the death of a friendship : (
January 29, 2007 8:37pm CST
I have just realized that one of my friendships is well and truly dead. It has probably been dead for a while now and I am only just recognizing this. I am sad and perhaps a bit angry, about the rudeness if nothing else. I realize I have not heard from her in several weeks, the last time I contacted her was by way of text, inviting her on a night out but got no reply. This friend and I met at our workplace eight years ago. We hit it off at the start and got on great as we have many similar interests, including sense of humour. But around two years ago we started becoming much less close. I noticed it but didn't question it as I thought it was a temporary blip, but when I became pregnant I really began to notice it. Get togethers would usually be cancelled. My son is nearly 7 months old and she has been out to see him...once. Its not like she envies me for having a baby, she doesn't want any till she is in her forties. I don't think I actually did anything to upset or annoy her, I think this friend just got bored for want of a better word. And if I am honest, there were aspects to the friendship which left me feeling a bit shortchanged but I overlooked it as I like to be generous to my friends. But it is still sad that the friendship has ended and I do wish it hadn't ended so completely.
30 Jan 07
I'm sorry it happened, its really hard I know.... I had a similar friend, probably the best friend ive ever had, or so I thought, but once I got into a serious relationship, it was almost as if she couldnt be bothered, or was afraid to come near me in case commitment was contagious...lol When I got pregnant, well that was the end of it, and I havent seen her since I was about 7 months pregnant, and my son is now eight months old. I was sad at first, then disappointed, then angry. Now I realise im better off not being surrounded by those types of people, just as you will realise it... Wishing you all the best. :)
• Dublin, Ireland
30 Jan 07
This is so sad but unfortunatley not uncommon. A Ive gone on in life Ive found that a lot of people who I thought were friends just drifted away and I was always the one doing the calling etc.. So I stopped and havent heard from a lot of them since. I know circumstances change and our lives sometimes go in different directions but I cant understand people who just "drop" friendships so easily. I guess at the end of the day they werent really friends. It does make you feel a bit used though and let down and a bit stupid having put so much value on a relationship with someone who couldnt be bothered anymore. You sound like a very genuine and thoughtful person who would have been a loyal friend so its her loss. Good friends are hard to find.
30 Jan 07
I don't understand people who drop a friend quite so easily either, especially with no explanation, row or reason. I wouldn't drop someone like that unless I didn't like them and if I didn't like them I wouldn't be their friend in the first place. Still I am kind of relieved to hear it has happened to other people!