She's trying to ruin my relationship!

United States
January 29, 2007 10:15pm CST
This year started off horrible. The girl who was supposed to be my best friend and the maid of honor at my wedding started acting really odd and always had an excuse as to why she couldnt do anything with me. She would say I was upsetting her and hurting her feelings when all I did was ask her to go out and do what maid of honors do. She would be very rude and hurtful to me and then say it was my fault. Recently she has given out my fiancee's contact information to one of her female friends without even mentioning it to me as well as telling him a rediculous amount of things that are not at all true. He is in Iraq and sometimes doesnt get to speak to me so he gets very nervous and unsure. He trusted her because we were such close friends but Lately i've had to defend myself to him many times because of her. I think she is really trying to ruin it all for me. He is not going to talk to her anymore at all but I dont know what I should do if she tries anything again. He doesnt think I need to talk to her and stress myself out more but id really like to give her a piece of my mind. What can I do? about her, to ease my nerves and to calm my fiancees fears?
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• United States
13 Feb 07
See there's that paranoia again... NO ONE is trying to ruin your relationship... how many times must Carrie say she had no idea? How many times must I say I wasn't trying to hit on him? You're the only one who is truly flipping out about it... Subconciously you're the one trying to ruin your own relationship b/c you won't drop this stupid stuff. LET IT GO! Or you're going to be the one who ends up ruining your relationship... and at that point Carrie and I will so far gone you'll have no one to blame but yourself... but seeing as how you;re acting making all of this stuff public... You probably will blame us or find someone new to blame. Just stop it.... and grow up. Christ you're going to be getting married! I don't see how a child like yourself could ever even think to get married when she's still stuck in highschool mentality.
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• United States
14 Feb 07
its no one else's concern how sweet my fiance is unless I or he feels its necessary for them to know. No one said you had to check in with me but when youre saying things like you have to meet him or talk to him because someone claiming to be my friend told you this but you never thought to tell me how sweet he was. Sounds a little sneaky to me. I know he has female friends. One of which was nice enough to drop me a message. Oh you said you believe I'm hanging out with my exes which implies you dont have a clue because youre going off what someone else told you who also doesnt have a clue. Brandon actually does know quite a few of my friends.
• United States
14 Feb 07
Also... how would you feel if EVERY single guy that wanted to be your friend had to check in with your boyfriend? I 'd be pretty pissed over the possesive-ness and obvious show of ownership over me that was being put into place... Wouldn't you?
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@Meace84 (101)
• United States
13 Feb 07
How would it make you feel if one of your best friends was to tell one of her friends that your fiance was the sweetest guy and give out his info without talking to you first? Wouldn't you be a little suspicious too? I don't blame her for being upset. All you had to do was make sure it was okay with her before you talked to him.
@xXmeganxX (4421)
11 Feb 07
all im going to say is just move on, ive had this problem before with one of my friends, i fell out with her and everyhting has been so better from then on! :O)
@xXmeganxX (4421)
12 Feb 07
no problem and thanks for replying back to me! :o)
• United States
11 Feb 07
for starters I DIDNT KNOW THEY WERE FRIENDS UNTIL BRANDON ASKED ME FOR HER SCREENNAME, SO LEAVE THAT THE HECK ALONE. I never told him anything that wasnt true, hell does he even know you eat your boogers, pick at the scabs on your arms and legs all the time and your other habits?! Stop bringing this up! its OVER, DONE WITH. You guys want to blame me for things i never did just to make yourselves feel better, whatever, but if your going to be putting slander in a PUBLIC forum then you better expect for me to backlash. Because its NOT fair, and you only tell your side of the story the "poor marissa" side. Get over it. Move on, your the only one who cant seem to just let it go! I hate you and hope i never have to see you on campus. Happy?! its done with? Stoop crying and MOVE ON.
• United States
12 Feb 07
As a matter of fact I'm ecstatic. My wedding plans are going so much smoother now. Its actually almost fully planned. Brandon and I are still doing amazingly wonderful. and ya know for someone who continually says its done with you sure cant seem to get over it and move on with your life. Brandon and I sure have. why dont you just let it be and leave us alone. We would surely appreciate it. Thanks!
• United States
13 Feb 07
You do realize Marissa that she is only defending herself? All you do is write up these blogs and then Carrie does what any other human being would do... defend themselves... How would you feel if I wrote up a blog about you? Wouldn't you be upset and try to defend yourself from these people? You're the one not letting it go. If Carrie was the one not letting it go then she'd be writing these blogs not you... and btw quit you're b**ching and leave her alone. Stop blaming her for what I did or what he did or what you're doing... blame him... blame yourself... and blame me. Or are you scared to actually take another try at me as to what happened last time? Get over it and get over yourself.
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