I don`t want to go .

I really don't know what to suggest my friend.All you can do is try to talk to him.Tell him how you are feeling.Explain to him that you would rather stay in Australia where your friends and family are.Tell him that you will be very lonely in a strange country while he is working away for six weeks at a time and how does he expect you to cope with that.I am here if you need a shoulder or a sounding board my friend...mega hugs

Hope, You, I think must tell yourhubbie how this is affecting you. That you feel you are not up to a move right now. Anyway, if he is going to be gone for 6 week stretches, why can't you stay in Australia?? Use this as your home base?? I,m thinking of you and sending hugs your way!! lovemycats

That was a little selfish of him to apply to a job.. overseas at that without even speaking with you about this. I would be very upset if I were you. marriage is supposed to be a partnership. Afterall, how can you be married if you are the only one working at a relationship?

i think that life is really boring, and this is a good moment to break the monotony of the life. be happy for this, will be surely a good experience!:)

I don`t know pal ... You should go to the office or where your hubby applied, and try to convince them it has all been a mistake! Maybe you will have luck! If not what do you loose if you won`t go there ?! Good Luck!

I am sorry to hear this. All I can say is that you should sit down with your husband and tell him how you are feeling and find out why he did this without telling or talking with you first. Maybe this six weeks apart is a good thing, it will give you time to think about things and decide if you want to go with him. If you decide you don't then there is nothing wrong with staying where you are and waiting for him to return. I would sure hope that my husband would never do anything like this without discussing it with me first so I can understand why you are upset and hurting. Just tell him that the two of you need to discuss this and find out why.

Woh it is tough man. One suggestion is to give birth to a child and concentrate looking after the child then you will not be bored. Or keep surfing mylot.com/

He hasn't got the job yet, has he? So you guys have time to sit down and for you to tell him how you feel. It's a bit much to keep moving around the world, and he should definitely have discussed this with you before he even applied.

wow i cant believe he made a decision like that without talking to you about it first. that doesnt sound like a very healthy relationship to me, no offense. i would be very angry if my spouse decided to move overseas without even telling me about it! i dont know what to tell you, but i think you and your husband need to sit down for a very long talk to find out what's going on.

Oh gosh ! That was a big thing for him to take on without discussing it with you first. I would be upset at that alone, much less the move and everything else. I don't have any advice for you, but good luck !

WOW. I'd be so pi$$ed if my husband did that to me, it wouldn't even be funny. I think I'd tell him if he wanted the job that bad, to move w/out me. Of course that's much easier said than done, but yeah. That's pretty bad.

it is a tuff problem. But, if you don't want to move to a foreing country, you can talk to your husband and let him know your thoughts and concerns... I think you will find a way to your current situation. If I were you, I wouldn't want to move to another country.

I think i have to ask you several questions before I could tell you my opinion. 1. Are you working at present in your country of residence? 2. Will this new job improve the quality of your life? 3. Is the country you're going to go to better then your current country of residence? If you could answer me, I could give you my honest opinion. Best of luck to you in all cases :)

My heart goes out to you, dear...I'm not real sure what I'd do in that situation. I guess it would depend on where he applied for this job. It would depend on how much family I had here at home and how attached I was to them. It would depend on if I'd knew I'd have income, and would be secure like that if I decided to stay. It would depend on what he'd feel if you decided to stay here and not go with him. Personally, I'm usually a happier woman when there's no men around...but that's just me. On the other hand, it could be a fun adventure. Very educational, and exciting learning new cultures and languages and so on. Good luck to you!

Hi hope, poor you! Does he think the change of scenery will do you good perhaps? Why can't you stay where you are? and him go for his 6 weeks away from home instead of you having to uproute too and him still not be with you? I think you really need to talk to him about this, it's very important and you need him around if you are so down, he needs to be around for you. You have to open up and talk to him properly or he's just going to push ahead thinking he is helping. I was laid in bed wondering how you were last night as I hadn't heard from you for a while and was a bit worried, was going to send you a message today, don't forget I'm here if you need me, love n hugs R***

This happened to me, too. In retrospect, I wish I had not been so willing to follow his decision. I enjoyed it somewhat, but I got incredibly homesick. Also, the three years that we were there were crucial to my education, and I couldn't go to school in a foreign country. Living conditions were not great, either. I was isolated because I did not speak German. If my husband had travelle d besides all that, I would have packed up and gone back to the states! Think it over very carefully.

Hi, Hope with your present condition, I am surprised that he he is still going away. Dom't just jump to conclusions yer, I think may be he thought he needed more money to support you all. I feel your kdis are grown up now, may be they can help you with work, try and be supportive and take it in positive way. My hubby also went away without consulting me, I justtook it in my stride and let him go, raised my two year old alone for seven years, took all the crticism from him too. Just told him, I am trying as best as I could, He came back eventually. sometimes I feel men need space and I do not want to be the one blocking anyone's way. Now again he is talking about volunteering for field area which I do not want as my both kids are small but if he wants to go I will let him. May be thats for the better, I will also have more freedom to take decisions regarding my kids. We shall see. Keep up a positive outlook, it may just work out fine.

maybe you should sit and have a long talk with your hubby. Am pretty sure that he has reasons for all his actions. Maybe he want to earn more for you and your family. i just hope that all he has is good intentions.

Well firstly, here is the wrong place to be discussing it. Better open your mouth to him and express your fears. And if you are having problems functioning, could be you are depressed. I know quite a bit about being depressed hehe.

It hurts to tell you this, but the relation is done and over with, my dear. When a man takes these kind of actions, he is tired, fed up, ready for another woman in his life. Set him free, try to stay friends and keep matters as much under control, as you still stay parents.