Can you call this cheating?

@manong05 (5029)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 8:39am CST
A friend of mine told me that his own way of avoiding cheating is everytime she is in bed with his wife he just imagines that he is making love with the other woman he fancies. He focuses his mind to this woman. Thus he fulfills his fantacies without actually sleeping with other women. What do you think? If you are the wife, are you being cheated?
2 responses
@MrsAdvice (623)
• United States
24 Jan 07
The purpose of making love is to bring the couple closer together. If he is focused on another woman, the act is not making him closer to his wife. He is not only cheating his wife, he is cheating himself out of the marriage he could have, if he were only willing to work on his marriage being better instead of focusing on other women. I am not saying he should NEVER think of another woman, occasionally would maybe add some spice, but you said "everytime" and that is what concerns me. This means he is never making love to his own wife. I think that is very sad and allowing himself to imagine being with other women may not always be enough for him, he may eventually become so obsessed with it that he has to try it. This man is really cheating himself and his wife a lot, I feel sorry for him, and his wife.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
Your username speaks well of you. Thank you very much. So you are saying it can be done sometimes to add spice?
@lisa101 (1362)
• United States
24 Jan 07
IF your spouse is'nt with you mentally it seems the same as cheating and what are they doing with you anyhow if they have to imagine other people then they dont love you anyhow.
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
so if you are the wife, you'll feel you are cheated. Thanks! I think some wives will agree with you.