do you tend to stay friendly to your ex?
7 Mar 07
I have tried in the past to stay friendly with my ex's but it hasn't ever turned out working that way. Most of the time if I had decided to go my separate way or we had decided to go our separate ways. That I don't keep in contact with them because of how it had ended. I have had ex's try to contact me.. But instead of wanting to be friends or at least keep in touch or stay friendly with me.. They had tried to ruin things between me & my other half & the relationship we have with each other. They have said hurtful things or had just wanted me back. And instead of respecting how I had moved on & have someone who truly loves me.. They had tried to ruin the relationship that I have.. I think this is one of the biggest reasons as to why I have not been able to stay friendly with any of my ex's in my past or present. Because they either try to sabotage the relationship I have with my new partner. Or they don't have enough respect for me as a person just to let me live my life. Instead of trying to mind my own business or involve themselves. It would have been nice to have the ability to stay friendly with one of my ex's. Or even keep in contact with them but sometimes.. It's best just to move on with your life instead of trying to have them as a friend or even stay friendly with them as well. I know I have tried.. But it is not so easy when all the person does is criticize your new partner or try to involve themselves in the relationship without even taking your feelings in to consideration. I think sometimes if you have a past & it was painful.. Or if things had ended badly.. That it's extremely difficult to want to stay friendly with an ex. Especially if they truly had hurt you or are not the person you had expected them to be.. Sometimes after a relationship has ended you see there true colors.. And realize if you couldn't be in a committed relationship with them.. That it would be extremely difficult to even have them as a friend or to even stay friendly or in contact with them.. At least this is what I had found personally due to my experiences. In conclusion.. I have tried to stay friendly with my ex's. But it has only helped to cause problems when it comes to the relationship I am in now. I would much rather keep in contact with people who want to see me happy. And have respect for me as a person, along with my feelings.. Or even my current partner. I find a lot of the time there is a reason as to why someone is my ex.. And I think sometimes just letting them go on with there own life.. And them allowing me to go on with my own life.. Is the best choice to make instead of trying to stay friendly with an ex.. As I have found it's impossible to do so sometimes.. And it's not worth the headache! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
• United States
26 Jan 07
I dated a guy off and on for 4 years. We became really good friends more than anything. I am married now but I do still talk to my ex now and then. He usually calls me. My husband doesn't really like it so I keep our conversations short and limited. I do still care about my ex as a friend and I love to hear what is going on in his life.