Who typically hosts the bridal shower?
By joseph_v
@joseph_v (212)
India
January 31, 2007 11:38pm CST
So my soon to be mother-in-law and sister-in-law offered to host my bridal shower. When my mom got wind of this her feeling were totally hurt because she wanted to host my shower,however, she really isn't in the financial position to do so. I told her that I am going to have my MIL and SIL host the shower and that my mom can have a brunch the day after the shower (thought that would be a lot less expensive). Am I being insensitive?
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I thought it was the maid of honor that hosted the bridal shower. Maybe they can all get together and host a Jack and Jill party. These are becoming more popular lately.
@chicospagal (180)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I agree with some of the other posts that it's an etiquette thing that your mom not host it. I'm not entirely should it should be family/future family at all due to the whole implication of expected gifts...but it's probaly not as bad for the future family as it would be for current family. Planning a wedding does seem to cause a lot of family tensions like this. All you can do is smoothe it out the best you can and not let it stress you out.
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
23 Sep 07
Well typically it's the maid of honor who hosts the bridal shower, that's not always the case though. Your mother in law offered to host the shower so of course you weren't being insensitive by accepting the offer, how could you say no to that? If your mom wants to host the shower that badly though, why not let her throw one also? I know of many people who have two bridal showers with different sides of the family/ friends.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Sep 07
I am pretty sure traditionally it is the maid-of-honor. Since your mom had her feelings hurt, I would suggest to her to call your future MIL & SIL and ask if she can help out in any way. Showers are usualyl a good deal of work, I am sure they would be glad for the help.
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@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
22 Sep 07
You're family isn't suppose to host a bridal shower anyway. The in law's can, but it's inappropriate for your mom to do it because it looks like your mom is trying to get people to get you gifts.
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@entrepreneurgirl (273)
• United States
21 Sep 07
The maid of honor normally does host the shower but why can't they all work together on something? Do your MIL, SIL and mom get along? If they do they should all meet and work on the shower together. Then it would be good time for them to spend together and everyone's happy.
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@christineli (525)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Not insensitive, in fact you are considering her financial status.
Usually its the maid of honor who hosts the bridal shower. But in my place, it can be arranged by any of your girl friends, like best friend who is not even a member of the entourage (because your sisters/cousins/sisters-in-laws/ had to be bridesmaids so your best friend had to give way, family first you know).
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@mystic_0318 (937)
• United States
27 Sep 07
Even though I never had a bridal shower, I always thought that your maid of honor gave the bride her shower. Thats how we did it for my sister and my sister in laws shower. Maybe you would wan to mention this to your maid of honor so neither parents get hurt or upset who does give you your shower.
