should i marry him..?

Romania
January 28, 2007 7:07am CST
i would share my situation with you...maybe i will get some advice. my boyfriend is much older tha me, but he is very nice to me and also to my friends...and loves me extremely much. i also love him, but what about the big age difference? should i marry him or just move on...it would be terrible. i am helpless...what to do?
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@cheenlly (3482)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
the question is what is really important to you the age or the love? are you happy with him? can you live without him? answer that and think things over because for me personally age doesnt matter for me. the important thing is the love that we feel to each other.
• India
28 Jan 07
yes,i agree with you.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
29 Jan 07
true. if you can't live without him and if you will forever fill the emptiness without him in your life, then don't think about the age difference. go on and love him and let him love you.
• Sri Lanka
29 Jan 07
I agree with u ! da thing is....... Love is greater dan da age I guess..... Am i correct ???
@pbalint (52)
• Romania
29 Jan 07
how big is the age difference betwen you?
• Romania
29 Jan 07
how old are you?
• Romania
29 Jan 07
as you can see i m 24...he is much older, than me...almost twice...
• Romania
29 Jan 07
if you really love him and he really loves you too, there is nothing that can stay in your way, but if you have doubts now you better solve them before is to late
@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 07
You didn't say what is the age difference... If it's not more than 10 years, I think it will be ok.. I suggest You not to hurry with this decision. Time will show You the way... Anyhow love is most important...
• Romania
29 Jan 07
and what if it is more than 10 years...? it is in my case...
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@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
29 Jan 07
IF You are long time in relationship with him and everything is going well and You know him very well , than I wish You happy life with him.. If You feel that You'll have happiness with him , than don't wait to much.... I wish You all the best... :)
@snowflake5 (1579)
• United States
31 Jan 07
If you really love him, marry him. Age doesn't really apply to these things. My mother is 15 years younger than my Dad, but they've been married for 40 years. If you feel you have to ask the question perhaps you are not truly in love? Try to work out exactly what is bothering you about the age gap.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
How big is the sge difference? 10?20?twice as yours? My dad is 10 years older than my mom, and they still living happily till now. My frerind marry her husband with 16 year age difference, and they are very happy and contented. What problem do you envision concerning his age? I cant see any conflict. As long as you both love each other ( which you say you do ), go ahead with your plan and be happy.
@urzicutza (1972)
• Romania
30 Jan 07
why do you care so much about the age?if he loves tou and you love him back what is the problem?if you don`t feal like geting marryed and you feal that something better can come along that stop!butt is you feal that he is the one for you and you can noy posible imagine you life without him that you should be happy!!!and love him like is the last day every day!
@aksagi (413)
• India
29 Jan 07
Age is no criteria... Love,harmony,care,understanding are the keys for a relationship. Go n Get him whats wrong...
• Pakistan
29 Jan 07
well if hez caring n luving n u think tht he can liv n die 4 u then i dun think theres ny harm marrying him may b possible tht he wud a perfect choice 4 u?
@neeraj05 (211)
• India
29 Jan 07
i think if the guy is healthy and wealthy enough you buddy can go for a marriage......... ?? ?? ?? ?
@Naushil (66)
• India
29 Jan 07
i personally dont believe in marriage, but it's entirely your choice...if you have even the slightest of doubts, then don't..
@samraf (725)
• India
29 Jan 07
i think you should marry him , it dosent matter any age difference, its just the matter of understanding and the sacrifise one can make for the other... so ill suggest that you should marry him without taking so much time to decide and then after wards suffer with your decision.... so think about it .. BEST REGARDS,
• India
29 Jan 07
Age doesn't matter when u love a person. If you really love him get married. Adjustments in married life from both the partners is what marriage is all about. If you are ready to adjust after marriage u can take a step forward.
• Canada
29 Jan 07
if the age difference is the only for you then you talk to him about it. He is however apart of this relationship... if this doesn't bother as much as it should then move on..
• India
29 Jan 07
I know that the age difference used to be a problem some time ago but people don't think much of it these days and i would absolutely side the age differnce relationship specifically when the man is older than a woman it get's easier for the man to understand the woman and he does'nt make a joke of himself amoung his or her friends and also he would go out of his way to please you cos he is Older than you* I am living with my fiance who is 10 yrs older than me and as you have not mentioned how old is yr guy i'd say 10 to 12 yrs would be fine unless yr not too old yrself than it's easier to know eachother as yr both not so old to start a new family and life.. Good luck
• India
29 Jan 07
As said by others, it is your wish to marry him. Age doesn't matter before love thats what my suggestion.
@mindz_me (179)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
If you really love your boyfriend then there is no problem. Age doesn't matter. For me i more prefer to choose a guy who is older than me,most of them are more mature enough to manage a family well. Good luck to you..
• India
29 Jan 07
dear your in beautiful world of love , n the person you love also loves you dearly....then y these thoughts as long as the age difference is not more than 10 yrs , i dont even think you hav to consider moving on... can i ask you something can you really think of living without him , without seeing him, without hearing ghis voice....if this is true love then both you u wudnt be able to endure any of the above , so go ahead get urselves a life togwether full of lov n happiness
@zirgham (602)
• Pakistan
29 Jan 07
life is not for a day or year long its life long so love is not the only factor to be considered there are many others to be think about.
@minyang (303)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
in my opinion, as long as you love each other and both of you are happy when you're together, age will not be a problem coz it doesn't matter. But before you marry, still think it over because marriage is a lifetime commitment. in my case, my husband is 10 yrs. older than me and we're happily married for more than 9 yrs already with two adorable kids. i hope this helps.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Marrying somebody is not by age bracket.Marriage is a commitment.Binding 2 hearts into one!!!The fact that you love each other,then why having doubts just because of your age??? Do you really love him???If Yes, then follow your heart!!! But remember that marriage is not a game!!!Its a lifetime commitment...God Bless & Goodluck!!!