What Is Your Birth Order? and What Affect (If Any) Has It Had On Your Life?

@devideddi (1435)
United States
January 25, 2007 9:04pm CST
I am the youngest of 7 children. This defanitly affected my life. By the time my parents had me they had been through so much of everything with the first 6 nothing I did was new or original to them. They were not strict with me at all and I could do just about anything without being noticed. I don't dwell on it or anything like that but it still affects me at my age.
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@Celanith (2327)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I am the eldest of four as well as the eldest grandchild of all the grandkids on both sides. Yes everyone looks to me for help, advice and more.
@msqtech (15074)
• United States
1 Feb 07
the eldest was the one every adult learned from the misteaks they make raising and change for the younger ones
• United States
27 Jan 07
I'm also the youngest of three, i have two older brothers and it has affected my life also. It was the same for me, my parents had seen it all and done it all by the time i came along , i was very spoiled and very close to my father and not so much with my mother. They were never strict with me and i definetly took advantage of that as a teenager and did lots of things i should'nt have done and i have a feeling that this will affect my life forever.
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@leedug (920)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I'm in the same boat as you. I was born the youngest of five children. Not only had my parents already been through it all, but they were of course more older, patient, and mature. I got away with things that my older siblings wouldn't have even dreamed of getting away with. However, I've always wanted a younger brother/sister and never had one, so there is always a trade off. Also, when I wanted to go do big kid stuff with the older ones, I never could !
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@stailgate (2363)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I am the middle child. I have one sister that is three years older then me, and I have a brother that is 16 years younger then me. So growing up it was just my sister and I. We got along okay. When I was 5 my parents got divorced and my sister went with my dad and I stayed with my mom. I didn't see allot of her after that till i got older and we started hanging out again. We have totally different lives, but we are there for each other. Then when i was sixteen my mother had my brother. So I was more of a babysitter then a sister. I had my daughter when my brother was 2 1/2 so I treat him more like a son then I do my brother. So life was good. i have siblings, but for the most part I was an only child!!!
@devideddi (1435)
• United States
27 Jan 07
wow stailgate that was a good story! I guess you could say you kinda got the best of both worlds. hhmmm, I should be able to make a book out of our stories, especially if the rest of responses are good as yours. I see brokentia below your post, i know she's gonna have a good one. Thanks!
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I don't have any birth order. Because I am the only child of my parents. I think this is cool. I get the whole attention. I always wonder though how they feel who have 4-5 siblings, even more than that.
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• United States
27 Jan 07
I am the youngest of 5. Being the youngest I got almost everything I want. I am also the youngest of my mother's grandchilder. I gotaway with more things than anyone else.
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@msqtech (15074)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I am the oldest and it does make a difference in the way you socialize and adjust to things
• United States
26 Jan 07
I'm an only child, no brothers, no sisters, no one to blame things on lol I never got away with nothing, guess that's why I went so wild in my 20's after leaving my parents house. Wasn't until my 30's I finally chilled out, grown up, and settled down.
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I am the youngest of 6 children, 2 boys and 4 girls. We were not so close to each other and life went on just ordinarily. My older sister the third supported me in college but as if we were strange to each other. I did not feel that I was favored because I'm the youngest.
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I am the youngest of 3 and was definitely spoiled growing up (being the baby and the only boy). I know my sisters probably wanted to kill me a few times, as, like you, I got away with quite a bit...LOL
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am the oldest of 4 and yes it has effected my life. I was always the care taker, responsible one. I still am. I am the one to take care of problems, give advice when asked etc. My parents were always harder on me but that's ok as it has helped me raise my kids. My kids and siblings still come to me when they need help or advice.
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
1 Feb 07
i am the youngest of 3. my parents where 37 and 35 when i was born. that is why they did not play with me a lot. and my brothers where 3,5 and 7 years older then me. so..
• Canada
1 Feb 07
I am the youngest in the family. Just two kids in the family though. I have one older brother. I've been told I was an accident and my mother only wanted one child. I think me comming second has really affected my life. I feel unwanted but that's do to what i've heard about my mother and how I was treated. She gave me away. I mostly grew up with other relatives, friends, and in foster homes. My brother on the other hand stayd home and had a good relationship with my mother. Guess comming second in that family wasn't fun.
@kiukitsu (291)
• Philippines
20 Apr 07
I'm the middle and i believe that it affected my attitude. My mother doesn't treat us equal.
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Hmmm...That is interesting to read the youngest of 7 children perspective. I have 7 children and I often wonder how it effects them. They are all so different! I think the youngest gets babied a lot. But he has also been though so much in his little life fighting for his life, I think he has everyone's heart wrapped around his finger! But I find he has the best reasoning skills of the younger children! Child number 6 has such compassion!!! She loves fiercely! But she also tends to be a child that is content with drawing and painting by herself. Child number 5 is very strong willed!!! I guess that is what I get for naming her Willow. ha ha But she gets to the point that she runs over others feelings. We are working on that. :) I can just imagine though what she will be like in the corporate world! Wow! Child number 4...he is smart but also spacey. You look at him and have to wonder if anyone is home. ha ha But he has a sweet heart when he wants to show it. Child number 3 is a comedian! He is a hoot! But he is also very touchy feely and not everyone likes to be touched all the time. Child number 2 is a perfectionist and very much like me. Sensitive, everything has it's place, nurturing but sometimes she can step over the sister line and tries to be mom. LOL She is such a blessing to me though...she loves spending time with me! Child number 1 is negative. I try different exercises to help him think positive and I say encouraging words. But for some reason, everything I say is shot down by him with a negative comment. Now..the reason I went through them all is so you could tell me if there is any likenesses in my 7 with the 7 (including you) siblings raised together. I am also the last of 7...but I didn't get to grow up with all my siblings. So I don't have a clue if I should be worried for my kids. ha ha Care to share you views and comparisons?
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I am the oldest, but I only have one brother. I was always the one blamed, and always held back to my brother's level it seems. Or my parents tried to keep stuff equal like that, making sure my brother wasn't behind by trying to keep me back in my activities. It didn't work entirely though. I also always seemed to get the blame for things. I didn't like being the oldest, and still don't. But the good thing is, at least I won't be the last one to leave the nest... at least, I sure hope not!
• United States
26 Jan 07
I am the youngest of 3 and it made me be best friends with my mom because my oldest siblings left me out a lot... but that's ok because I love being best friends with my mom
@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Jan 07
I am a middle child. my brother is 2yrs older and my sister is 10yrs younger. for a long time it was just my brother and i and we are very very close then and even more so now. my sister and i have a great relationship. for some reason my role has become caregiver to both of them, more like second mom. has it had an affect on my life to be the middle child, i don't know really..
@brihanna (381)
• United States
26 Jan 07
Good question. Five kids in my family. I was the middle child, but my brothers were 7 years older, so it was like I was also the oldest of the the 3 girls. It is so true, that your birth order affects your life, and it is good to know the birth order of your friends, because I think it tells so much about personalities. The Birth Order Book is a wonderful resource about such matters. I have read it more than once.
• United States
26 Jan 07
I'm the youngest of 4. I think it has dramatically affected my life. I've seen the mistakes my older siblings have made, and I try my hardest not to fall into the same traps as them. And as for my relationship with my parents, it's interesting. I'm closer to my mom, mostly becuase I'm all she really thinks she has left. I'm the baby, and I haven't left home yet (due to the high cost of living in this area, and the failure I've seen my siblings go through when moving out at the ripe age of 18). I don't like to disrespect my parents, becuase I live in their house, but they forget that I'm all grown up, so they think I shouldn't be able to do certain things that they turned their head to with my siblings. Therefore, I'm fighting a lot of battles that I wouldn't have had to if I weren't the youngest.