Have you ever had a friend who just wasn't worth it?

You know, I must confess that I've had a few friends that I have done the same to...My e-best friend was so demanding and draining that, for the last year or so of our relationship, I DREADED calling her. I knew I had to, or she'd be explaining in detail what a horrible friend I was (but it was actually that attitude that made me dread talking to her). She was the kind that would give you unsolicited advice, then the next time she called she'd ask "Well, did you do what I told you?". Ugh, I had to get rid of her. I did the same with a few others, but not due to any particular conflict, it was more to kind of protect myself. I lived in Spain for a few years (and couldn't work), so I really had a chance to evaluate my life and my relationships. I realized that with these 2 or 3 friends (they were all foreigners, former students of mine), that they liked me because I acted according to their expectations. They also always kind of leaned on me as a teacher and maybe a 'trophy American friend'. I realized how unbalanced the relationships were (not in my favor), and since I hate confrontation, I just kind of ignored them until they went away. I very rarely miss them, and often remember all of the times I got together with them out of nothing more than obligation. But enough about me....I doubt that your ex-friend cut off communication with you because of anything like what I wrote above. It sounds as though you were truly concerned for your friend and unsure as to why she cut off communication. You know, sometimes you just can't take things personally. It sounds as though maybe you just grew apart, and that she's one of those people who's around when she needs it- and only when SHE needs it. Another possibility (and what I suspect) is that she was going through a rough time in her life (or with her husband/family) that she didn't feel comfortable telling you about. If she was in a bad spot in her life (and you never really know if people (sometimes even close friends) are really doing 'all right'; it's easy to mask) she might not have felt up to talking. Even when she read about your dog, she might have felt great sympathy for you, but didn't feel physically up to consoling someone else. Sometimes you can get so depressed that you really don't feel you can manage any sort of communication. I understand that you feel hurt by her dismissing you, and it must eat away at you wondering why she ignored and discarded you. But try to see that it might not be about you at all. And good luck with the replacement!

Hope you don't mind if I post the corrections here: I have had many problems: this is correct, but 'many' is very formal. Usually, 'a lot of' is more natural. I was living one of those: (in Spanish it's said the same way). 'I was going through' is correct; it means to experience something difficult. it was all wrong with me: 'Everything was wrong (with me)' or 'Everything was falling apart' I was left alone and in troubles by the best friend: 'I was left alone and in trouble (or 'having problems') WITH MY best friend.' it changed my perspective on relationship: I'm sure you meant to type 'relationships'. I have great problems now when trusting someone is concerned: very nice construction! "I have a lot of trouble (is more natural, but great problems is correct, too) WHERE trusting someone is concerned. (It's always WHERE something is concerned- or as far as trusting someone is concerned). Nice job and excellent post. Keep up the good work, Maribea :)