Something else I find curious
@DanielMarvoloRiddle (331)
United States
January 30, 2007 6:44pm CST
Why is it that some people's identity is completely wrapped up in their children? I mean I love my 8 year old more than anything, but that doesn't make me any less "me." I have female friends who are only concerned with their kids; never speaking about what they think, what they feel, what they desire. They say things like "my kids are my life." Interesting.
Like I said, I look forward to taking a trip down to Houston soon with my own son and going to NASA and seeing an Astros game and all the other things that he's into, but that doesn't make me any less a musician, writer, reader, thinker, etc. Hmmm.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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31 Jan 07
Yet again I find I agree with you. I am one of these weird *unnatural" women that never wanted children - the idea just never appealed to me! And though I a happy for my girlfriends who have had kids and been happy with their choice - I have never understood why Motherhood can sometimes turn a formerly intelligent, interestng female into somethng with no convesation unless it revolves around "little Johnny" or whoever. Very Strange!
@glowsinthedark (189)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I don't think it's unnatural at all. I adore my daughter but my sister isn't planning on having kids. Oh well, every persons' path in life is different and it sucks that so many people feel the need to pressure everyone into fitting into a mold. You have to follow your bliss not someone elses'.
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@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
I dunno .. for me, being a parent was only part of my goals ... but there are people who just have the goal of parenting. If they set aside other goals, they are sort of losing themselves ... but if it was their main goal and they are content that way ... then I think that's a beautiful thing.
So it depends on the person. For me, I am still so many other things ... but I had that goal all along.
Dunno if that made sense, but I tried.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I've known a few parents like that. Everything centers around their child or family. It's like they aren't an individual anymore just a reflection of the rest. I never understood it either. No matter how much you love your family you still should be your own person. You should have your own interests, hobbies, work etc. To do otherwise is not good for them because then when the child leaves home they have nothing to fill that vacancy.
@jpibanez29 (131)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
Whats your point. Of course it wouldnt make you less something, it`d make you more parent.
@DanielMarvoloRiddle (331)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Clearly yo haven't sent much time in the south where many of these women's admitted goals in life is to become a mother...and that's it. I wish I were kidding.
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