are step mothers good with other peoples children

Step parents I think in a lot of cases have jealousy to deal with, I know of a few who don't like sharing the love of the person they are with plus there can be resentment coming from the childrens side of things as to them no-one can replace their parent in that role...

This is hard to know unless you are involved personally and live in the home. When another person steps in place of one of the parents in a home, it is a hard thing to deal with for both the child and the new parent. Sometimes it does feel like the step parent hates you, because you as a child are not looking for a new mother and when they step in and tell you to do something, it is unwelcomed parenting for sure. Then you also feel as if you have to accept the new mother whether you want to or not, and maybe you as a child do not want her there at all because most children want their parents to be together. There is competition for attention, and there is resentment sometimes, too. It is also possible that the step parent is trying their best, and not doing a very good job. Parenting is not easy, and certainly harder when the child is a step child. It is possible that the step parent is being mean because they resent taking on the parenting role, or they hate the ex-wife and the kids remind them of her. There are many possibilities to the complaints, but you can't know what is behind it if you don't live there in the home yourself. The only thing you can do is try to be compassionate and tell them you wish you could be more helpful, but since you aren't living in the same house it is hard for you to give good advice. Don't assume they are trying to get attention and blow off their complaints. They are real complaints to them even if it may not be a whole truth complaint. You don't have to solve anything for them, just be a good listener, they just want someone to care. You don't have to believe everything and think they live with a villian to be able to care about what they are saying. I have been in their shoes, and now that I am older I know my step parent was trying their best. They just weren't very good.

There cannotbe general tag that all step mothers are bad. I know several step mothers who have their own children and give more attention to the other's children. There are step mothers who cannot bear children and look after other's children as their own. There could be one or two rotten apples in a apple tree.