What would you do it you found out your child was not yours ?

Canada
January 24, 2007 10:55am CST
What you do if you found out today that the child you were raising was not actually yours ? Would you feel differently about him/her , would you fight to keep the child you thought was yours or would you want to have your own child back ? This was a big fear of mine when I gave birth to my children that somehow they would mix my child up and give me the wrong baby and I wouldn't know for years later . As it happened all my children were with me at all times so I need not have worried . But I hav eheard cases where did has happened . How would you react ?
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
24 Jan 07
I don't think it would change my feelings towards my child in any way. Children are who they are I think because of who raised them, not because of who gave birth to them. I think I would definitely fight to keep my child, but I would still want to meet the child I had actually given birth too. This would be a difficult situation for sure.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you for your response .
• United States
24 Jan 07
that's a scarry thought now that you said it. I never would think that my child would get mixed up, and it's a scary feeling. That's why when i had my children i wanted to look at them before they took them to the nursery.
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@wiessied (646)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I think i would probablly be very upset but i would continue to love and raise the child as my own,we are very tight ,i wouldnt tell them though until they were old enough like 18.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Cry.... And cry and cry... over myself.woooooo
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Awesome post!!!!!!! In all honesty, I wouldn't feel any different toward the child I had raised. They are my children no matter who gave birth to them. However, I guess the contradiction would be that I would still want to meet and be a part of my birth child's life. If, given the way things work these days, the parents weren't suitable, then I would try to obtain custody of that child also!!!!!!!
• United States
24 Jan 07
My feelings wouldnt change at all. I love the children that I am raising. It would be nice to get to meet the real child and Id want to be in their life, but the person raising them probably wouldnt want to give them back. It is a very hard thing to imagine. Once you grow to love someone so much, I guess it doesnt matter if they are really yours or not. Family is not always blood.
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@Sweetpeas (739)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
You know I would really love to give a great response to this as its a great issue that does happen, but i honestly dont think I can. I wouldnt even want to begin to imagine what everyone including the child would be in for. I know I would absolutely love this child that i had raised, how could I not, but beyond that...I really dont know unless i was actually in that situation God Bless anyone who is xxx
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you !! It is true that we never know for sure what we would do in a situation until it happened to us . Thank you for your response .
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• Canada
25 Jan 07
I think in a case like this that it would be hard and i think it matters how much time has passed before finding out. However it would be hard to say that you would want to fight to bring your biological child home, but you would also have to think about what was best for your child because if you found this out after say 10 years of raising your child then it may not be best to just turn that child over to someone else and vice versa. It would be very hard as a parent to know that you were raisng someone elses biological child but really to me blood does not matter the measure of parentage is not simply does your blood match... Parents, moms and dads are the people who are there everyday, witing to hug you when you hurt and laugh with you when you are happy, they are teh people who chase the monster under the bed away. They are that safe spot, the familiar smell. For some children in the world mom and dad arent even thier mom and dad but that does not diminish the love or the bond. So i think that you would have to look at this topic on a case by case basis. atleast that is what I think.
• Canada
7 Feb 07
This is true the lenght of time before you had the child could make a difference . Thank you for your response .
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I was worried about this myself when I was pregnant. I had two c-sections and both times they handed my daughter to my mother and my son to my husband and that is that. So eyes where never taken off my babies. I have heard about the same thing though, that this has happened in the past. I don't think it happens now because now a days they don't even have a nursery in hospitals. They just give the baby right to mom or dad or a family member and keep the baby in the room with the mother at all times. Every hospital is different, but I had one of my children in Nevada and another here in Oklahoma and both seem to have strict rules.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
I don't believe this is something that would happen very often either as I had my children in four different hospitals and in all of them , my children were with me at all time . Of course it didn't stop me from worrying each time I went in lol . Thank you for your response .
• United States
25 Jan 07
This would be such a hard thing to consider. I love my son more than anything else in my life. He is my heart walking around outside of my body. There is no way in the world anyone could take him away from me. I would surely die. I think I would be selfish though and want my birth child as well. Thankfully, this isn't an issue for me. It is very clear by looking at my son that he is our natural son. Great question though!
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you , I think I would feel the same as you . Thank you for your response .
• United States
25 Jan 07
I had that same fear as you!! I remember how careful they were at the hospital making sure all the bands match. I had the nurse check my daughter since she was so orange for jaundice. That night hours and hours later some lady not even in a nurse uniform came wheeling my baby out of my room!! I got up and freaked out! They had explained how she worked in the nursery and were taking her intot he little place witht he lights to help heal the jaundice, but they said nothing about they were going to do it and when they would take her there. I lost it! Okay onto the topic. I would wish that I could keep both. I would want to keep the child that I raised. He or she would already be settled into their life and so loved to take them away and make they start all over.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
I would have freaked also , they should have informed you of this before they just tried to take her on you . Thank you for your response .
• Canada
25 Jan 07
I would atleast want to meet my real child, but I would still love the child I raised the same. Love is stronger than biological relationships. The child I love is my child. I would probably also grow to love my biological child, and if the child I was raising wanted a realationship with her biological parents I wouldn't discourage her.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
That was very nicely said . Thank you for your response .
• India
25 Jan 07
Well if any such kind would have happen to me than also I would have rasied the child as mine. I believe in that why innocent child should pay the price
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
This is true it would not be any fault at all of the chiild and the child would think you were his/her , mother or father . Thank you for your response .
@nhingneng (131)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
if ever that happens to me i would still keep the baby. specially when no other mom wants to keep her but then i would still find my real baby and then seek legal counsel so i can sue the doctor and the hospital staff responsible for the change.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you for your response .
@rubypatson (1842)
• India
25 Jan 07
Nowadays I dont think such mistakes happen, but incase it does happen to me then I dont think i will stop loving the child after all i would have got used to the child as my own
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you for your response .
@worthy (2413)
• India
25 Jan 07
It is a very unfortunate thing to happen.But there is no fault of either the parents or the child.So parents should treat the child as they did before but as far as loving the child as earlier is a very subjective thing and may differ from person to person but the child should be loved and taken care of like before until his parents are found or if not then with his present parents.But the pain and yearning for one's own child will be difficult to suffer and efforts should be taken to search for the lost child.I think this is the worst mistake on the part of the hospital authorities or whoever is responsible for this.
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I agree it would be a huge mistake on the hospital . Thank you for your response .
@kawillow74 (1417)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I seen a movie out about it a couple of years ago and I thought of it then the hospital mixed 2 babys up. I have to tell you I would not give up either of my boys even if they where not mine there is no way I would ever part from them. Yes even if they where not my own. They are my heart.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Very nicely said , thank you for your response .
• United States
25 Jan 07
OH. I would find the parents that had my real child and pray that I had more money or resources to be able to get my child back AND keep the one I was raising!! I know that's selfish but at least I'm honest.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Thank you for your honesty and your response :)
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
haha what a scary thought considering i will be giving birth to my son next month, but with my first baby i really checked her face before i closed my eyes and i almost passed out and they gave me oxygen, but if ever this happens to me it sure will be very difficult to love another child knowing all along that the child you raised is really ur own only to find out later its not..but nonetheless i will find my own flesh and blood.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Good Luck having your son , I am sure all will go well and thank you for your response .
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I would feel no different at all. I would love them just the same. I think I would have to find the other child too. I could not go through life not knowing the child that I gave birth to. Of course I would not wreck the life of either children for my own selfish reasons. It all would have to be done with the most care possible. If I found out my daughter wasn't mine, I would be shocked. She looks an awful lot like me, and the poor child has my personality. LOL. I have a bond with her and I would love her and feel the same about her as I always have. We have been lucky to have each other and I am so glad that we are mother and daughter. It is so funny, though. When she was born, I made demands that she not be taken out of my room, because I was terribly afraid of them switching her since I heard a story on that in the news while I was pregnant. The nurses were probably glad when I left the hospital. I drove them crazy with my fear. That was 12 years ago, and I can still remember studying her face and every mark to be sure I had my baby if they took her from the room. I was traumatized by that story on the news.
• Canada
7 Feb 07
I think that would have been me if they had tried to take any of my children from me as this one of my big fears . Thank you for your response .
@carmat (2849)
• Canada
25 Jan 07
I am scared I would be selfish and want them both, it certainly would be heart wrenching. I am glad around here they but Id bracelets on the babies as soon as they are born so that really is not much of a concern.
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• Canada
7 Feb 07
Lol , I think I would have felt like you and wanted both of them too :)