are you in a rut? how do you know and how do you get out?

I do feel sometimes life is so dull..And when i get too emotional,i started to burst into tears..Then i try to console myself that life would be great if i cut all the disappointments and try to work for something which really change my life and future.Nobody is perfect in life..then i be back to my normal.If not me decide my future,no one can help me.

I do feel like my life is in a rut. I have allowed my children to run my life for the last year or more. I have to take back my life. For example, tonight I went to bingo. My daughter wanted to go out and she wanted me and my husband to babysit. I told her to bring the baby over closer to bed time because I would be gone and he wouldn't have to worry about changing diapers. She said why do you have to go to bingo, you went last night. For once I stood up for myself and told her it was none of her business when I went to bingo and not to mention it again.

I always need something to look forward to so that I don't get stuck into a rut, it is so easy to fall into this trap as I do very often, I find that there is no way out and I tend to feel sorry for myself, it especially happens in the Winter months. I go to the gym a lot to release my frustrations which helps a lot, it gets me out, I meet people and feel a whole letter better. I am not working at the moment and I am trying hard to get a job but keep facing disappointments, so it is easy to fall into a rut each time if I didn't have the gym to go to or something to look forward to.

I have never ever felt my life is in a rut. There is always something new to see, do or try. Even if it is just a new recipe, educate myself on an interesting topic, volunteer with the - activities department in a nursing home, animal shelter, read to children at the local library. For me the problem is too much to do and not enough hours in a day to do them all.

What is easiest for me is to go back and review my list of goals and choices. I have a list of all the things I want in my life. If I am in a rut, I go back and review my list and then think about ways to work toward my goals. There are always new ways to look at things and new discoveries to be made.

I find I feel like I'm in a rut when I don't keep myself in check. I have trouble if I try to schedule myself to rigid. But, have found that I need to at least organize enough that I know the direction that I'm heading. I need to keep rechecking to make sure what I'm doing is working.If it isn't I have to rework things. Otherwise, my life feels overwhelming and I feel stuck.