Number of children to have

Philippines
January 24, 2007 6:57am CST
At this time and age, what do you think is the ideal number of children a couple should have, and why? For me I think two to three is ideal. However, if the family income is below minimum, having even just one child would be difficult if the child has to get a good education.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
I'd like to have three. My husband wants only 2. I want to be financialy stable, so I don't have to work though...so probably 2. We have one child right now and I love staying home.
• Pakistan
25 Jan 07
I totely agree with you. if a couple have 4 or 5 or more children its very difficult for them to provide gud foods, education and other facilites. on the other hand if they have 2 or 3 children, i think there will be no difficult for them to provide best facilites.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
24 Jan 07
hello. first of all, nice to see you around again. for me, 2 is enough. whether it's a girl and a girl, a boy and a boy or a girl and a boy (and vice versa). two is just enough. parents can atleast focus more in their children if they are just two of them. can also support them financially and send them to school.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Must be maintain to control population.vary on country.
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@shywolf (4514)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I think that there is really no particular answer to that question, because each family has to decide what feels right for them. I've personally always wanted only one child, if that, because I was an only child myself and I also cannot see being able to afford to raise more than one child in today's world with the rising costs of schooling and basically everything else that a child needs. I definitely would not think that i would want to have more than two children. But that is just my personal feelings on the matter. Other families might feel capable of bringing up a lot more children than that. I have a friend who has five children and they are all some of the best people I know, really raised well and homeschooled and they seem to have plenty of money and time to spend with each of the kids. So whatever works for you, works! ^_^
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@rajikoshy (741)
• India
25 Jan 07
it basically depends on our financial condition too, our age, our type of working hours, if you need to have more children.
• India
25 Jan 07
then you should have enough time for them.
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@honeyangel (1991)
25 Jan 07
i have 2 children boy then a girl and to me thats enough
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• India
24 Jan 07
I think two is enough even girl or boy, if we have two children we can able to give a better and brighter future for them good education, good life as they need. and even we can make a beautiful life if we have two children's, we can give all what they are recommending or what their dream.
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@loray143 (485)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
i think 4 would be ideal... 2 boys and 2 girls... since if i have two girl and one boy or two boys with one girl... i think my one and only girl/boy would become spoiled brat since she knows he/she is only one(boy/girl) among our children... if i have four, each of them will have someone to play with... lets face it... boys wont play barbie and girls dont play with cars...
@Redkitty (480)
• India
25 Jan 07
i think two members childrens are best
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• South Africa
25 Jan 07
I think two kids would be an ideal number taking into consideration most moms and dads have full time jobs and this will leave just about enough time to take care of these kids. Even if the income is high having more kids would put those kids at a disadvantage.
• India
25 Jan 07
for the future for a family only one child is enough to maintain.. many children makes others trouble, to live a good life one + one= two.
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• Pakistan
25 Jan 07
I totely agree with you. if andy couple have 4 or 5 or more its very difficult for him to provide him gud foods, education and other facilites. on the other hand if they have 2 or 3 children, i think there will be no difficult for them to provide best facilites.
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@fedge098 (1330)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
For me, two kids will do. Simply because it's really hard to run a family. And many things need to be considered in building one - the Costs of Living, Education, Kid's Luxuries and all... Better be practical nowadays... =)
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• India
25 Jan 07
ya one or non should be the slogan.
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
I've always wanted to have 4 children, but in the world of today, i know it's unfortunately impossible, considering where we stand in society, which is a bit below average. So I guess we'll have to cut down to two kids, hopefully. It's sad that in today's world, a mother can't stay home and raise her kids, or have as many kids as one couple would want.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
24 Jan 07
My Momma always said that if you wait to have children when you can afford them, then you will never have children. Having multiple children allows for interpersonal actions and reacations. Makes for a bit healthier children too. Education being free there are ways for the children to make it through. Some have done so and became great doctors or such. Having children I would say ideally would occur in the 30's. You have lived a life and did some things you wished to do and have become more settled to tend to the needs of others. Good thing life has a habit of occurring at any old given time.
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• Ireland
24 Jan 07
I suppose it would depend on the individual couple and their circumstances. My husband and I decided before we ever got married that we would only have two children. However, we were managing comfortable so we decided then to have a third child. They all received an excellent education and are now in highly paid employment. I don't think we could have managed to give the same benefits to them if we had had a fourth child.
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• United Arab Emirates
6 Feb 07
My wife and I are planning to have ony 2 kids. We have a 1 yr old son and hopefully we'll plan for another baby ('hope it will be a girl) when our son is about 3 yrs old. In our tight economic condition, i guess with only 2 children we could responsibly give them the best of their needs.
@hmbw_24 (404)
• United States
24 Jan 07
hi, for me i thought the perfect number was 2. i cant imagine handling more than that! my mother had 7! omg i just couldnt do that. plus they were spead out over so many years, iwas the last she was 40 when she had me so basically her whole life has ben dedicated to nothing but raising a bunch of kids. so for me 2 it is. maybe 3 tops.
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I totally agree with you. 2-3 is ideal. These days it is just too hard to be having alot of kids. I have 3 of my own and sometimes it can be difficult financially, especially as they get older.