I feel jealous do you?

India
January 31, 2007 2:59am CST
I often feel jealous when someone talks with my husband even if it is a man. I live with my husband and his two friends, i often feel that he is neglecting me and giving more importance to his friends rather than me. I feel myself shouting at them " Pls allow me to talk to my husband for some time or so", but i am not interested in hurting their feelings. so things goes on.Do all wifes feel the same or do Men too feel jealous when someone talks with their wife.
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@patgalca (16696)
• Orangeville, Ontario
1 Feb 07
The exact same thing has happened to me. Just this past weekend we were alone together in the van. Our girls were already at the gym and we were heading over for our eldest's soccer game. It was a 5-10 minute drive at the most (though he stopped at the convenience store). I was talking to him and he barely said anything to me the whole ride over. I even mentioned it. When we got to the game, he sat down between me and the mother of another player on my daughter's team. I could not believe the way he was talking to her. He never met the woman in his life and he was talking, talking, talking. You think I was jealous? Darn right I was jealous... and furious! I did some real soul searching writing in my journal this weekend and found that all my life I have felt ignored by my family, friends (always the third wheel) and I hunger for attention. This is why I fly off the handle at times. This is something I am going to have to work on. I have also had a lot of dreams about my husband leaving me, or finding him with another woman. These dreams show that I am insecure. I have no reason to be really. Look inside yourself and see if you can figure out why you feel this way. I don't like feeling this way. I am going to seek counselling even though I can't figure out how anyone can help me change this. But then, I'm not trained in psychology. LOL! Keep strong and good luck!
• Australia
1 Feb 07
Jealousy is a natural human emotion i would think. Too feel it might mean you really are in love with someone and not just in lust or anything. Being in a marriage for an extended time and feeling jealousy well into it can be a healthy thing as long as you stay rational and take control of it and not vice versa. Hence it's healthy and alright to feel it in low doses.
@Gmens91 (389)
• Philippines
31 Jan 07
It is perfectly natural to get jealous, but when you overdo it it could ruin your relationship with your husband. Tell your husband to reassure you every now and then and explain it to him to make him aware of your feelings.
• India
31 Jan 07
thanks i would try this
• India
31 Jan 07
Well, where there is love, there is insecurity. And where insecurity, there is bound to be jealousy. So that's quite natural and doesn't have anything peculiar or weird about it. When we love someone, we want the most from him. So even his talking to a man can make us feel bad and jealous. This simply goes on to say that you love your husband. As for the fact that he seems to be avoiding you.. is a different question altogether. And u would bestknow the answer and the reason for that friend...
• India
31 Jan 07
Yeh my husband love me a lot more than anyone in the world but still i feel jealous at times.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
you are there madamme, nice choice of words..i coundn't say more.
• India
1 Feb 07
these are his own words , he would often say this to me.
• India
9 Feb 07
yes i too feel jealous, i tried a lot not to feel such but i don't know why sometimes i start feeling jealous,but jealous in case of me a bit different i don't feel jealous if someone is progressing more than me neither because of money but i am jealous about my freinds. i always want a good freind, and if some one is having better n trustworthy freind than me i start feeling jealous and sometimes in studies too
• India
16 Feb 07
i have also controlled my feeling but i couldnt ,I start feeling jealous when ever they talk about different topic like about their official matter and solutions etc. i feel left out.
@wesker311 (510)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
i dont get jealous if my boyfriend (sort of husband)talks to his friends or to any girl i only get jealous if he spends too much time with them rather than spending time with me and his daughter!everyday he would go out with them then come home so tired and nags at me wanting me to act like a wife!
• India
9 Feb 07
thats funny
• India
1 Feb 07
i really dont know much to say to u ... but i think u r jealousy will not make good for u .. if u r sure dat he loves u a lot.. den jus chill down.. dont be so jealous.. otherwise dis may start affecting u r relationship...and one more thing.. HOW COME U R HUSBAND;S FRNDS LIVE WITH U GUYS?
• India
1 Feb 07
They were staying together before our marriage , and they together had brought many household item like tv , fridge etc. My husband doesnt want to get seperated as they are thick friends, and i am helping them out in cooking as i am a house wife .
• India
1 Feb 07
yes this happens to me too. I think its because of possessiveness, expecting a lot from the loved one, expecting him/her to be with all the time, expecting him/her to forget the whole world. This feeling is good only for some extent. But excess of it may lead to drastic ends. Best way to come out of it is, to just take care more and expect less from the one whom you love so much. Make him/her feel that you are the only most important person.
• India
1 Feb 07
I would think of these things but the next moment when i see that my husband not responding to my question and readily answering their friends all my feeling would just disappear. And i would again feel angry with him.
@rsa101 (29877)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
Well my wife did that for sometime but then i guess she was able to control her jealousy with my friends. Eventually she was able to understand my situation. I just told her to control that since its not going to be healthy to what others will think of her. I see to it that she gets enough assurance of me being loyal to her. I guess you should also get that assurance from your husband that he will stick with you no matter what. We all need friends besides out family. :D
• India
1 Feb 07
I too will try to control myself,Being away from home definitly makes things worse . Will try to improve myself.
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
It is normal to be jealous, only shows that you love the person. But please don't be over reacting about it. If you feel that your husband have lesser time for you than his friend, why not talk to him about how you feels. Maybe he is just not aware of what's happening. I'm sure it will work. Goodluck to you girl. :-)
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
right. feeling jealous is just ordinary for two people in a relationship. sometimes we do overreact. but that's just it. it's always better to find time to talk about this issue so you can understand more each other.
• India
9 Feb 07
yes its natural, i m not married, bt wth one i luve, i cant bother tht he talks wth anyone else.....
@neonanda (344)
• India
1 Feb 07
well i feel jealous sometimes well but its not the good thing n u have top get ride of this
• India
1 Feb 07
the best way to get out of this is to talk about the same to your partner.you may be having a misconception so first share it with your partner. but then if ur damn confident then tell your partner to spend more time with you tell him that- good communication is the smallest gap b\w 2 people in a relationship. also dont be so possesive with him. give him a bit of space so that even he could generously share feelings with u
@miryam (6507)
• Italy
1 Feb 07
I'm not jealous. I'm nery sure in Myself, not are a dubits for my parter, also I'm wrong, but I believe in he love for me and nobody woman can sostitute me for my man...
@zhell_12 (119)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
its alright to make jealous but not to the extent that it hurts u and ur husband. im still single but try to have trust with ur husband for u not to feel too much jealousy. or maybe try to make friends with ur husband's friends also.
• India
1 Feb 07
even my wife too feels the same like u.. she expressed the same feelin which u had.. its shows the luv that u have on ur hubby.. as husbands we take it for granted we know u would be always with us. but friends they just come and only they stay for a little while so thats y we give importance..it doesn't mean we are neglecting u..its just we have a feelin that u r always with us../...
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
honestly, i am a jealous girlfriend to my boyfriend. we live in different countries which makes me a lot more jealous. he has a girl bestfriend and i swear, i envy her bestfriend because she can be with my boyfriend more than me. i talked to my boyfriend about this. he assured my feelings and assured that his bestfriend will just be a friend to me and that i am still on top of his priority. he understands me all the time. he's right, my jealousy is just because of the distance between us and when together already, i will feel less bad than today. as for you, i hope you get to talk to your husband about this. it's not right when you feel like you're being neglected. he might not know about your feelings that's why he kept on doing this to you. make him realize that you have feelings, too and that you need his attention most of all. find time to talk things together and straighten things together. i am sure, everything will turn out right for you two.
• United States
1 Feb 07
i find myself getting extremely jealous when i hear my girlfriend talking to guys. sometimes i get jealous when she talks to her friends too but we see eachother every single minute of everyday. i am very greatful for having a great girlfriend though and it just scares me i guess when she is talking to other men.
@mkeanel01 (974)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
yepp!! i feal jealous too.. but i feel jealous on things that i think i needed to feel jealous.. i dont easily get jealous if my gf was just talking to someone i dont know..i prefer to know more the facts before i get jealous to someone..
@mae168 (170)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I feel jealous if my boyfriend talks to his ex..
@kerbausama (1336)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 07
for me of course jealous is important.thats show how much you love him.. ...