half brother or sister

Philippines
January 29, 2007 11:20pm CST
how would react if you'll learn that you have a half brother or sister from your father's side?
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@victorwzj (539)
30 Jan 07
hmm, at first I will be surprise and angry toward my father. I strongly believe in marriage and after marriage couples must loyal and faithful to each other. whether I am happy or sad about it is really depend on whether the half brother or sister is my elder than me. I don't wish to have an elder brother or sister but I do happy if I have a little brother or sister. you probably know this, it is normally the eldest who get all inheritance and I do not wish that someone suddenly jump out and took my place for it. I know I sound pathetic but this is just how I feel.
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30 Jan 07
yea.... sorry about that. Sometimes I say crazy thing on the internet and since it is internet I figure that I probably can get away with almost anything. Forget what I say about "inheritance" stuff . I know if I were in your position I too have trouble accepting the fact that I suddenly have a half -brother or sister. However there are nothing more important than family, just accept it with a open heart. It is good that to have elder "sister" and to be honest I have a (god)sister too. I know that it is "not" the same thing but I do feel lucky that she become my (god) sister. We do have good time together and she teach me alot of thing too.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
well, its your opinio of course. but dont you know that i have a half sister who is older than me? well, things are hard to accept from the start but it will never change since it already happened. we just need to accept the fact. and note, she's half sister from my mother side.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
it's okay, i understand you. things really goes out of hand and out of control. its sometimes not helpful to blame anyone for the things that had happened. life is mysterious, complicated and surprising.
@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I'd be shocked of course. But I think this is better than finding out that I am adopted. =) I'd accept it right away if I turned out to be a half=brother, but I'll be devastated if I found out that I am not really related to what I grewn to know as Mom and Dad. =(
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• Australia
30 Jan 07
blindedfox, would it really make any difference if you found you were adopted? Your mom and dad have been your parents regardless of whether or not they are your natural parents. Wouldn't it make a good difference to find out that they wanted you so badly that they CHOSE you and gave you care and attention all your life? I would LOVE to find out I was adopted.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
it would make a difference because from the time you'll know that you were just an adopted, you'll start to wonder why your true parents send you away to another family. of course you wanna know where you came from and who your real parents coz it counts to who you really are. you maybe thankful that your foster parents provided you everything you want but still, you'll felt that something a part of you is missing. it's an unexplainable feeling if your already in a situation.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
you're right. the reaction is really normal if you'll experienced this situation.
• United States
30 Jan 07
This actually happened to me. My mother and father had gotten divorced. My mother, sister and I moved away. At about 12 years old, I received a letter from my father telling me I had been replaced by my half brother. That's the last time I talked to my father (21 years of silence now).
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
sorry to hear that.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
if it happens to me, i have nothing to do but to accept it and i can't do anything to change that fact because it is already there and whatever you will do about it, you are still brothers and sisters as long as they will not do anything bad to me and i will be angry with my father not to them because they innocent and my father has all the fault...
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
yeah, you're right.
• Australia
30 Jan 07
I think this is going to happen more and more as society changes. It is already happening in my country. There are so many people who do not know who their biological father is, and one of my concerns is that there is going to a large amount of inbreeding through this ignorance.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
yeah and its so unfair for the son/daughter not to know the truth because their mother tried to hide it because they were ashamed and are afraid to face the reality.
• Australia
30 Jan 07
The big pity is that many mothers do not know who the father of their child is. It has already happened that a half brother and sister have married, not knowing of their relationship.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
it's possible, maybe the mother is too careful to keep her secret which ended up to another mistake.
• Indonesia
31 Jan 07
I just realized that I have a half older sister from my dad when I was in junior high school. I don't know why but that time until now I really don't mind it. She's quite pretty but the most important thing is that that time I felt like there's a chemistry between us and we just able to bond each other. I really don't find any terrible thing with that.
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
atleast you too have a good relationship with each other.
@prasanta (1948)
• India
30 Jan 07
1)If I find he/she is too little, I will take care of him, and grow him the best way i can. What is the difference between full sibling and half sibling? Ultimately, there is a relation. How many of us can confidently say that our (believed)brothers and sisters are our real brothers and sisters? I do not think it is ever practically verified, although that can be done these days. 2) Any way, if I see that such a good elder brother / sister exist, I will give him / her the full respect. I do not have hesitation in accepting a person as my half sibling at any age.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
good thing that you're so kind. if you'll ever have a half brother/sister, they'll be lucky to have you.
• United States
30 Jan 07
hmm lets see. Since I have recently experinced this I can tell you exactly how i felt about it. My dad told me i had a baby sister in August. By the time he told me and one of my other sisters, she was already born, two weeks old to be exact. We didn't even know he had a steady girlfriend at the time. He told me and my sister to keep it a secret from my mom and my three other sisters and he didn't get around to telling them until november. Those were four of the most hardest months of my life. Not only did i have to cope with having a half sister but I had no one else to confide in about beside my sister. ( I did tell my best friend and my cousin, but I told them not to tell anyone.) Thios had to be one of the most selfish things my father has ever done because it took a toll on me and my sister. He told my other family members about this just recently and my family is still adjusting, but we are all excited to have a new baby sister.
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• Philippines
30 Jan 07
at least you accepted your half sister and is welcomed in your family. thats the most important thing.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I know that i have a half sister from my dads side..because my parents separated when we were still young..I dont care,they live in the states,while we are here in the philippines..plus the fact that she doesnt look like my dad,i do..hehe..i never tried being friends with her because her mom is quite jealous of my mom,after seeing my moms pic and finding out my mom looks better than her and looks younger than her age of 48.
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
that's what you called LIFE.