What is the most important thing your parents taught you?

@rosie_123 (6117)
January 31, 2007 3:56pm CST
Looking back on your childhood, what do you think is the one thing you learnt from your parents that you have carried into later life, and would want to pass on to your own children? For me - I guess it was to treat everyone equally, and not to judge others or look down on them because of their colour, sexuality, religion (or lack of it) or nationality. And also I guess to believe in myself and what I can achieve. How about you?
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@ginagee (843)
1 Feb 07
The one thing that my parents did that always stays with me is the fact that they had nothing to do with me when I had my first baby. I was on my own and I swore that when my kids had their own children that I would always be there for them. I fully supported my daughter when she got pregnant and would never ever think of ignoring any cry for help. I have gained so much from being close to my grand-daughter that it makes me sorry for my parents because they have missed out on so much. Neither of my parents are close to my kids even now and they are 28 and 26 years old. They don't even bother with their great grand-child. It still makes me angry especially as my mum is close to my brothers kids.
@rosie_123 (6117)
1 Feb 07
Well that is a really sad story Gina - your parents and your children are missing out on such a wonderful bond bewteen grandparents and grandchildren. You daughter is lucky to have an understandng Mum like you and I am glad you are so close to your grand-daughter
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@ginagee (843)
2 Feb 07
Well i gotta lot of sad stories, it's amazing that I've turned out to be such a wonderful, warm and loving human being that I am! hahahahahahaha
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@misste78 (539)
• United States
1 Feb 07
My mom taught me alot of important things. She told me to demand and have respect for myself and those around me, She told me that I can't love myself if I have hate for someone. I think that the most important thing my mom taught me was survival. My mom was a single parent and she was our Supermom, she disciplined, cooked, cleaned, worked, went to school, payed all bills, and still had time for us. That is the best lesson ever in my opinion.
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@rosie_123 (6117)
1 Feb 07
Your mum sounds like a wonderful woman. Being a single parent is one of the hardest things in the world and she obviously made a great job of it. Thanks for sharing your story.
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@wolfie34 (26790)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 07
My mum and dad never ever pushed me into anything, or would push me to get top marks in my exams, they always supported me no matter what I did, or chose. They always said to me son always try your best, if you don't succeed, don't worry, at least you gave it all you got. As long as you try your best that's all we ask from you. Simple motto but it meant a lot to me, they've always been there for me whatever life has thrown at me.
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@rosie_123 (6117)
1 Feb 07
That is a great answer - thanks. Sounds ike your parents were very sensible and grounded people and you were lucky to have them.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Mines was "dont never let anyones words stop you from fulfilling your dreams"!
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@jossml (464)
• Puerto Rico
1 Feb 07
I like your words michael609, I learn them a few years ago. My parents teach me the values that determined the person I am today.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I guess it wouold be to do things as a family and stick together as a team.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
The only parent always there to teach me things is my mom and she taught me how to be independent..how to be strong and not to be fooled by people around you that takes advantage.
@dfinster (3535)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I think the most important thing they taught me is respect. Respect for life, animals, my elders and any other people. Especially respect for myself.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
I mother always taught me to treat others how I want to be treated. She taught me how to be respectful, caring and how to lend a helping hand.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
I think the most valuable thing my mom taught was to have faith in God. I don't want to seem corny, but it has really helped me throughout the years with life's ups and downs. Without faith, I'd be lost.
@misste78 (539)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I don't think that is corny at all. I believe that through GOD all things are possible.
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@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I grew up with my family working for the U.N. During those times I learned 1 simple lesson from my parents...... to value life. That has everything summed up into it, equality, diversity, no boundaries when it comes to religion or color. To value your life and the life of others.
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@rosie_123 (6117)
1 Feb 07
I think those are great things to live your life by. Thanks for posting here.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
well, they taught me a lot of things and i of cousre some i remeber better than others but for the most part the ones that stick out are that you word is everything, if a man has nothing else,no worldly posessions. all he has left is his word, if you truely beleive in something then nothing will discourage or turn you from it, and treat others the way you would want to be treated!!!!
@pinkie4 (238)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Well my parents have taught me about everything and about every aspect of life... few of them are like my mom always tells us to respect every individual whether they r younger or elder to u...whether they r poor or rich no matter what..treat everybody equally...I have learned to be patient from my Dad..he is full fo patience and has taught us that life will always bring ups n downs but it is upon us to take charge of it and solve the problems cooly and pratically in the best possible manner. And above all they have taught us to have faith in god and oursleves.
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@shambuca (2560)
• United States
1 Feb 07
treat people the way you would want to tbe treated.
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@ginagee (843)
2 Feb 07
Now that is definately something I agree with and I wish more people realised just how important that is!
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• United States
31 Jan 07
My parents tought me not to be like them when I had kids.
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Feb 07
They tought me how to apperaciate honesty,and how to the all the things for myself.
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@sco888 (27)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Belief in one's capabilities is one thing my parents taught us kids. My sisters and I grew up to be achievers. Now, we're reaping what we have sown.
2 Feb 07
They didn't really teach me this, I just figured it out for myself. The thing that sticks in my head is, don't lie. They were forever telling me lies and I know how bad it felt. I would not inflict that onto anyone else.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
My parents taught me to respect everyone and not judge them by the way they look. I am so glad that they did because I have made alot of good friends by talking to them when other people might not because the way they look or dress. I judge a person by the inside not the outside. I try and teach my kids not to judge a person until they know the real person. Please dont judge a person by the way they look.
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@msbyte (219)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I was just thinking about this the other day. Sometimes I get upset about the things that my dad did, he was overly strict but with a double standard. He would never admit when he was wrong. His form of discipline was overly rigid and I was terrified of him. I would not trade any of this though. The positive things about him were the facts that he stood for an issue and did not sway. I guess that is why he did not get voted into office when he ran for congress, people knew they could not "buy" him. He taught me to love God and go to church so I could learn how to help others and not be selfish. He was always kind to people who could not help themselves. To me these things were better than all of the money in the world or anything else.
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
what i have learnt from my parents are being respectful to the elders, be humble, be courteous, how to handle problems, a religious person, and cleanliness.
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• India
1 Feb 07
My parents thought me Hard Working and a good knowledge to stand up against any problem. Do you know i am straight forward in any matter.
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@anja31 (708)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
For me spend my money wisely. They learn who to save and to spend the money that I earn.