would you agree in "living-in" before marriage?

@abi1005 (194)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 8:09pm CST
or would you insist on marriage first? personally, i am not against in live-ins..nowadays, the number of unsuccesful marriage is growing so fast. there are lots of divorces happening everywhere. i believe this is because most of couples are being surprised by the unwanted personalities of their partners. before marriage they would think they had the best partner. but after living in one house, they would discover that they married a monster or worst.
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@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I have nothing against living in too especially nowadays. I have known my bf for almost 2 years now but we never lived in together. We did spent like weeks or so together and then from there...I realized that you don't really need to lived in together to get to know the person. As long as you are true to yourself and you are showing the real you during those 24/7 then you don't need to worry about your partner changing after marriage. Of course living together with the blessing of the Lord is much more better.
@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
thanks for sharing..
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@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
"Living-in" is not the solution in order to really know your partner before marriage. There are other methods of understanding/knowing your partner other than this. If need be, pay attention to all the details your partner has everytime the two of you are together. Frequent visit to his/her house will also help you understand what he/she is like when at home.
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@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
thanks for the response.. :)
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• Philippines
31 Jan 07
i don't think we should treat marriage like an experiment, if it didn't work out try with another again. i believe that there are many other ways on how to know each others character, spend more time together to test their compatibility.
@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
i also agree with you..there are more ways to know your lover well..
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• United States
25 Jan 07
My husband and I lived together for two years before we got married. I think that it is a very good idea if two people are serious about their relationship, you should live together for a little while first to be sure that when everyone else is gone and your true colors come out that you and your partner can handle each other's flaws.
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@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
i agree with you...thanks for the response..
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@bison007 (254)
• Indonesia
25 Jan 07
I don't agree with living in before marriage, really most of this just bring you more problems. You tend to do something across the border if you live together with your partner, and most of couple just make an excuse like what you said, to know better your partner.
@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
thanks for your opinion..you are also right..anyways, all of us has its own stand regarding living in..let's hear other's opinion..thanks..:)
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