Is it better to admit a new relation ship with my partner?

@edujccz (929)
Philippines
January 25, 2007 9:26pm CST
One day I came home to notice my wife so silent, until such time that the silence was change to nagging then to quareling me and insisting that I have a new girl other than her. Would it be better to tell her the truth with my new relationship? What do you advice?
5 responses
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
If you love your family, you better cut the new relationship down so that you never have to admit having one to your wife, unless there is a child involved. If so, whether you like it or not, your wife deserves to know...and be ready to face the consequences.
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@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Your advice was good, if that was the case but the thing is the other way around, its only a gossip, well, it shows that my wife love me very much getting jealous is a good sign.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Hahaha!!! I thought so too... relieved to know about that though.
@jinuxnet (675)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
I think for me, its so hard to tell that i have a new girl to my wife even that i have no experienced. But before i'll give an advice, can i ask you first. Which among of the two that you love most?
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Most of the answers are very suggestive that I am doing something, actually everyone was wrong, my wife got jealous of a girl closeness to me but i have no intention but simply as friends, maybe some gossipper reach the ear of my wife , so there came the commotion.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Jan 07
Well since she alwreayd thinks you are cheating on her, you may as well come clean. What you are doing is not fair to her or the other girl. You need to come clean with your wife so that she can get tested for STDs and whatnot and she can decide what is going ot happen to your relationship.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Ha Ha Ha Ha, you make me laugh, I have nothing to admit and I am clean, Its just a gossip that my wife recieved so there was the commotion started. but really, most of the answers are vindictive sometimes. Its natural reaction of people, thanks buddy.....
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
You cannot blame your wife for being rude to you. You have to be aware that you caused her to be like that. I also couldnt blame you either if you have reasons why you did that to her. Both of you may be at fault for the downfall of your union but you can always try to work it out through a good talk or counselling. But if it really wont work now, at least be honest to her this time. If you no longer love your wife, tell her the truth. I know it hurts much but she has to accept it. we cant force the love of a person who doesnt want us anymore. Even if you'll force to be together for the sake of the kids or family reputation, you will still be living in misery all your life. As they say, the truth will set us free.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Thanks gen, you comment was good , actually, i sent that question though it happen along time ago, my wife and I are happily married, it happen one day that she got jealous, she trys to fight with me, but my consience is clear, I have no relationship with the girl, it so happen that a friend of her might have told her a gossip with no truth. I told her if she dont believe me, then we better end up our relationship rigth then, I said I am clean, but well you know before, no matter how I explain, she dont believe me, I gave her my final word, and our relationship went to normal.
@jinuxnet (675)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
i will wait your answer.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
I love my wife and were almost 25 years happily married with four kids, just simple living but were happy I tell you.