would you leave your family for money?

Philippines
January 25, 2007 6:52pm CST
we filipinos are known for family ties.. we really value our relatives that's why we have the extended families at home.. but what if you dream of having your own house, car and education for family and the only way to do that is to go abroad for a greener pasteur...would you leave your family?
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16 responses
• United States
26 Jan 07
Family is most important to me, I would not leave them for any amount of money. Family is happiness and money cant buy you happiness in the long run.
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
yeah.. i go for you!
@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
i need money for my family. i think i can do this if i will be able to provide more for my family. i have always wanted to work abroad too. i think when the right opportunity comes, i will grab it.
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@toonatoons (3739)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
life in the philippines can be harsh, making it very tempting to go to other countries in search of greener pastures --- even if it meant leaving one's family behind. some people claim they do this in order to survive. it is alarming and sad to see so many children growing up without a mother or a father or both. i don't blame parents who feel the need to leave the country. they might only have the future of their family in their minds for doing so. but in the end, i personally don't think it would be worth it when they see their children after so many years not knowing who they are. i think that it is still possible to make ends meet without having to sacrifice family ties.
@123006 (40)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
yeah i will. i'm also a pinoy and i'm sure my parents will get so freakin' mad at me if i won't. but that's what i hate about some pinoys, they always think that the greener pasteur is abroad. i still believe that i don't have to leave the country just to have a good future. there's future here in the philippines. it just depends on how you look at it, your plan, your strategy, your focus on your goal. No I am not a businessman. I am just a salary man. yes wages abroad are much higher compared here but i can manage to achieve what i dream of locally. i don't think id be happy working without going home to my family regularly.
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@chumm525 (169)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
if there's an opportunity why not, it doesnt mean that you dont love your family any more. The reason for me leaving them is for them to have a better life and to give them a better future specially my children. there are lots of opportunity in other country for us to give our family a better future rather than here in our country, i say it so because in oher country they are in particular whether you are a college graduate or not as long as you can work you can have a job and as long as you have a skill you can have a work there and most of them there is paying high to teh blue collar jobs than here. and we have many jobs waiting there than here.
• Canada
26 Jan 07
I would. If I was in that situation like many are, I would escape poverty and make money in a new life, then bring my relative over to enjoy it with me. Many people do this. Or they send money back to their families
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
thats another way..
@koltrone (264)
• United States
26 Apr 07
You're not actually leaving your family, leaving I think is you're not coming back, you are only going abroad to to be able to give them a better life that they never had. Its true that Filipinos as known for being so close with their family, but in my case I need to leave my family to be with my husband abroad and my kids to grow up where they belong but of course they will still have the Filipino culture in them.
@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 07
if its for my future and my family hapiness then why not? because i finaly decide to work abroad for better life and for my family sake
@threena (132)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
If I was single, I would. Going abroad if the opportunity comes is not a means of abandoning your family, it just happens that we have to leave them temporarily to be able to provide for them. But as a mom, I don't think I can, I'm not strong enough. With the things kids go through life growing up, I can't risk leaving them. What if they get sick? What if they ask you to come home that very hour because they're lonely or what if they get in trouble. I don't think I'd survive it.
• India
27 Jan 07
1) going abraod that does not means u are living ur family . u want to go abroad for u good future and family too. 2) if any person go abroad and forget their realtives and reside their for ever than it is different things . i also go for first option . thanks
@janjabu (110)
• Qatar
27 Jan 07
i actually kinda did..but i do get to see them once a month. or at least i did, but now i think i'm not gonna be getting any manila flights soon. but anyway the money's good and the benefits are nice. my whole family gets unlimited 90% off on tickets from most airlines, which is great cos my parents love to travel :) i guess it really just depends on the opportunity. mind you, i cried my eyes out at the airport on the day i left, and my sisters' eyes were all red as well. we're a very tight bunch, and i miss them terribly. but knowing that i am currently able to give them whatever they want (i'm sending them to paris in june to watch the french open) somehow makes up for the time apart.
@ravi394 (14)
• India
27 Jan 07
No, i will not leave my family for money. How can i leave them who was with me when i am sad, when i need a fried in mostly all matter they helped me sorting them out. So i can't leave them.
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I would in exhnage of a brighter future for my family i would sacrifice anything for them to have a better life.
@hellboi (662)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
at first glance to your question, the answer is a big NO because i thought you are really leaving your family for money and you are not coming back, you are taking off with someone rich hehe but of course since you are leaving your family temporarily and the primary reason for earning that much money is for them then it is a different story. in dire situations, reality offers us anything but fairy tale scenarios. admit it or not life's choices are not clear cut, wherein you can choose between A and B, but as you see when you soon decide to choose there can be a lot of compromises. so what i am saying here is it is never bad to leave your family so that you can offer them a better future but again there are consequences to that. it is also not bad if you stay with them and making every effort to live each day without the certainty of a good future and there are also consequences to that. so we take compromises, just be sure though that everyone in your family understands which part of them they need to forego in that compromise deal so that as one family you will attain your goals
@maumbi (2571)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 07
is depend where you come from, so another country may no problem leave they familiy for what ever the reason. so iam come from indonesia, its ok leave my family and never think about anything cozin this world any technology we can use to stay in touch with our family.BUT not to long if we leave it.
@maumbi (2571)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 07
is depend where you come from, so another country may no problem leave they familiy for what ever the reason. so iam come from indonesia, its ok leave my family and never think about anything cozin this world any technology we can use to stay in touch with our family.BUT not to long if we leave it.