What would you do if your best friend tells you he/she loves you?
By eflynazwa
@eflynazwa (133)
Malaysia
January 25, 2007 8:33pm CST
Yesterday out of the blue, my best friend tells me he loves me. I'm trying to figure out why so suddenly.
I really have this huge crush on him. But he still got his girlfriend. I'm pretty close with her too. I told him I don't want to hurt his girl. Then he tells me he can't help keeping it to himself anymore, that before he started dating the girl he was too shy to ask me out.
Way back then he used to be dumped before, so he told me that he never think he would fall in love again. That made me feel awkward to make the first move. A year after that, he started dating the girl so I set my feelings aside.
Now he suddenly tells me he loves me, it makes me all so confused.
I do so love him. But I don't want to hurt the girl.
Maybe it's something fishy, but I can't imagine he would try to use me or something.
4 responses
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 07
my opinion, he just want to play with your feeling. mybe he can saw that u r love him too. but at the same time, he didnt want to let her gf. this guy just want to see ur true feeling and after u accept it..what would happend?? u must think of yourself first then others.. if u r not so sure with what happend now, just ignore him. carry on your life and dont think about him anymore. just accept that he just your best friend not more than that.
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@eflynazwa (133)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 07
maybe you're right, even if i know him so well there's possibility that he's just playing with my feelings.
then how can I see how genuine he is?
@Beowulf (551)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Just talk to him normally like nothing happened. Dont let this thing destroy your friendship. You can confront him and ask him what he really wants from you. He may open up and tell everything he had in mind. Well, if he does you can now assess how you should respond, dont react. Take it as a normal conversation and after that give him time to get his composure, then ask him how he feels after telling all thats in his mind. Maybe, just maybe, he may regain his normal conciousness and know that his just starting to get crazy or getting delirious.
Its all up to you now, this is just a suggestion. You can accept or reject this.
Regards.
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@eflynazwa (133)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 07
I do talk normally with him. When he tries to bring up the subject I listened but I never answered. I don't think I want to play with fire, I think he just got some sort of relationship panic. His girlfriend told me that they're getting married, anyway I'd rather not risk myself in this. It'll hurt too much to handle.
@cari_lewis (21)
• United States
5 Mar 07
this is funny. only because i am with my bestfriend now. we have been very close for about 3 or 4 years now. well about 2 years ago we all of a sudden tried to make it a even closer relationship. and OMG let me tell you it's freakin awesome. i guess because he knows me so well for the simple fact that we were friends first. like the simple things that boyfriends usually never pick up on he knows them all. i think maybe you should just talk things out but you have to make sure that you both understnad that you were friends before you tried to work on a closer relationship and if you all are better friends then make sure you make an aggrement that this cannot ruin your friendship. good luck keep me posted
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@ihsanul_aniq (1118)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 07
Not all gentlemen will play with women hearts. When women approach me saying that she love me, i gently said no and give my reason for not hurting. I know it still but how should i do about that, it will be hurting more if i'm not tell the truth anyway. For me, i make a step first in approaching my partner, the she said to give her some time to think about it. Men is always do and try hard for getting what he wants until it gets.
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@Beowulf (551)
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
Generally, men say that they love you because they really do or they just want to say it to relieve their feelings.
Maybe you should ask the guy if he still feels the same. Can he give up his relationship with his girlfriend and to love you. This is a hard decision.
Or maybe, he's just playing with you. Sometimes, when a guy finally got a girlfriend or managed to have one, they intend to have another one. Its like they feel that they are invincible, they can court another girl and make her fall for him. Most of the time, that intuition eats most men's way of thinking. They build overconfidence.
I think you should cross examine the guy or even conduct your own investigation.
