How long does it take to recover from a heartache?

Love and letting go - Love and let go!
United States
January 25, 2007 12:55am CST
Breaking up is the hardest part of a relationship. After being broken hearted, you have to let go and move on. Have you been broken hearted before? Do you remember how long does it take for you to recover or to get over that person?
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
1 Feb 07
It all depends on the relationship but I would say about a year. It could be very hard and painful. You must adjust to the seperation and that takes time. Wouldn't it be nice if we all could be happy always and never feel any pain?
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I know! Thanks for your response!
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
26 Jan 07
It took me 3 years to completrly get over arelationship that lasted 4 monthes. That was My first broken heart. Then I met someone - not another relationship, but a very special friendship and that's what cured it. But I didn't get another girlfriend for 17 years - and that one lasted 4 monthes. 6 years later, I found the one I'm currently with. we've been together for 5 years. This one is here to stay!
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• Philippines
26 Jan 07
It will take some time. For me it have taken atleast 3 months to get over the heartachs i have to get my self busy so that i would not think about it anymore. It also helps being with your friends. and always that life do goes on. and down the road you may find the one you are looking for.
• United States
26 Jan 07
Thanks for sharing!
@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
25 Jan 07
Sometimes it's gonna be about one year, sometimes half year...Whenever is heart broken, You need a time for recover. For me it's one year or more that's what I need for recover...
• United States
25 Jan 07
Thanks for sharing. It took me a while also to recover from past heartaches.
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@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
25 Jan 07
Well, the best is to work something or to have some hobby.. to put your minds on somewhat else.
@abi1005 (194)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
i got broken hearted wiht my first bf. it took me 2 yrs to recover from the pains and tears. we ended up not-so-good. until now we are not talking with each other. it is really hard to forgive and forget esp. when you loved that person sincerely and you made him your only world. but i guess that's how life goes..when we love, we get hurt.
@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
19 Apr 07
Yes i have been broken hearted before and sometimes it can take a very long time. I find the time varies depending on alot of different factors about the relationship. Factor like how long u are together was it a bf or a husband i never lost a husband but i know someone who did and i dont know if she will ever get over the lose and the way she lost made a difference to cause they did not break up he passed suddenly at a young age. So you see every cause is different you just have to look at yours and see what you think.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
Broken hearts lasts as long as you allow them to. It's never easy to move on especially when you've shared so much time with the person you've learned to love with all your heart. But not doing anything to stand up and walk again is wrong. We all need to help ourselves. It took me 12 long years to forget my first love. But it doesn't mean I had to suffer that long. The heartache lasts only for some time but I went on loving him even if we're not together.
@pirtlems (245)
• United States
25 Jan 07
i think it depends on the situation. some people never get over it.
@jen_2006 (85)
• United States
26 Jan 07
It just really depends, I'm still not over completely over this guy I dated in high school, we got engaged when I was 17 but it didn't work out... I don't think that there is any set time scale at all, its just a process of little by little, but I don't know that you will ever be able to say that you are completely over anyone. Sry.
• Indonesia
25 Jan 07
For me need a year to recovery... but it depend on how deep is the love...:) some ppl can just a month, some can more than a year...:)
@jessalou (69)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
I have been brokenhearted twice several years back. I couldnt remember exactly how long it took me to recover from those heartbreaks but i think it's at least a year. That's how long! It depends on the person; on how much love and involved he or she is in the relationship. If it was just a fling or not so serious, then it could be easily gotten over with. But if it was first love or a serious relationship then it would be hard to recover. I remembered the second heartbreak when i would fall asleep from crying would wake up each day asking myself if it was just a nightmare. I wouldnt even listen to the radio because i didnt want to hear any love songs or watch tv and see things that would remind me of him. it was really hard, until i realized that it was all up to me to move on and forget the pain. falling in love with someone takes time but accepting that that someone had walked out of your life takes a longer time. Acceptance is the first step and the hardest part. The rest would just be easy. Doing things that i like or keeping myself busy also helped a lot. Making new friends and acquaintances also made me realize that there are other beautiful things in life and other bigger reasons for living.