i want to make new friends but........
By joshdale08
@joshdale08 (2320)
Philippines
January 30, 2007 6:39pm CST
i noticed that as i grew older, i want to be alone and by myself most of the time. i seem to accomplish more that way. when i go to the malls, i'm more comfortable if i'm alone. funny, but the mall is more of a friend to me than a person is. and it doesn't bother me at all that i'm alone. but, i must admit that there are times when i really need a friend. like when i have something bothering me, i so want to go out and binge on food and maybe a little drink with a friend. i want to go out and dance and sing at some club with friends. and that's the time when i lament the fact that i don't have regular girlfriends at all. what i do have are friends that i only see during children's parties or family outings or during the burial of someone. but they're not the kind that i can readily call to spend a night in town with me. sigh!
4 responses
@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
31 Jan 07
I think that, as you get older, it's more difficult to make new friends. Because people generally have their lives sorted out and their circle of friends and family. But some people just have that kind of personality that makes friends with others easily. If you truly want some friends, try to be more out-going, be bold and ask others out, instead of just waiting for others to take the first step. I too, often find myself not seeking the company of others, not because I don't like people, I do, I like talking to them and getting to know them, but lately, all the people I meet end up disappointing me, that is, they're not who I thought they were, how they presented themselves to me in our conversations and that is very hurtful. So, for now, I'm not making an effort to make new friends :|
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@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
oh, you feel that way, too? as i was reading your comment, it felt like you were writing what was on my mind! but you're only 25, compared to my 39 and i'll be 40 in 2 months time! you're way too young to be feeling like i do. you should still be out there, enjoying what life has for you & with plenty of friends. are you married, if i may ask?
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@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
31 Jan 07
I probably should, but I have other matters on my mind in any case. And like I said, right now, I just don't feel like meeting new people. I'm single and I suspect I'll be single for a long time (LOL), I mean, it's easy to get married with someone, but for what, just to end up hating each other and getting divorced? I wouldn't get married unless it was someone I really knew well and trusted. Someone who wasn't a disappointment. What I hate the most is when you're talking to someone and they seem to be honest and opening up to you and maybe you're actually seeing the person behind the mask, then the next day, it's like they close up again and they're a completely different person. I'm tired of that. For once I'd like to know someone who authentic. But I guess that's asking for too much. You know, so many people die alone. The old folks you see in nursing homes and in parks and peeking through the windows into the street (do you know Samuel Beckett's "Rockaby"?). Golly, let's not get too depressed here :)
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
yeah, let's not. maybe, it's just one of those days, huh? lucky for us, there's the internet where we can be everybody's friend without getting too involved and where no demands can be put to us. i find this more enjoyable than spending an afternoon at some coffe shop with a friend. is this weird or what?
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@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Hi! I guess you have to open up a little bit. You are definitely a loner (like me!).. I would rather watch movies alone and go malling on my own. This way, I can get to think a lot and I don't have to think about the person with me (if she/he is tired walking, if he/she prefers to eat at some place, etc).. Later on, I learned to open up a little bit to others, so I developed constant friends. You have to find people with common interests. So the next time I felt like hanging out in a bar or coffee shop, or go out and party, I would just call them. But then, I still enjoyed shopping and watching movies on my own.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
funny but when i was younger, not a weekend goes by when i wasn't with friends. it's either just hanging out at my house or somebody else's or it's in the movies or some snack bar. now, i have less patience with talking about nothing at all. i find "talking" here more enjoyable, though! lol!
@jpibanez29 (131)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
Get yourself some friends. I tell you, it helps man. Friends are so important.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
i'm not sure if saying "man" for you is just an expression, but just in case, and for everyone's info, i'm a girl. actually, a woman already. (sounds like brittney's song, huh?) anyway, it just gets so hard when you're my age already. people my age are too engrossed with their jobs and families and kids, i'd hate to disturb them for a night out. but, don't worry, i'll try. asap. thanks for sharing your views, though.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Jul 10
Well friendship is nice gift of life,excepting less and accepting friends for what they are.
