failed relationships...how can you handle it?

@precy828 (1294)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 7:29am CST
i've been married in 1990 and i was just 18 years old at that time but got separated after 2 years when i discovered that my husband is an addict.during those times before i decided to leave my husband,i met someone much older than i am.still single at that time but already attached with pregnant girlfriend.he asked me out and i accepted.since i was still very young and not so experienced,i got scared because of the thought that it will be against the law to have intimate relationship since i am already married and he has girlfriend but nevertheless, we still meet and went to motel but nothing happened because i am really scared that my husband would know.he asked me again to meet,this time, i prayed real hard not to see him.i went to the meeting place,and fortunately,i haven't seen him.he called me and told me that he was there but to good heavens,we really haven't seen each other...after that incident,we haven't seen much of each other because he is already set to get married and i have problems of my own.i was not really heart broken or anything.not too long,i got separated and 3 years after,i met someone whom i have 3 kids but it's really unfortunate that after 10 years of relationship,we have to be separated and my love for him has gone sour because of his unfaithfulness which made me realized to love my kids more and myself rather than to him.now,since i am single again,i swear that i am not looking for someone to replace any men in my life because my mind is already settled to live alone and i am just equally happy to have kids with me.sometime last week,a friend of mine,called me and she said that she met my 1992 fling and asked for my number which she gave.he called me and said that he hasn't forgotten what happened in 1992 which definitely,nothing happened.he's also claiming that he got married after i turned down his proposal.he is still attached to his wife with 4 children and i don't feelings for him.if he offered his friendship,i will gladly accept it but if he will offer his so called "undying love" for me,then he would get nothing.what can you say about this man who's until now professing his love for me?i am flattered but not in love...as what i said i am not looking for someone else and if i will spot someone i want,i will choose single and unattached.thanks for reading.hope to hear your comments soon...
1 response
@nkarthick (1273)
• India
25 Jan 07
Forget about the past hope best in future