Being a single mom.

United States
January 28, 2007 6:48am CST
Is it really that hard? Any tips for me?
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11 responses
@julie0825 (1415)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
no as long as you have a job and a supportive family to look after your kids while youre on work -
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• United States
11 Feb 07
agreed
• Kenya
28 Jan 07
Do you already have the baby or are you just contemplating? You can't do it all by yourself. You'll need alot of family and friends to support you. Especially the males side cuz everyone needs a male influence in their lives. Then trust in God to protect the baby against molesters. Good luck.
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yes you can do it by yourself I did. and it's not easy, but it can be done. My daughter never had a male influence in her life, just me, and she is just fine. My family is very proud of me for raising my daughter on my own.
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• United States
30 Jan 07
Bieing a single mother is hard work I will not lie to you. I have been a single mother for 9 years, my daughter is now 12. I have raised her for her whole life. You will have some good days and some bad days, but when they get older you will look back and be the proudest parent you cold be. No one is a perfact parent and trust me you don't want tp be perfact. just take it one day at a time and you will do good. When they are an adult, they will thank you for the way you raised them.
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@waynet (2650)
30 Jan 07
I might as well be a single parent as all the things get left down to me to do like the cooking and cleaning and all the other things that is associated with being the modern house husband, so the only best tip is wait until the kids grow up and leave home then all will be balanced in the world. But my tips are not the best of helpful tips as knowing my run of bad luck, my kids'll leave home and I'll jump high into the air shouting freedom and land under a bus.
• Canada
29 Jan 07
In some ways being a single mom is very hard as you are the only parent they have. Financially it means probably never being able to make ends meet, so you just have to do the best you can and try to survive it. In my case, being a single mom was better for my kids even though they didn't have everything the wanted, but they had everything they needed. Their father was very abusive, so not having him around was definitely better for them. The only advise I can give you is to do the best you can, don't beat yourself up if you can't do it all and survive it!
@armywifey (883)
• United States
28 Jan 07
Or course it is hard. You have a child that you alone are responsible for and you have to work to make money top support them. You can't rely on child support from the father because they usually don't pay like their supposed to. You work and your child gets sick so you have to take off work because you are the only one to care for them. It is not impossible to do and thousands of women do it every single day, sometimes working full time and going to school to better themselves. You have to do what you feel is right in your own situation.
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• Australia
28 Jan 07
I am a single mum and proud of it too. I have 2 boys aged 12 and 7. I was with the 12yo's father until he was 2. I found the stress had gone and our son came out of it well. I did suffer a real down time when he was 9 months old but this went when I became single. My 7yo son's father left to go out for the night when I was 32 weeks pregnant and I never saw him again. I found that parenting is less stressful being on your own and whilst my children are young, things will stay that way!!
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Being a mom is hard in general.. Being a single mom is harder- You are basically everything to your child. But it's doable and you will be fine- Love your child- give them all you can- teach them well.. You both will be ok. There are alot of people out there to help you... Check into aid if needed. Get an education because that will only better both of your lives. Let family help-- A great family is one of the best resources for single parents. Good luck!
• United States
8 Feb 07
It'll be hard, but possible. I think the #1 piece of advice: Don't forget who you are! You're not just a mom. You were your own person before you became a mom. You may not have much time for yourself anymore, but even if its just 10 minutes that you can sneak away and sit in peace do it! Take a bubble bath after the kids go to bed...the dishes can wait until tomorrow.
@starr4all (2865)
8 Feb 07
I haven't experienced it yet but my husband did. The year I was stuck in Korea he took care of our then 5 month old. He said it was really hard. There wasn't much time for just him. He had a hard time with it. Others may not. You just need to find a good babysitter so you can have some time for yourself, whether to just relax or just to clean the house.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I've experienced it myself, but I know women that went through it and they survived it. It's hard from the beginning, but once you get situated, it does get better and easier for ya.