More friends?
By BunGirl
@BunGirl (2638)
United States
January 30, 2007 3:01pm CST
I've seen several posts now of people complaining that they don't have enough friends on myLot. Many of them seem to be waiting for friends to come to them. If you want more friends, the best way to get them would be to ask! When you respond to a post, go to the person's profile and click "add as a friend." Do the same when you give someone a [+] rating or see a comment that you appreciate! Before long, you should have as many friends as you can handle. Not everyone will accept your request, but I think the majority of folks here will.
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42 responses
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Even I swa a discussion asking request for another friend. I mean in the discussion he was telling that one particular friend of him want friend, so he was requesting people to go and add him as a friend. This is rediculas.
Why people jsut don't go and send a friend request by themself than complainging about it.
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@mixbisnis (99)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 07
All my request for friendship get approval. Simple way to make relationship is give a comments to his/her discussion. They will accept your request. More friendship you request, you will get better opportunity in Mylot.com
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yeah, I think the fear of rejection is a big thing. I think you have to just learn not to take it personally. Some people are just picky about who gets on their list and who doesn't. That's their right, just as much as it's your right to be picky when folks send you a request.
Also, if you request from one person a day and one person says no, that's 100% for that day and it feels pretty crappy. If you request 10 people and one says no, you've still got a 90% approval rate, so it's not as big a deal!
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Thats a good point about percentages. I hadnt thought of it that way. LOL.
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@princessofasia (35)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
You're right,to get more friends is easy to way just wait only.And be friendly to everyone,give your trust.For me one or more friends i can handle with TLC.I'm so very kind,all people in the world.I love them,to all mylot member be my friend.Just give a good response to all discussion and rating.I love you all mylot friends!
@sribalaji (35)
• India
31 Jan 07
but if we did like that then that persons are not good friends
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
31 Jan 07
That's not really the point. I think you may be taking the term "friends" a little too seriously. While some people here use their friends list for only people they really know, it has other purposes. Most people use it as a way of connecting with people whose interests are similar to their own so they can find discussions they would like to answer and so they can get responses to their own discussion.
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I agree. It isn't difficult. If you are afraid of being rejected, try replying a person's discussions but going through a majority of them.
When I find someone with really interesting writing skills and discussions, I will start going through their discussions. Many times before I am even done going through their discussions, the person realizes that I have taken interest and will request friends. It really is a great way to make friends because you learn about that person by going through old discussions and that person reading the type of person you are!
Don't be afraid to answer discussions for those that you want to become friends with.
And if you do not answer their discussions at all and still request friends...do not be detered...try answering discussions and then try again. That person will then see what a great person you are from your responses. :)
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@BunGirl (2638)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I need to note here that sometimes it really does take actually asking to be friends. For instance, at the moment I am not actively seeking more friends. I probably wouldn't request a friend of someone just because they've replied to a bunch of my posts. HOWEVER, I rarely turn down friend requests. It's not that I'm at some kind of self-imposed limit, but I get three or four requests a day, so I don't really feel like I need to make requests myself.
Just a thought!
@jal1948 (1359)
• India
31 Jan 07
There is no reason in the world for people to not accept you as a friend, as the saying goes "A stranger is a friend whom we do not know" and whats wrong in knowing each other better there is no harm done as long as we are open and honest to ourselves and to others,
@callraheel (149)
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31 Jan 07
well probably here people are just for making money , but having friends i a good idea, i personally add 3-5 people and now i have almost 25 people in my list so remaining all added me..may be i replied to their posts which could enable people to reply in your threads too and be your friends....
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@BDnLacy (324)
• United States
31 Jan 07
You know what? that is good advise. especially the part about checking profiles. I learned the hard way about allowing just anyone on my friends list. If you let the wrong ones on there, you will end up with a message box full of spam. Or in my case, some very sick comments.
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@meet_abhinesh (39)
• India
31 Jan 07
hmm ....correct ma'am friends are always welcome for some and kinda unwelcomed for some sometimes....depends on the type of person u r ......isnt it ?? btw..i love making frineds and they r always welcomed
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@meishalicious (672)
• United States
31 Jan 07
i have many friends in here but i dont know.. maybe they are too busy postin and response to discussions.. but thanks anyways..
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@artisweety (411)
• India
31 Jan 07
ya ofcourse wht u said is absolutely correct.whenever i login manyfrnds nearly 10 send me and i accept them dis is how i added many frnd.my frnd list crosses my alert list
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@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Here's a little tip for the more sensitive types who feel hurt if they get a friend request rejected. Do your friend requests three at a time. That way even if one person rejects you, you'll still get two new friends. It's very unlikely that three people will reject you at the same time.
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@randyequal (439)
• China
31 Jan 07
en, your suggestion is very good. In order to have more friends here, we must find our future possible friends by ourselves, not waiting for friends come to us. I seldom rate the responses to my discussion in the past, but now I think I should read the responses regularly so that I can have more friends here.
@sun_shine009 (31)
• Saudi Arabia
31 Jan 07
Yes u are right that the best way to get a friend is that u give response to others ......... this will make a soft corner for u in others heart ....... as i m doing :)
