Are you good friends with your ex? Why is this important?

Nope. I have two exes and had very good reasons for leaving both of them. The first one is an abusive, ignorant jerk. We try to remain pleasant and polite for our daughter, but that's as far as it goes. My second ex is a pathological liar with serious narcissistic tendencies. I can't stand him and he can't stand me. He packed up his new family and moved across the country 2 years ago, after declaring that he no longer wanted to be a father to our son. I have absolutely no use for that man.

If there are children involved, I think it is crucial to at least have a decent relationship with your ex. I have never divorced (and don't plan to!!!!!), but my parents did divorce after 20+ years of marriage and three kids. That was about 15 years ago when they did split up, and it continues to mean a lot to me that they continue to have a cordial relationship. It is clear to me that they continue to care about each other, and that means the world to me. It means to me that I came from something real, that even though my parents no longer wanted to be married, they still have a genuine love between them. In fact, when my dad has had health problems, my mom helped us get him around to medical appointments etc. If there aren't children, then I think it depends on the individuals. There is one particular ex that I have no desire to have any kind of relationship with, and yet I still maintain a memory of the love we shared. Even though I don't want to be with him now, I think if you truly loved someone they stay with you in some way.

No i am not friends with my ex we got divorced when i found out he was molesting our children.He should of been locked up and the key thrown away but that didn't happen instead he served 3 months in jail and was released back onto the streets to do it again to other children.The only good thing that came out of it was that he is never allowed to see our children again and is allowed no contact with me or them.

I am in friendship only with my exhusband. But I did not have too many boyfriends... I do not even meet to them since we broke. I do not like to argue. I know my exhusband well, but we could not live together. I can call him anytime I need his help. And he can call me anytime too, I help him always if I can.

I sometimes speak to two of my ex's but not because we're friends. One of my ex's was the first person I was truly in love with but we had a bump relationship, went through all kinds of stuff together and he just loved smoking pot and sleeping around more then he loved me so I had to walk away. He'll contact me once in a while if he wants to try to get intimate with me. The last time this happened was right before Halloween and I wasn't interested in seeing him. I'd rather remember him for the good times, then what he became and what he is now. My other ex, who is the father of my children, we'll talk online sometimes but again, he's more interested in talking about S*X, then my children, which makes me angry. He can make me more angry then anyone else on this earth can, and he knows it. I only will talk to him sometimes if I am trying to find out what he's up to so the kids will at least get child support from him, since he decided to walk away. If kids are involved and the other parner has a relationship with his kids, then it's important to at least pretend you have an OK relationship with your ex, for the kids sake.

If you have kids, it is in their best interest if you are on good terms with your ex. My ex and I were not speaking to each other. Because of this, the kids were able to manipulate the situation, by playing us against each other. Once we realized this was going on (It took awhile for my ex to see this, as I had the kids and he didn't want to jeapardize his "good dad" role). But now we talk daily and are able to band together as parents to ensure that we are both involved in their lives as a team. My daughter still tries the manipulation game...but as long as he and I don't fall victim to it, it passes quickly. She's a tough cookie :)

My ex and I wee a couple for 4 years - we lived together and we were engaged. we are NOT friends today. he was a very manipulative man who abused me and used me in the worst ways ever and I am just glad that he is out of my life for good.

I tried to be friends with my husband's ex because I thought it would be good for their son. However, she is nuts! She started telling her son all kinds of bad things about me. She blamed me for them not being a family anymore. They broke up because she cheated on my husband when their son was less than a year old. I didn't even meet my husband until the boy was 4. She got mad that the boy liked me better than her. Gee, why would a child like someone better who didn't yell and hit all the time and took into account what kind of foods he liked when she cooked and always had spaghetti-os on hand in case he didn't like what I cooked? She made stuff he didn't like and sent him to bed hungry. Ooh, that got long-winded. Sorry! The point is that I tried, failed and am very glad that she moved 4 hours away. Too bad she didn't do it 15 years ago before traumatizing her son.

I have some that I still consider a friend but I never see them. I unfortunly had an ex that was killed in a car accident while we were broke up (we were trying to work it out~we had a 18 month old boy.) The night before he was killed he told me he loved me and (my smug attitude) I just responded with "I know". I wanted him to fight to get me back: for him to know that I was worth the fight! This is a regret I will live with everyday of my life. So think of what it would be like if your children never saw their other parent, dad's day at lunch with no dad. Other children talking about their Dad when your kid can't even call anyone that. Think of these things before you wish they were gone and never seen again. ALWAYS tell people how you feel about them because you never know when they could be gone.

I never talk to my ex for several years, I left him due to some reasons and just realized how bad habits is he after one years life together. I promised to myself that I'll never contact him anymore but after we got own family, he found me and tried to contact last year. Now, we just keep as good friend and never more as my husband is very jelous with him

i don't make friends with my ex because my husband will get jealous! hail!

yes we still good friend with my ex because when we broke up, we did it without anger and because one reason that we know we can keep our relationship and that is the best way for both of us

Honestly, i dont really know what are the two things that i am doing right now.Because sometimes,i could say we better good friends for the sake of our kids.And sometimes i could say,he better dissappear because there are things we argue that really bothered me.Maybe its because i still love him and hate him at the same time.Hard but true!!!

My ex and I are not friends at all, but it's more his idea than mine. I left him for various reasons and he always told me that "nobody leave me!" LOL anyhow, we don't have kids together so it's not too big of a deal even tho I do miss him sometimes. Now, my sister and her ex get along. They aren't what you would call "friends" necessarily, but they do get along. they have a 15 yr old daughter together and don't fight hardly ever. He has even called my sister as recently as a year ago at 11pm and asked her to come get him at a friend's house when his car broke down and he couldn't get home. LOL They don't hold any animosity toward each other--well, if they do, they don't show it at all. I think it's great to stay CIVIL..maybe not friends...depends on the situation of the relationship and the break-up...but being civil (esp with kids) is always a great thing to do.

I hate my ex girlfriends they got so petty when we broke up. Personally for me its out sight out of mind. I could care less if I ever see 1 of them again.

I havent talked to my ex in years. He moved far away and would call once in a while. But we really have nothing in common to talk about so what's the point!

I am so fortunate. I have only been married one time and I am still married to that same wonderful man. He is my best friend. We have been married for 28 years. No ex husbands in my past nor is there any ex wives in my husbands past. YIPPYY

In my case, it is the latter. Im so not in good terms with my ex and we're better off that way. It just depends on you two. But if one of you still can't go on then the other one shouldnt be stopped living her life. Just like in my case.

ya am still a goood friend with my ex bf...but not close enough..still carryin good raport..coz he still moves with me good...circumstances led us apart....anyway thats led us good life now...