My parent are treating me like a baby! What should i do?

@vertex (803)
Philippines
January 23, 2007 11:39pm CST
I have a very big problem because my parents are treating me like a baby. They are the one making the decisions for me. They also let me take the course that they want me to take. And my worst experience is when i join a regional contest. they accompany me to the terminal and it seems that i am aby who is starting to walk. They always watch my steps. What should i do or tell them so that i can be free to choose what i want?
7 people like this
48 responses
• Canada
24 Jan 07
Nothing. Obviously your parents care for you much and think they know what is best for you so be glad you still have them. Eventually you will be on your own and what your parents tought you as a child will be what you will teach your children
@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
This is true you only have your parents once in your life and you are lucky to have parents that care tremendously for you. Not everyone can be this fortunate in life. Just have a good talk with them i think that this would be the best solution for you all!
• United States
24 Jan 07
I know it is hard when you are teen and want your independence, but someday your parents wont be there any more and you will wish that you could seek out their guidance and knowledge. Just love them for who they are, someday you will appreciate that they took the time to care about you.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Jan 07
First off - how old are you...and what courses and contest are you talking about?
@vertex (803)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
im 17 and taking up computer science. i entered programming competitions
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Jan 07
You are still young, and as much as you think you know, you don't. What courses did you want to take that your parents did not let you take and what are you taking that they let you take. My son is going to be 21 in a few weeks and he still listens to me and comes to me for advice. He knows that I am knowledgable and want the best for him. Plus he will always be my baby. You are 17, you Mom loves you and wants the best for you. You can't blame them for that. You sound like you are a good kid and following a good path. Give them time, they are not used to you being a young man. They will get it.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Oh, I should also add, my son in on his own, he supports himself. But again this afternoon, he called asking for info. Be glad your parents care and are giving you direction.
• United States
24 Jan 07
my mom is the same way.. she calls everyday, needs to know everything I do ect.ect. it drives me totally insane. But on the other hane she is getting older and I would miss her if she wasn't here...
• India
24 Jan 07
It is another way of showing affection and responsibility towards children. So ithere is no way u should go insane with this.
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
I have a friend who is treated the same. I too, in my younger days was treated like that. I just started telling them that I'm old enough to make rational/smart/intelligent decisions for myself. I'll listen to what my parents have to say but that doesn't mean I have to obey it. I'll make it on my own steam. And that I did.
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
you're 17? boy, you're still a baby! Just kiddin. Maybe you can try showing to them that you can stand on your own, talk to them and ask them to give you a chance to prove yourself. If this does not work, turn the table around, treat them like a baby too!
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Sweetie, you should have a heart to heart talk with your parents and tell them exactly how you feel. Tell them things you want to do on your own, express to them you are a young man and you are trying to find what's good for you and make decisions for self. At least some...Express that you know they mean well but you will never be able to except life lessons thrown at you if you never have a chance to experience them for yourself. You want to be treated as a son and a individual. Hopefully they respect your wishes...Your parents love you unconditionally and want the best for you, it shows through your topic but they need to eventually start working on cutting the cord and letting you grow up...Good luck...
@weslenv (175)
• India
5 Feb 07
c u r blessed to get such a nice parents.. they r very much concerned abt u..but i can understand ur problem ,say to them that u want to be free and go for a training courses outside ur city which ll bring a confidence in ur parent's mind that u can do all things of ur own.. but dont let them be alone bxoz they need ur presence for ever...
@denden (802)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
i think if your parents treat u like a baby would be ok. but they are the one making your decision? i think it is not right becauce how can you learn to be independent if that is the case. just talk to your parents and prove to them that you are mature enough to make decisions. and be a sincere enough to talk to your parents.
@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I think you are still young. You are just getting ready to explore and face the world more. You think you already knew a lot but you don't. Just be happy that your parents care for you so much. Just appreciate them on being supportive. In taking future courses, tell them how you feel. What course do you really want. I think you would excel more on your interest rather than theirs. Goodluck!
@yahooguy (508)
• Romania
4 Feb 07
tell them that you aren't any more a baby and i'm sure that they will know what to do ...and will not treat you like a baby ...tell them what you feel and what you don't whant them to do i'm sure it will work:)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
2 Feb 07
If you act mature and show them you can make mature decisions then you have a better chance of them treating you like an young adult. If they see you acting very immature then they are going to treat you like a child. Good luck.
@jahrakal (38)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 07
There will be a time when you have to be on your own. May be your parent still don't see you being independent. I think you have to show them that you are independent and mature. There are also parents that very protective to their kids, may be your parents are include in this category.
@COLLIS2 (479)
• United States
4 Feb 07
The best thing you can do if you've already tried talking to them about this is wait until college. If you leave the area you are in for a good reason like that or even leave the country, it will force them to accept the reality.
• India
27 Jan 07
Only solution for this problem is marriage.If you marry, this problem will be solved up to some extend.
• United States
25 Jan 07
It is very hard for parents to let go you will always be there baby. As much as it a pain it also sounds like your parents love you very much and want the best for you. As much as it a pain in your butt, just be grateful that they care enough to want to have a enput in your life. I would start off by telling them that you are old enough to make some choices in your life and that they need to give you a chance to prove to them that you can do it.
@hellboi (661)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
One thing not clear to me is whether you have shown enough maturity for your age that your parents failed to recognize. Because maybe your parents are just reacting to what you show to them which is something short from their expectations of a mature person who can handle real responsibilities. So i suggest that you learn to be mature with your ways and take some responsibilities and prove to them that you are good and capable. If you are really mature and responsible enough but your parents fail to recognize that or simply don't want to recognize such truth that you are old enough to make decisions for yourself, then the best way you could do is talk to them. Try to discuss with them that you want a certain degree of independence but be sure to emphasize that you do need their guidance in making your choices yet the final decision must come from you. I know that by taking time to talk things out you will come to a compromise of what you can do and cannot do. In order for it to work out though both you and your parents must respect each others' part of the bargain. Remember that is how mature people carry out their deals.
@cashnono (1135)
• Hong Kong
27 Jan 07
No matter how old we are, we are always babies in our parents' eyes.
@sri2694 (17)
• India
25 Jan 07
Though it is happy to know that ur parents r caring like none another , it sometimes seems so bad. If they help u in all , how can u make ur own decisions? so sit and talk freekoutly with them and example them ur friend's parents, and explain ,u want them to be like others. all the best and don't confuse ueself.ok
• India
25 Jan 07
ya, most of the parents doing like this, bcoz they don't want their children's did wrong and meet any problem. they not ready to give any chance for us to make any decision.