Extra Marital Affair

I never would forgive it. My feelings are: once a cheater, always a cheater. I think that if a man or woman is unhappy or feels unfulfilled in a relationship, they need to take the initiative to communicate this to their partner and discuss it. Going out and cheating with another is the coward's way out. Marriage vows are a commitment, and should not be taken lightly. I think that if a cheater is forgiven, he/she will eventually do it again.

That depends on the individuals. Does the person involved in the extra marital affair want to get back with their spouse and is the spouse willing to take them back. Also, are both willing to work together to keep their relationship. If both the cheater and cheatee want to keep their relationship then it is worth forgiving and forgetting. And, if the cheater is serious about it they will not cheat again.

I couldn't forgive if my hubby strayed i believe if he truly loved he would have no need for anyone else

That's a tough one. If both partners want to make the marriage work, counseling is definatly needed. Trust would have to be earned back, and it would be a very long process. Forgiving also would be something that comes with time, and alot of work from the person that cheated, and the person cheated on. As far as forgetting, I don't think that would be something that is possible.