How young is too young for a boyfriend/girlfriend?

United States
February 1, 2007 2:40pm CST
How old will you let your child start dating or when did you let them start dating? I cringe at the thought of my kids dating, these days are so different now in the dating scene. My kids are still young but I think it all depends on the maturity of the child but if I'd have to really put an age to the question right now it would be around 16, Maybe, and older.
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@jan1972 (80)
1 Feb 07
Luckily my children are not that old yet, But I will have it all to come. My niece is 15 and has had boyfriends for the last year or so, My sister has found that if she tries to stop her having BF's she lies about where she is going so she can see them in secret. So now my niece is allowed to have a boyfriend, but always has to let us know exactly where she is and who she is with. She is less interested in seeing boys now that mum has said it is allowed.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Well hey, that's great if she's slowed down after mom gave her permission. If only all kids could be that way!
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1 Feb 07
My daughter already says she has decided who she is going to marry and she is 5!! I know it isn't realy at that age, but it is scary to think how young kids date these days. I had my first boyfriend at 15 and I think I would be happy if my girls started dating at 14 or 15 as long as they were nice boys and were their age. Unfortunately I don't think the decision will be mine.
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• United States
1 Feb 07
Oh my! What is your daughter doing already saying that, lol! It is scary the way they date these days. These days everythings done at tooo young of an age!
@lols189 (4797)
1 Feb 07
i think 16 is a reasonable age as teenagers start 2 get more mature
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• Singapore
23 Mar 07
hi happymommy Kids nowadays mature at a young age, don't they. Like you said, it all depends on the maturity level of individual child, but if you would want me to put an age, i would say 18 and above. I consider myself on the conservative side, as i only started dating when i was 19.
• United States
23 Mar 07
Yes they sure do mature at a young age these days. That probably would be a better age to start dating. Now that I think about it, by than you're already out of highschool and a little smarter about things. I was mature at my age but met my boyfriend, my now husband of 9 years, at the age of 17 and I did graduate but alot of things changed for me though because I didn't go to college like I had planned before I met him. Not by his choice though, it was mine, but I never for one second regret meeting him though. We always hope though that things will be different for our kids. Thanks for responding:)
@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Honestly, I went out on my first date when I was 13, we would go to the park and walk and hold hands. Those were different times though. My kids dating worrys me also and all I can do is hope that as they grow up I instill the same values that were instill in me so they make the right choices, with regards to peer pressure and making the right choice.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I know, it is scary to think about how things will be when my kids start dating. Me and my husband talk all the time about not stressing so much over how things are but worry about how we're teaching them and like you said instilling values and teaching them to make the right choices. Thanks:)
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@yanstill (1491)
• China
23 Mar 07
a boyfriend , i think younger than 6 or older than 12 will not be okay.
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@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I agree with you with that. I think it really depends on a child and how ready they are for dating. I will let my daughter date when she is ready for it.
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