Do i need to meet this guy?

So, Lets get the facts straight ok. 1. You are Married 2. You are talking to guys on the internet 3. Your husband knows about it You say he is nice to you, meaning that he is sending you money and gifts, Right ? You also say that you lied to him about being married. In one of your other responses you say that you are truthful with your husband and he knows that you talk with Guys on the internet. From what you have said so far and because I have been to the Philippines several times because my wife is from Leyte, it is very easy to see what is happening with you. You are scamming men on the internet, leading them on so that they will send you money and gifts and your husband is a part of this. Now you have met someone who is actualy going to come to the Philippines and you are scared because you know he will find out the truth and be very upset with you. People like you and your husband give the Philippines a bad reputation, you should be ashamed of yourself for doing this kind of thing. You should tell this man right now that you are married and can not see him. Do it now before he spends all of that money on plane tickets, because if you dont and he comes to the Philippines to see you only to discover that you are married and were only taking advantage of him and his good nature he is going to be very mad and maybe he will cause great harm to you and your husband. You should not tease men and take advantage of their emotions, you may have told him you were only friends but at the same time you were leading him to believe that there could be more, maybe even a romantic relationship just so you could get his money,,,,,,,, your bad, very bad

Lady what I could understand with yours post is that you are married and you met some one on line whom you take it as a friend and whom you never told that you are a married woman. If thats what it is then whats the need of you meet some one ? unless you want to meet him too? He tells yu he likes you and as you are a mature woman you must have understood what this likeness all about so my advice is do let him know you are a married woman and it wont be practicable for you to meet him unless you realy want to meet him behind your's husband back, then it dosent matter at all if he knows you maried or not. One thing for sure its not a love story going on, its an attraction and when you meet him then be sure then all its going to end up in bed, despite what you ready to admit to yourself or what he realy says to you.Hope you make up the right choice.

That´s why i always defend the truth, for me it´s better that you tell that guy that you are married, then if he insists in going to your country talk to your husband and both receive the guy, I guess that´s the better solution.

you have to be honest with this person tell him you are married and if he still wants to be friends then that is good, too many lies are told by people online i can speak of this from experience. Be open honest and just yourself have fun along the way dont hurt anyone good luck tc xx

if he really insist on meeting you, meet with him together with your husband. that's the right things to amend with everybody around. atleast you have been telling the truth all along with this friend of yours. well, if your husband really wants you not to go, then i guess you should always be at the side of your husband, respect him for being his husband. just explain to your online friends that your husband don't want you to meet him.

you dont have to meet the guy,,you must have tell him the truth about yourself first...whats your intentions for not telling??...

Drop the friendship and learn to be more responsible

Dont meet i'll advice it...because he likes you ... u told two thinks i m confused that what are you saying u are saying in topic that u told lie to that guy and below u wrote ur husban ? :S

Unless you've out and out lied, I think you need to casually mention that you are married to this guy before he comes to visit you, in case he has other ideas/hopes for the visit. I've had guys visit me, my husband doesn't care, but they're friends - they all know I'm married, and some of them are married.

my friend dont get paranoid and live in it. when that time comes you take your husband with you and meet him there is absolutely no problem but tell your husband about this so things will be clear. dont worry things will be alright.

You can tell him now.. or take ur husband along when you go to meet him.. but as he is coming to your country... you should meet him.....

If its not serous for you like you say its not then dont meet up with him anymore. I wanted to ask you if you are happy with your husband coz I dont see the reason why you should meet guys online. I mean I know they are just friends for you but still.. you have a good husband who trusts you that much. Cherish that. =)

Short answer, right thing to do: NO! First, you're married! Second, you're not dure how sincere or how clean his intentions are. Third, it's for your own good. Last, just don't!

You shouldn't meet him. If his intentions on you is to be more that friends, I think he'll be upset and mad if he finds out that you lied to him about you being married. Eventhough your husband knew about this guy, its seems unfair to him. I think you've hurt his feelings but of course he wouldn't tell you. Just avoid him if you don't have any plans on being more than friends with him. Goodluck!

I guess it is time for you to tell him the truth that you are already married. I dnt know the reason why you have to lie about being married if he's just a friend to you? My friend, no husband will allow their wives to meet other guys....it's impossible! especially you've just met the guy online. It is also unfair for the guy...you let him fall for you, so you better do the right thing as soon as possible.

i think if you meet him also he wont do you any harm afterall he is coming to meet you from other place, and if you do not like him you can choose not to meet him or talk to him again.

because you had lie to him i think you should not to meet him, because he can more dissapointed if he knows your not merried yet but this all up to you, if you want to continue this relation with him.

well it is good that you have met someone online but since he is your friend now you can tell him that you are already marrried to a guy and he doesnt want you to meet him.i think being straightforward is the key here.When you will reply to him like this he will surely understand and might even cancel his flight to your place if he is coming to meet you.Well this is very wrong of you that you havnt told him that you are married....but now the time has come to tell him the truth and i think you should tell it to him frankly that whats your problem n you lied to him.With this your husband will not be disappointed and you will be freed from all the lies you hv made.

I think there is lot of time for him to come and visit you. In the meantinme you can tell him the truth that you are married. I think that itself will make him decide about not visiting you.

1. Why do you lie to men on the internet? 2. Why are you chatting to men on the internet? 3. You should not play with peoples emotions. 4. Does you husband chat to women on the internet? 5. how would you feel if your husband met up with women he met on the internet? Be honest with yourself and with others and anyway how do you know for sure that this guy is not telling you lies? Be careful