People who don't go to work

Hong Kong
January 31, 2007 9:12am CST
A colleague of mine has been married with two children(both of them are twenty something). Today, he complains to me that both of his sons don't go to work at all. That means they don't look for a job, and stays at home all day playing tv games and spending time on the Internet. Now my colleague is also retired and is pretty mad and sad with such situation because he is not a rich man and he don't know how long can he supports his family. I don't know because I was from a poor family so I got to work just after finish high school. I don't know what suggestion can I give to him. Maybe the children that raised nowadays got too much from their family that they don't have to do anything to get what they want. Do you've these kinds of experience? Or do you happens to have children like this or you're the one who stays at home all day?
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@cowgirl2701 (2081)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think it depends on how the kids were raised. I was a single mother and had to work. If my kids wanted something I couldn't afford or didn't think was nessicary they had to work for it and buy it their selves. They are all adults now and have good jobs and work ethics. Your friends are going to have to get tough. It is called tough love. They need to tell their kids that they have 1 or 2 months to find a job and start paying thier way. They also need to set a date that they need to move out by. If the kids don't get a job by the date specified they need to kick them out. It is time for them to grow up and take care of thier selves. That is tough love and is sometimes nessicary.
• Hong Kong
31 Jan 07
As I'm not married yet and got no children I might not fully understand this but I think you're right. Treating them too good sometimes may be negative effects. But anyway is easy to talk but I guess it's not easy to actually do it. I'm sure you've go through a lot of trouble in doing this but that's good as your children are okay. I've tell him that "I think you treat him too good" stuff but I know is hard to left them to their own devices.
@perugu (5281)
• India
3 Feb 07
hi,these type of people we can see around the world,they didn't feel the responsibilities.some times parents also cause for that type of behaviour by kids.as a parents we have to realize them the responsibilities and need to work from childhood itself.but in some cases kids behave like this only,even if we try to educate them.