that's what a true women r. Ur boy there, in my opinion is not trying to play around with u. i think he got no intention to cheating on u. but remember this, when a beutiful girl naked in front of us (men) what do u think we USUALLY do ? funny eh. ;) them same there. he feel heppy with all those girl praise him. he feel happy coz he can be litle intimate with them. in his heart, i don't know. that's ur part to take care of. Here me this, go to him.... talk to him..... SOUND him this......." If u really love me n don't want to lose me, PLEASE don't make me sad. LOVE me as what true lover do. Trust me as what buddy do. Help me as what Doctors do. Be with me as what my teddy bear do. and then i'll do the same for u.... loving u as much as i can do" Noe remember the meaning of LOVE...... the first in the book is..... SHARING ! Good luck !
• United States
26 Jan 07
Come on now. You're too young to be stuck in the middle of all this drama. You're setting yourself up for failure with this guy, who apparently doesn't feel the same way toward you. There's no respect if this guy knows how you feel but still plays touchy games with other girls. Get out of this mess now before you hurt yourself more. There are plenty of guys out there who will devote themselves to you and your feelings. ‹(°¿°)›
• India
24 Jan 07
Oh, that's really very bad. I am seeing lacking of hnesty part here with your BF. If he is going around with you and you both love each other, he should not have to hide this things from other girls. I think he is doing this only because he does not want other girls to go away from him. I never tolerate such behaviour. The things he is doing with other girls and the same things he allows other to do with him, is totally looking like bad flirting. He does not look like very much resposible and honest person. I think you should just let him inform about your feelings without any fear. You should speak out. Make hime understand atleast once that whtever he is doing is not good and you really don't like it. If he really loves you and respect your feelings, he will not do such embarassing things anymore. And if he does not stop doing such things, I would honestly suggest you to leave him without any doubts. Take care
@dyakson (35)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
you should talk to him about it. communicate! :)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I would break it off. Find you someone that can be 100% yours. A one woman man. It sounds like he may just be a player and I wouldnt trust these actions. Also it is rude of him and not to mention the other girl to do knowing that he is already in a relationship. You could just give me an ultimatum and tell him it has to stop or your done. That will prove how much he cares.