Clingy Breastfed Baby!!

United States
January 28, 2007 9:53pm CST
Being a young mother and being married seems like somthing I am only going tru. My husband works a full time job and dont get home till the late evening. I am afraid his daughter is not going to want to spend time with him since I am with her all the time,everyday, all day long!! I am so breastfed her so she is very attached to me!! I pump so that he can feed her at times but I feel horrible because she always cry's and wants me!! I dont want him to feel left out but Formula is not in our plan what so ever!!! WHAT TO DO??
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Just give it time, soon enough, you will be the one feeling left out, children love thier daddies, there is just something about it, especially when they don't get to see them much. As she get's older she will become more responsive to her father, and soon she will only want HIM. It's a fact of life, we spend so much time with our children, and become the disciplinarians in thier lives, and when daddy comes home, it's like play time for our little ones. I always feel like my sons think daddy is the "fun" one! But I'm okay with that, because when they get an owie, I will be the one who can make it feel better.. and I like that. If you are really worried about it, Have your hubby spend some one-on-one time with her.. but in order for that to be succesful, you need to be out of sight, and stay that way. DON'T interrupt, or interject. So what if he puts the diaper on backwards, or misses a button on the onesie, she'll be fine. ALso, my little guy wouldn't take a bottle if I was around.. anywhere.. we finally got him to take one, because I went and took a LONG BATH, By myself, and the hubby finally got him to take it.. if they can see you, hear you or smell you.. they won't take the bottle.. so try that, and hey it'll give you some alone time.. which you problably need. Good luck to you and your family!
• United States
3 Feb 07
Thank You so Much for the comment and Im glade to see you had a wonderful time with you family. Im just glade my daughter does take the bottle.
@msmamaof2 (367)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Same circumstances here...I stay home during the day and my husband works. My daughter is now 9 months old and once daddy walks in the door she could care less about me. This started about 3 weeks ago...
• United States
2 Feb 07
Awwhe at least you get all day with her and then she gets her daddy when he gets home. Thats not to bad,but still im sure it breaks your heart. They dont know right now though so they pick favorites.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
She will grow out of it, justmake daddy's homecoming a big deal and suddenly, he will be her favourite person. My you ngest grandchild waslike that, only wanting mommy, but once we all made a big deal of daddy getting home, she started ryingto seewhatthe fuss was all about, and if daddy is the one to play with her, and tickle her, it will be even sooner that she wantsdaddy
• United States
29 Jan 07
Thank You much!! I will def. try this!!
@astromama (1221)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Don't give up... Daddy needs to learn his own special ways of soothing the baby. Sure, only mom can nurse, but daddy can rock, sing, dance, cuddle, etc. I'm about to be a new mother as well, and one thing my husband and I talked about is making him in charge of bath time. I hear some babies love to be taken into the bath with you, and almost all babies love to lay on Daddy's strong hairy chest! Or on weekends, you can nurse and then send the two of them out for a walk together... I think Dad and baby just need their own time to bond... you need it too, so you can get a break every now and then!
• United States
31 Jan 07
Your exzactly right but my daughter cries whenever daddy rocks her to sleep, he just aint got that momma sway... lol... she will out grow it hopefully as she gets older!!! Thanks so much for the advice!!!