Judging Others?

United States
February 1, 2007 5:26am CST
Why do people judge eachother. Did you ever notice that in an argument people are alwayhs trying to point out why the other is worse. What is tha all about. I think it should be a law against this. Nobody is perfect so I don't think you have the right to judge anyone unless you yourself are perfect. What do you think?
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@hopefoo (1145)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 07
I think noone can do it. Seriously, how can one not be judgemental? I judge people a lot based on their appearence. When I get to know then of course, sometimes I find that I'm wrong. However, I believe that everyone should be allowed their own opinionated freedom. Everyone is allowed to say whatever the hell they want, but one should show some empathy while replying in discussions, be it real life or otherwise. Sure you may be smarter, prettier, taller, but that doesn't mean that you cannot express some empathy while carrying a conversation, right? What I'm saying is, we should always be mindful of other people's feelings. Otherwise, what difference would it make if one is beautiful and smart but has a rotten attitude?
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• United States
7 Feb 07
You make a really good point there from a philisophical point of view. Everyone is judgemental in one way or the other, even when you try not to be. Something as simple as saying someone is a bad driver because they made a bad decision behind the wheel once or twice is even a form of judgement.
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@crickethear (1420)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I think the reason people judge each other so much is they are afraid of being considered different, and or not conforming. I also believe that it is insecurity with themselves as a person. The problem with judging is that it can lead to hate, but then again people hate what they are afraid of. It is like when people are out and they see a group of kids dressed like gothic, just seeing them, they start to feel insecure and feel they are a threat to them, so they make judgements. One of my friends was in a band. He had long hair and could look like what some people would say a bumb. However, he had more manners and finese then people who look "straight". I remember going out to eat with him at a real nice restaurant. You could see the stares and hear the whispers as we walked in. Imagine there surprise when he pulled out my chair for me, and put my order in for me. At one point I had to get up and use the restroom. He stood as I got up, and when I came back, got up and again help me get seated. I could see the complete difference in everyones opinion who were sitting there. So I basically think judgement comes because it is seems foreign.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
Thank you for adding to my same opinion. I totally agree.
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
1 Feb 07
i agree with you. i was brought up with the saying "Judge others the way you want to be judged on judgment day."
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Exactly, that is a deep saying. If you really pick it apart and live your life by it you will enjoy life more.
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• United States
7 Feb 07
You are right. Only one person was perfect, and that was God. The bible says that before you remove the splinter from your brother's eye, remove the log from your own eye. That sums it up. It is not our place to judge anyone. But, people still do it, as it makes them feel important and right.
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@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
7 Feb 07
Well basically we do it because it's necessary. If you meet someone and find they are untrustworthy you have to make a judgement call. Someone else may be nasty, someone too friendly. It's human nature I guess. You can't be friends with everyone or love everyone or marry everyone ...you have to look at a person's soul or at least their personality and see if it's maybe not perfect but still a good match for you. Your friend might drink too much (a judgement call) but have a happy heart and be very kind. Your mother may be a cold person unable to demostrate her love for you so at some point in your life you must decide how to handle this and how it affects you. It's basic I think to form judgements of anyone we have any real contact with wether long or short term. You might have a creepy neighbour who you would hate to be stuck in the elevator with. Another neighbour might be attractive and friendly but when you find yourself alone you discover they are sleazy. And your creepy neighbour turns out to be someone you can rely on to help you out. Yep, judging people is necessary.
• United States
7 Feb 07
Good point but you can't hate someone our pass judgement on them because of a flaw in their character. As a matter of fact there may be some flaws in your character by someone elses point of view (such as being judgemental) but should they judge you for something you feel is neccessary. The things you judge them for may be something they feel is neccessary. Deep huh? Think about it. LOL.
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@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Not sure I understand your response. Are you saying we should accept everyone for who they are with no "labels"? Do you not choose your friends carefully? Do you take the side of criminals and accept that there are no good or bad people? Do you not choose to like or love people? (There are good and bad judgement calls) Please accept that I'm not trying to be argumentative. I would really like to understand this concept. I truly believe that none of us has the right to judge another that our day of judgement will come when we go to meet our maker. But we must make choices and doesn't this follow a judgement call?
@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
8 Feb 07
Isn't saying someone has a flaw in their character a judgement of them? Gosh, I'm way too friendly. I accept people unconditionally and realise too late that I should have been more careful in my choice of friendship. Now I am almost reclusive because I find it difficult to trust people. Can you perhaps explain to me how i'm getting this all wrong...lol.
@stefg023 (62)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I can't stand it when people judge others. Unfortunately, I think most people do it...
• United States
7 Feb 07
I hear that.
@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
I'm nobody ... since nobody is perfect *laughs* Sorry ... had to start with a lame joke! I'm not sure why we judge each other - it has to be something to do with what we've been taught growing up. Have you noticed that most young children don't judge each other - they don't care what they look like or who they are or what language they speak ... as long as they want to play with them!
• United States
7 Feb 07
Love the corny joke. Have you ever noticed how corny jokes can be funnier than the complex ones at times? LOL. Anyway, I definately agree, old habits die hard.
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Feb 07
As within so without, also known as the law of reflection. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are acted out by the people and circumstances in our lives. This means that our deepest secrets and hidden feelings show up in others, who reflect them back to us. If a neighbor is unkind, look within at your harshness to yourself or others. The qualities that you like and admire in the people in your life is reflecting your own beautiful and magnificent aspects back to you. The more we dislike someone or something, the more our soul is trying to draw a reflection to our attention. When you see someone being judgemental, you can be sure that there is something in them that they are not happy with. An example is that have you ever noticed that the person who complains most about being talked about behind her back is also the biggest gossip? This is the law of reflection.
@blueskies (1186)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I think it's normal human behavior to "size up" someone when you meet them. Unfortunately, a lot of people use that initial assessment to form an opinion about another person that is not neccessarily accurate. You can't judge someone else according to your beliefs because they do not always live by the same standards that you do. I think the world would be a much better place if everyone learned to be more tolerant of those that are different than they are. Everyone must also learn not to use those differences against someone else if they have a conflict. It reminds me of that quote by (Rodney King?) "Can't we all just get along?"