Could you tell your best friend that

United States
January 24, 2007 12:11pm CST
the name she picked for her baby is terrible? I don't want to offend her and her husband, but I really don't like the name. Should I tell her, being that it is just my opinion. What if she gets hurt? You know pregnant women get sensitive.
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
25 Jan 07
No it would hurt her feelings I am sure. I have friends who name their babies the weirdest and hardest to pronounce I have ever seen. I always ask where did you get that name is is so unusual. This starts the conversation and if they ask if I like it I will be honest, but I woud never volunteer my opinion.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Thanks so much for your advice. I agree with you.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
No dont cuz its just ur opinion and its not a fact other people dont think it and u should try not to think that but if u do tell her she would be hurt
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Thanks
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@AJ1014 (52)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Well I don't think it should matter because it's her child. I know I wouldn't want anyone telling me that they didnt like the name I had picked out for my kids. Picking a name out for a child is a special thing for a family and if it's name that they love but you may not like than that is something that you will just have to live with. Unless it's really one of those terrible names that I could never understand why people named their kids that. *lol*
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Thanks
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• Canada
24 Jan 07
I don't think I would bother telling her. People choose baby names very carefully - and they are usually very emotionally attached to the name. It's certainly not going to hurt the baby to have that name - people have become very successful in life with odd names - so it's not that important that you tell her. And it's not worth risking the friendship or hurting her feelings.
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thanks
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@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
My point of view is, that is their baby, and they have every right to decide what name they want to give their baby, regardless if it's a terrible name or not. They don't have to impress anyone or listen to what anyone would say about their baby's name because that's their decision, and we, as friends should just try to respect that. I do not know how you and your friend treat each other or are to each other, he/she might get offended if you say you think it's terrible, but on the other hand, if you have an honest relationship with her and can talk to her about anything, then she might not get offended. However, I'll tell you this, it's really none of our business, really, what name they want to give their child. And there's nothing that we can do anymore as the baby has been named already.
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thank you for your comment. You are right.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
I wouldn't say anything too harsh! Everyone was completely rude to us when we shared our kids names before they were born so it can be very hard. Becarefull what you say and just remember that they are the parents and maybe they feel the child will live up and become there name!
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@LindaLou (483)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
Only if you can do it very gently. My friend picked a name I didn't like either so I tried to "gently" get my ideas across to her without seeming intrusive. She had picked Kaylene. I would suggest alternative names similar to this. When we talked about the baby I would play dumb and say something like "Oh, what are you naming her again, Kyla, right? That's so pretty." Of course then she would correct me, and say, "but Kyla is pretty too." She ended up changing it a bit and naming her Kayla. I never told her I didn't like the name, simply tried to give her other ideas without seeming too obtrusive and nosy. After all, it's her baby, not mine.