Need Parent Help

@Mecboy (1050)
United States
January 28, 2007 5:24pm CST
I have a yelling Grandma and GrandPa that curse me and yell at me relentlessly, I say im gonna clean it later. They tell me to shutup and listen to everything they say, I say okay. They keep yelling atme, Threatening me and making fun of my name my mom and dad gave me, make fun of what I do. If I have a great time in my room, they come in and yell saying you better do something else and don't say a thing, guest are downstairs I don't them hear that you are here. WHen the guest arrive I can hear my grandpa grandma sometimes call me out or say he somewhere in an alley. I need to help to survive as a kid and maybe become a nice parent. I mean its all about me when im home or not. If my grandma drops something on accident she curses me. I just im scared. They come in my room everyday making fun of my name and mom and dad, im just so scared, the only thing fun is my computer and school. OF course they yell and make me do gardening and ONE WHOLE DAY CHORES, buts thats okay. So my labtop is my safety. My dad got me it for christmas. My grandma dosn't like it, saying she rather me do some work in the backyard. When I laugh she says shutup and yells in front of my friend who comes over and says someday im gonna kick your butt out of this home. My mom and dad live in san francisco.
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@shoelover (896)
• Australia
28 Jan 07
Just wondering why you are living with your grandparents. Was it your decision or your parents decision for you to be there. To me it sounds like your grandparents don't like having you foisted upon them as they had probably done all their years of childraising. They probably don't understand the new technology of laptops either. Maybe you could help calm things down by asking your Grandma if she would like a hand with dinner or washing up ect. If you do the chores voluntarily without complaint it would give them less to complain about to you. Sit down and talk to them. Don't yell or sulk. Try to have a good relationship with your grandparents. It sounds as if they have forgotten how to laugh and love.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
yes, my dad and mom is busy working in san francisco because of an Earthquake there, they said, its safe for me to live with my grandparents.
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
oops sorry I do a lot of chores clean up after mself and everything. They tell to throw a lot of stuff i need out of my room. Sometimes if I leave heavy textbooks They sometimes throw them away in the trash. I lost my history book last year, my grandma told me she threw in the trash. I went out back to get it. I almost never complain of working except the time when my uncle asked me to come outside to help construction the home. I said, let me dress up and ill go. My grandma grandpa double yelled me and said, hurry up get off the bed, put the stuff away! go! I still like them though.
@pmgsan (149)
• India
29 Jan 07
I see shoelover have responded for the discussion in very nice manner. Now adays old people do not like to have any burdon or responsibilities on their head. They do not do any productive or usefull work.They are either relaxing or not in a position to go for any earnings,so they are getting angree on what ever they see. AS you have said,they can be passified by doing some kind of help and making them happy even if it is a matter of finance.Make them comfortable, they may get cooled. Do not loose heart.Things will be alright...
@kerbausama (1336)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 07
how rude your grandma is..i think i cant live in that way..i'll kick her a..s. ..
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
LOL, Yeah I wouldn't though sometimes I wish I could lock my door, since she comes in everytime to yell and stuff. yikes. It makes me feel weird too. Hope you are okay.!
• United States
29 Jan 07
You should seriously get out of that house. Your parents surely would not want you to suffer like that. Talk to them and let them know what's going on. It's unhealthy for you to live in such a negative atmosphere. You deserve so much more than that. Take care and good luck.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
thanks,Every time I get to go on a trip, with my other family my grandparents,sometimes others yell, and say my god you wear that, let you wear double of something else. My god its a lot. Talking to me mean. and stuff ugh. Itry to ingore but they keep coming back trying to start with me. I just ignore with earphones.
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
29 Jan 07
I know hard it can be when you all the time get yelled at. Did you have tried to ask your grandparents why they keep to yell at you, when you don't do nothing to them? Did you ever told this to your parents? I'm sure there is something you can do about it, and I think your parents can definetly help you.
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I do thanks dude, I do, but they just say, WHAT DID YOU SAY. what did you say, did you say something bad. HUH!? did you say something bad? You talk like that to me. In an extremely loud voice. When I ask a question. I just am scared. IM not mad. Then two mintues later. she goes in my room to make me wear three extra vests. no thanks, I took them off.
• Rwanda
29 Jan 07
that means you need to try out my grandma as well.cos she's like a pain in the neck.She nags every second.Its part of life.i guess they are old so they tend to behave like babies thats all...wht i will encourage you do for them is continue to obey and pray to God to give them more days on earth and that as there days increase,so shall there strengths be and pls do things that will make them pray for you and not curse you alright?
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
that is right,I always believe my grandparents shouldn't say those things and make me WEAR ALL TYPES VESTS.
@Trace86 (5033)
• United States
29 Jan 07
You should tell the school counselor. They will talk to your grandparents and tell them to stop abusing you. They will tell the police and department of children and family services and then someone will watch the situation. If it doesn't get better and they keep abusing you, you can move back in with your parents or a foster family. You shouldn't be yelled at all the time or forced to work like a slave. Talk to the authorities.
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
thanks, me working like a slave was a lot each year and some weeks. I get cursed a lot in the home. even If Listen to my earphones and listen to them like say nothing they leave and say bad stuff.
• United States
29 Jan 07
why aren't you living with your parents or they doing some thing that you can't join them yet just get you some ear plugs and put them in your ears so you can't hear them
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
1 Feb 07
thanks I do that, Except my grandma keeps talking like sneaking up on me, and keeps saying, alright? alright? this labtop your dad got you, what are you doing,what is this thing? I was like huh? it what I listen to assignments when its my freetime in the home and do homework and listen to music and mylot, what else? she said, this is a machine that should be destroyed. I listened to your advice and Pluged my earphones into the labtop and put a safe volume and forget her. She already cursing me while shes in the restroom near by. no matter WHAT IDO, I mean if I don't say anything. WHY SHE DISLIKE ME?
@jimfabo (327)
• India
29 Jan 07
hi Kid I am sure you having a hard time with your grandma yelling at you. You are just 15 and its time for you to concentrate in your study.. after a few years you will be 18 years and than its all your world. Do what you like and live life you think is good. Take care and try to spend more time in school and with your friends. Good luck jimmy
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
yup thanks jimmy, Im also gona play Valve Steam Video Games Grand Theft Auto Vice City and Aladdin games too. Ill study and get to college for now hope everything is alright.
@dynamite (74)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
Well, it seems they aren't being very mature, even though they are grandparents. They should respect your name and you because your family and families aren't suppose to be yelling and arguing all the time. I don't know what you can do because I have never heard of a situation like this one before, sorry. Maybe, you could just do what they say for a few more weeks and maybe they will leave you alone or something.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Yeah, Maybe I could try peace talks with my grandparents, Ill try to give it a try thanks though!
@prawiner (690)
• India
29 Jan 07
Oh my god, why are u listening to them, tell ur father or mother the things ur facing. I do not why ur grandparents are bad to u. Anyways tell ur father about it he will understand it much better and will surely help u.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks LOL the people here seem great to me. Yeah I should do some more talking
@sharon613 (2323)
• United States
29 Jan 07
First question- Why are you living with your grandparents who you don't get along with and not with your Folks? Secondly- you should go right away to a guidance counselor at your school and let them know what is happening.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks, But i moved from san francisco to los angeles because of earthquake precautions,my grand parents were the closest to san francisco, my mom and dad work, but whos gonna watch over me.so i had to be sent to my grandparents. My other family members are in arizona or a different country.
• United States
29 Jan 07
I'm sorry you are living with this. I do not like people yelling at me either so I do not yell at my son. He is better when people treat him nice and not with disrespect. I hope you can talk to your grandparents and tell them how much it hurts you when they make fun of you or yell at you. Also, I'm confused on why you can't come to San Francisco with your parents. You said because of an earthquake but San Francisco hasn't had any big earthquakes in awhile. I think you should talk to your parents and tell them you want to live with them. I do not know if that will help but that is what I would do. Good luck!
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks though my parents said, its better that they visit me,while my cousins and friends could have fun with me too. Most of my cousin are in los angeles. And pretty much if I live with my mom or dad, who is gonna take of care while they are at work.
@rubypatson (1842)
• India
29 Jan 07
Thats really bad and you cannot undergo this abuse for long, please share it with your parents, I am sure if they cannot have you with them for some reason, atleast you can stay in a hostel and study or do whatever you are doing
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
yeah, I gotta try to talk and help cool my grandparents down. thanks though
@Rahleah (187)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds really tough. The only thing I can really tell you is that when you are a teen, every horrible thing seems like it will last forever and seems like it is the end of the world. It's only after you've come out the other side of it and moved on that you realize it was only a small, small slice of your life ... and even if it was really crummy, it probably served some purpose. Maybe it will make you stronger. Maybe it will make you a better parent some day because you will be really senstitive to how it feels to be talked to this way. I'm not sure why you have to go through this, but I feel there's a reason. Keep your head down; keep your manners top notch; do what they say as quickly and as best as you can; keep your parents informed of what's happening; and if it somehow gets "out of control" or you have a strange feeling that you fear for your actual safety, then notify the local authorities and have them contact your parents to come back for you. Keep safe. Hang in there.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
yeah,this trouble might help me talk more often in case,If i am about to marry some girl, I could be nice to her parents! Thanks!
@carissa765 (1098)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I hate to pry, but first of all why are you not living with your parents? That would be a good piece of information.. To know why you cannot just go live with them.. But no child, grown or younger, deserves to be treated like this by any human. Noone desrves to be told they are worthless, and be made fun of and yelled at daily. That just isn't right. Maybe back when your gm and gp were growing up it was okay but certainly not in this day and age that we live in now.. My suggestion to you is to find some serious help. and maybe tell your gm and gp that they need parenting classses or some serious help to learn the errors of their ways. maybe this will help a little, but I would suggest trying to get out of there asap, because of the severe psycollogical damage that this could cause in your present and future life situations.. Not saying they are bad people, just maybe need some guidance to do what is good and right.. Hope everything goes well for you and good luck finding the help theat you and they both need severely...Because in my eyes that is boarderline abuse..
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks, well I moved from san francisco since i was three. I was born in the capital of san francisco, but When I was three, I was moved here, my mom and dad work, but no one could watch over me, so they sent me to los angeles. with my some parents.
@hariharbhat (1312)
• India
29 Jan 07
There are some people with such behaviours and there are no specific reasons for such actions.Sometimes the younger one should behave like elderly one and manager the the people who are called 'grown up' but factually they are nuisance in the family. It is your elderly people in the family.Try to manage them.You try to listen them whenever it is not harmful to you and once or twice you try to do what they say and see the results. Or else bring the matter to your parents' notice.
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks, Im gonna give that a super duper try. because i like to have a happy ever after family, wonderland.
@gabs8513 (48703)
• United Kingdom
29 Jan 07
So why won't your Mum and Dad get you to live with them it is not fair that they are putting you through this as this already goes as far as Child Abuse Have you spoke to your Mum and Dad about this if you haven't then I think you ought to and if they don't get you out of this Mess then they are to blame to I know I would never leave my Kids in that sort of A pLACE
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
yeah they know, WHen my mom is busy in college learning skin care and aromatherapy.and my dad working. Whos gonna be home to take care of me in case of an earthquake.
• India
29 Jan 07
we need parents help up to some extend........ to age of 21 .
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
LOL, i need to survive to get married.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
29 Jan 07
Have you ever thought talking with your parents about it? I wouldnt like one of my kids being treated like that. Can you move to another relative's house, like uncles or brothers? Whish you the best.
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
thanks, no one of my uncles invited me to arizona one time. No its okay, its hot and okay.
• India
29 Jan 07
i think u must talk about this with your parents.If they are yelling on you without any reason then its very disrespectful for you.Well you try and figure it out that what problem are your grandparents having of you.Whats the reason for such a cruel behaviour
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@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
29 Jan 07
I will try to find thanks though, its a wonder 2/3 of my family moved to another house.