What do you think of me?

@BunGirl (2638)
United States
January 27, 2007 1:16pm CST
I've had a number of people here tell me that I'm rude. In fact, there's an entire thread floating around out there about just how mean I am and myLot should kick me out and all that kind of nonsense. I've always thought of myself as a reasonably nice person,. So I'm wondering, from what you've read of me here on myLot, am I really as mean and horrible as these people say? Please be honest. You won't hurt my feelings, no matter what you say. I just like to know how I am perceived.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I honestly can't say that I have had any comments from you that I have perceived as rude or offensive. And the fact that you have best responses, I would think would be a good indication that you are not perceived by everyone as being mean. I know there have been times that someone did not like my opinion. But I have never attacked anyone and their personal beliefs. I have once been accused of being rude but I think it was a matter of mis-interpretation. I have run across many people here that were rude but I can't say that I have been subject to that from you. :) If someone is posting a discussion using your user name to finger you out as being rude, then you have every right to report that discussion! It is strictly against myLot guidelines to name a specific user with derogatory comments. Feel free to private message me the link and I will also report the discussion. I do not believe that anyone has the right to pin point anyone in a discussion to belittle them or make derogatory comments about their views! THAT is rude and offensive! So please, do not take what they say personally. I have run into some pretty rude characters myself here and in turn, I have had some very wonderful friends that have come to my aid defending me. :) If you ever need backup, just private message a friend asking for help. :) And for those few that have defended me...Thank you!!!!
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Yeah, that's the thing. She didn't use my name outright, just quoted me so I would know it was me. Not really anything I can report... Thanks for the kind words though.
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@shogun49 (437)
• United States
27 Jan 07
BunGirl, I'm not one of them. You are okay with me, never had any problems with you being a mylot person, Honest.
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Glad to hear it. Thanks!
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@AskAlly (3625)
• Canada
27 Jan 07
I was the one that asked if I could join your friends list. I chose my friends carefully. I don't understand! What's not to like? I'm going to find that thread and put my 2 bits worth in.
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Seriously, don't bother. It's not worth the harassment you might get if you disagree with the person who posted it...
• United States
28 Jan 07
No, I checked out a few of your discussions, I don't think that you're rude. I think you are just telling it like it is. I especially enjoyed the color post. I'm was glad to see that most people actually did read your post, but it was clear some did not. Now, I'm off to find the thread about you. LOL.....NOT
@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I appreciate you taking the time to check. Glad to hear I don't come off as rudely as some people seem to think I do!
• United States
28 Jan 07
no problem, I was actually hoping to see an all out down and dirty soap opera like discussion. LOL
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@moonmage (148)
• United States
27 Jan 07
I'm new so I'm not sure if I've read anything else you've written yet. However, it's probably like anything else. Someone got offended by something you said, took it personally, and decided to tell how 'awful' a person you are. You seem to be an upfront, honest, (but friendly) sort of person. Some people really don't want to hear the truth.
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Thanks. I would think the same thing, if it was just one person who said this, but it came from a few different people.
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@felicas83 (311)
• Ecuador
28 Jan 07
I am new on this site, i've been for about 4 days in here, but i don't think you're so rude, at least not of what you have responded and i have seen. Maybe that's the way you're, you like to be direct, and some people find it rude, but that is their problem not yours
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@debny711 (264)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I don't know you either. I am fairly new here. If I see someone rude I just don't respond to them. DOn't worry about me.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I think you are a person you is not afraid to say your point of view. Some people dont like it or may be the way you express yourself is not cool. Sometimes, i also get this from some people saying i am rude. I will tell anybody what i feel and thats the true feeling and view i have about the situation. May be at that instant they dont like it, but ultimately, i am proven right. So my advise to you, dont stop being true to yourself. It may have minuses, but also a lot of plusses. Take care.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Sorry i didnt say this before. I have never thought about you like that and never come across any rude remarks from you. Your responses to my discussions were very much appreciated.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
28 Jan 07
I have seen your name a few times in discussions, and I don't recall you being rude... You probably just tell it like it is and some people don't like that. Off the top of my head I can only think of one person who I have seen really outright rude responses from, but when I checked the other comments on this persons profile they were not all like that so I really didn't think it was worth mentioning. Perception is the key. How you perceive something when you are typing it out and how someone else perceives it when they are reading it are sometimes very different. Also, emotions at the time play a big part in it too. Happy Posting!
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
"Perception is the key. How you perceive something when you are typing it out and how someone else perceives it when they are reading it are sometimes very different." That's exactly why I started this post... I don't perceive my comments as being mean or rude. If I did, I wouldn't post them. I just always wonder how someone else perceives what I type. Quite frankly, I'm a bit overwhelmed right now! I really expected some folks to have a go at me, just because they can... Just further proof that the majority of the folks here at myLot ROCK.
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
27 Jan 07
You've never been rude to me. Wow, you have a thread being posted about you, huh? You must have made an impression on somebody here, lol. Well at least they won't say you're boring. Your discussions at least generate some kind of passion. No, I don't think you are mean at all.
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
27 Jan 07
Yeah, I guess I did make an impression! LOL Thanks!
• United States
31 Jan 07
That is crazy! I have not read anything of yours that I thought was rude. I've liked all the discussions of yours that I've read. YOu're probably just honest and people can't handle that.
@fedge098 (1330)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
BunGirl is the first person here in myLot community who earned my respect. People should be more open-minded when it comes to her points of view... =)
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Awww... thanks fedge! Glad to hear I'm making a positive impact on at least some folks!
• India
28 Jan 07
I dont think u have been rude...well atleast not till now lol. but why hear to them? it's not what they think about you , its what you think about urself. if u begin to worry about others comments u will stay back in ur life and anyways different people has different types of style. so chill out and be cool
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Oh, it's not so much that I'm worried about them... just curious!
@awaliyah (165)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
im sorry to mylot because my connection internet down and make error posting here,so send multy message in one times and with same content,this i do not intend. yes u nice parson,how about me?
@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Honestly, I think this is the first thing you've posted that I've ever seen, so I really don't know much about you.
@Jimbos (10)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Are you aware the most impotantthing when you first me someone new is that the FIRST impression you give off will be a lsting one. I wish you would have in the back of your mind two or three things when you are about to meet a person ONE: Do onto others as you would have them do unto you, SECOND look into the person's eyes and smile with a deep feeling THREE Be sincsre when you say something. You sound like to me a very nice person and I would love to meet you. Love and Respect to YOU Jimbo
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
28 Jan 07
That's the funny thing about the internet -- they can't tell if you're smiling. ;) Thanks for the compliments though!
@magnel (2263)
• India
30 Jan 07
I don't think you can be that rude... it is all based on the type of comment you leave for others... people can't see you here, obviously they will judge you based on your comments... so you got to think about comments left by you and you will get your answer... hope this answer your question...
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• Canada
28 Jan 07
I have not been a member of mylot for very long and this is the first one of your posts that I have read. It seems to me that people must be judging you on your opinions or the discussions you have started. I think that everyone has the right to their own opinions and for people not to like you cause of what you have written is bull. I don't think that mylot would kick you off for speaking your mind.
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@MissGia (955)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Your A OK in my book Buns. I myself have nevr considered you rude and whatnot nor read anything i percieved that way..and why do people get all bent out of shape over people and their behavior on the internet..Its the internet..its our biggest portals to using our loveley freedom of speech..so who cares if you or someone else comes off as rude.lol people....
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• India
29 Jan 07
i say you are percieving good dont worry about what people say you cannoy go further i mean do have time to buy all what people say so dont worry what people say just keep goin and keep your motives right that's about it and you have won the ball game. And keep a watch on your actions and deeds that you are pleased with. and so my friend keep it goin all the best.
• United States
30 Jan 07
I am not sure that I have even read your post. I am defiantly going to now and then I will comment again after doing so. I will be back to comment in about ten minutes or so.I am very honest so you don't have to worry about me lying to you.
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@wesderby (178)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I'll admit, I've been on MyLot for less than a month...You were one of the first people added to my friends list, and I've read a lot of your discussions as well as seen your replies to other discussions. So far, I haven't seen anything remotely mean that you've written, so from my perspective, the criticism by other members is completely unwarranted.