I quit... don't even ask me to be in your wedding!

Hey, it's not your fault that they got divorced. And don't think that it was a curse at every wedding you attended as a bridesmaid ;-D You still have 2 marriage to look up to. Hehehe... Just kidding... I hope it wont be a reason that you keep away from marrying. Good luck :-)

I guess I won't be asking you to be in my wedding. And, rumor has it that he isn't even your cousin... I have been in one wedding that has ended in divorce... counting mine I am at 25% of the weddings that I have been in have ended in divorce.

It was nothing you did that caused these divorces. I believe it is the changes that we go through and the not getting to know the other person as well as we could have that causes divorce. It is so eay to get divorced now a days that more and more are doing it. Instead of staying in a marriage comprimising and growing together people are to easy to give up and move on. What do you think would happen if it were harder to get a divorce?

I have been part of two weddings and they were both my mom's though her's didn't end in divorce...her first husband did die. I don't think you should look to far into this. They're reason for divorce has nothing to do with you. I still wan tyou to be part of my wedding party. I want you to be there casue you are one of the many reason me and Christian are together. WE LOVE YOU!!!

Think how discouraging it is for the minister/priest who officiated. Statistics are against many of these marriages working. It is too easy to get married and too easy to get divorced. Many people don't even think about what marriage means and then they get discouraged and instead of trying to make it work, they just quit. That is why I do not think "gay marriage" is the "biggest" threat to marriage - divorce is the "biggest" threat to marriage. There are cases where divorce is the best thing for everyone (including the children) but it has become too easy to get a divorce now days. So you are definately not at fault - unless you were cheating with their spouses.

I've never been a bridesmaid, but I don't think that you can call yourself "bad luck" for those marriages. Marriages are about lots of things: love, trust, compatability, friendship, faith, hope, the list goes on and on. If a marriage doesn't work out for any reason, its because of the people that make up the marriage THE BRIDE and THE GROOM. At the end of the day, they are the ones that need to come together to make it work. No one else holds any responsibilty for the marriage except for the husband and wife.

Please don't think that its just because you were a bridesmaid at these weddings, that they ended in divorce. Divorce happens because the relationship fails and the fault lies in the couple, whether it be because they refuse to try to fix their marriage or because of some irreconcilable differences, its THEIR fault, NOT yours.

I don't think so there is anything wrong with you.Some people get married without thinking about the future. They have children and then one fine day just say "It's over!" Such people do not know how to adjust and have no feelings for others. They just want to have their enjoyment and think only about themselves. They are basically selfish and such people and never happy with anyone. I pity the children born to such parents because from their childhood they will have a very disturbed life.

I think many people get married today with the attitude that if it dont work out, they can just get divorced. I have been married for 28 years and I love my husband very much. I love him more each day if that is possible. You are so right about people getting hurt when a divorce occurs. It destroys lives and causes unnecessary pain. the kids pay the most. they often feel like it is their fault.

I have never seen weddings ending in Divorce but in our family there is a case of a divorce and what you say is right that their children's life is not good mentally at a later stage.

I have been lucky in that regard, no one has divorced at least not yet. I would feel the same way as you do; I would "hang up my brides mades shoes" as you so well put it. It is sad that in this day and age people give up so easily when it gets just a little rough or things are not as "exciting" as they used to be. I hope that the next generation will do better than this one. I can only hope and pray

I have never really know couple that got divorced :( That is sooo sad that people can say the vows.. but then still get a divorced later on.. I mean.. that means you are lying in front of God.. For me, wedding vows is not to be taken lightly.. no matter what.. there should be no divorce.. unless for reason such as insanity or something like that.. It is not only affecting the children.. though I admit they are the one who suffers the most.. but it is also affecting your whole belief in religion if you divorce.. Sure there will be heaps of trouble in your marriage.. not one marriage would be free of trouble right? But you have to overcome that.. no matter what the problem are.. do not give up on love.. marriage is not built only based on love, but also understanding, trust, respect and toleration.. so use all of that.. and instead of divorcing each other.. try to work it out.. and remember those feelings you have for your partner when you were still dating :)

I was the matron of honor for my best friend, twice. She is about to go through her second divorce. The first time I knew she was having second thoughts, and told her to follow her heart. I wasn't there to talk her into marrying him, or out of marrying him, I was just there for her. I think that ultimately it was her mother-in-law that was the demise of her first marriage. The second time around, everything seemed right. She was happy, they were so in love, her father was there this time to give her away. It turns out he thinks suitable punishment is spanking his toddler for 45 min straight, leaving bruises for 2 weeks. I know that both times, she had expected and wanted to invest in forever. I will willingly stand beside her again. It just breaks my heart that she has to go through this. But I am here for her no matter what.

No..couples should thind a thousand times before going into that kind of big decision...

Oh my goshhh dont feel like that hun! What happens in their marriage isn't because you were in their wedding. Nowadays people get divorced left and right. I can't say it's right.. but I do think people shouldn't jump into marriage as much as they are. I'm not saying that's what the people you know did.. but other people. Keep your head up!

I have been in three wedding parties... 1. When I was a little girl. So, It didn't bother me. 2. My sister and I gave my mother away 2 years ago this May. So far, that marriage seems to be going well. 3. I was Best Man to a good friend. Even though since he has gotten married, I haven't heard much from him. But from what I gather from emails here and there, the marriage is going strong. I have my fear though because it is her 4th. But I hold hope that the marriage will last. I don't think I will be in any more weddings though myself. Because I seem to be giving away all my marriage luck because I don't think I will ever be married again. So, maybe your marriage luck is for you because you seem very happy with your marriage. :) So, maybe if I am not in any more weddings, one day I will be married.

there is no such thing as bad luck for me, just happened and because couples separated you are the one to blame,, nothing is permanent in this world, and because divorce is allowed in your place they can easily separate and break their bows, not like here in the philippines where divorce is not allowed, so if you are married here, it is a lifetime commitment.

I've never have been in a wedding myself. But I have felt your frustration with couples braking up left and right as if the whole wedding ceremony is just a game. It seems like the words they speak on that day "for better or worse, sickness and in health, richer or poor" doesn't mean a thing. Although you have been in several weddings that the couples have split, I wouldn' label yourself as bad luck. Just don't let it discourage you in your relationships or your future relationships.

well, now the vows may not have NOT meant anything to them. Sometimes divorce happens. I have been divorced...I am not proud of it and I wonder sometimes if we should have worked harder (my ex refused) or what would life be like today if we had stayed together. sometimes, people grow apart...yes, i do think it is way too convenient to people these days to just say "we don't get along so off to divorce court, we go". most people do NOT work thru things the way they probably should esp if they have kids. BUT...the vows probably did mean a lot to them. I know they meant the world to me. And, as far as you being a curse..LOL no way! keep on being the bridesmaid...you are great!

I run a wedding shop, how do you think I feel when i heard the couples got divorced after I got involved so much in their wedding preparation? It has nothing to do with you or anyone in the party, it's just the couple can't face their problems and solve them or it was just a mere fascination to start with.