Are we putting a burden on our children?

@Mommamea (1215)
United States
January 29, 2007 3:32am CST
I started a discussion on What gender people wanted to have first and as I assumed most said they would want to have a son first so he could look after a younger sister. It made me stop and think of the amount of responsibilities our children have in there lives. Does this not add even more responsibility to a child? What other expectations do you think we are adding to our children as they grow up? I know after thinking this I started reevaluating some of the pressures I was putting on my children.
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@raveena (1353)
• India
29 Jan 07
I have a girl child and she is my only child. Yes I would surely want her to grow up and take care of me but I would not like to pressurize her. It is her will and wish
• United States
29 Jan 07
A daughter could look after a younger brother just the same though so i'm not sure how many people would claim that as a reason although it very well could be. Responsibility can be a good thing for a child as they learn how and when things should be done and it helps them as they grow up. However, one must find the right responsibility to give to a child so as to assure the child has the ability to handle that particular responsibility. What is manageable for one may not be for another. Expectations and such from a parent or really any respected adult can put mass pressure on a child because it is very important to that child to be pleasing and to make that person proud. That can be a difficult burden for a child if they start to think they arent going enough or arent performing to correct standards
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Well, I do not think that I would want to do that to my daughter at all and I'll make sure that it won't get to that point when she grows up.