About your grown up children & your relationship

@slickcut (8141)
United States
February 1, 2007 10:13pm CST
Hi everyone,I would like to know about your grown up children ,I have five children all grown up & married....I have a good relationship with all my kids as far as e-mailing etc,but My one son calls because he lives in another town the other two I live around and the two girls live in another town,but i just moved here so it has been like this for a very long time..my daughetrs are friendly and nice when i am around but if anyone calls I have to do all the calling..its like they are too busy with their life to include me.. would like for them to contact me for a change,if I don,t call them i don,t get to talk to them..Its not like that with my boys,just the girls...I use to talk to my Mom everyday and if I did not call her she would get mad,so i always kelp in touch.....but I lost her last year...Anyway why do kids do this ,they aren,t close like i use to be to my parents..Is this Normal? what do your grown children do?,how does mine compare to yours? sometimes I feel like this is a disfunctional family...Please give me some in put..
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• United States
6 Mar 07
I have one grown boy and he is married and has three children. He keeps in touch with me and calls me from time to time. Since they live close I get the grandkids one Friday a night so that my son and his wife can have some time to themselves. He built my and my husbands computer and comes over on a regular basis to do maintance on both of them. If we run into problems with them he will come over and fix the problem. He is a great son and we have a good relationship.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Well thats great and i am very happy for you
@minerc (1373)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't have grown kids, but I will speak for me. I am 36 when I first moved away from my mom I talked to her all the time, now that I have gotten older we still talk but maybe 1-2 times a week and sometimes we go a couple of weeks without talking it depends what is going on. I call her and she calls me. I love my mom dearly, I just have my family and things that are going on with it and she knows that. She knows that if I need her I will call she like she knows if she needs me she can call me. I don't think we are disfunctional, I just think we have seperate lives now. She comes and visit's once a year and I go to visit sometimes not often. I know that she understand's why I don't call her everyday we have talked about it, she agree's with me on it because she also has things that she does like quilting she is really big in it. So we do fine. It don't work for all. But maybe your kids have the same view, they know you are there and will call when they need you but they are moving on with there lives. It doesnt mean it's bad. Talk to them and see what is up and you might be suprised. Good Luck!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
7 Feb 07
yes you could be right however it is like months before i hear from mine...but i was just wondering because I was close to my Mom and talked to her often..I suppose you have a very good point..Thank you .
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@bicklelady (1411)
• United States
15 Mar 07
OMG dont get me started. My oldest son is 20 and my baby boy is 14. Well my oldes son and I are so very close. Then along came a girl. Now it is mama who? I had such a hard time with this at first. Both my boys was always homebodies. When My oldest son, Corey would date, he would always bring them to my home. They would always hang out with our family. Well Corey has met a humdinger of a girl. He knew her in high school. They never dated until about 7 months ago. Well he knew her for 1 month and he bought her a ring. I never see him anymore. It was like now you see him, now you dont. It took me forever to get use to him not being around. He still lives with me, but he is never home until late. If he is not at school, he is working, if he is not working, he is with her. I want him to be happy and I want him to spread his wings and fly. But this girl is a looney toon. She lies so much that I think she believes her own lies. I mean she will tell lies about me and I am setting there. Its like she will tell my son something that I done to her, that never happened and then challenge him who is he going to believe, Me or her? I have got to the point that I try not to cross her path. This goes on in my own home. I feel like I have to walk on egg shells when she is around because if she gets mad at me, she will storm out of my home and corey will go with her and I will not see him or hear from him for weeks. She talked him into getting a tatoo, which I do not believe in. There is just so much that this girl has done. She has tore my family apart. I just hope and pray my son will open his eyes before it is to late.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Mar 07
OMG sounds like your Corey got a girlfriend from Hell!I hate a liar too,and i would really get mad if she lied on me,like his g/f...Hes so young too,and oh i hate she talked him into getting a tatoo,i hate for boys to have tatoos,my son got some and i hate it...It sounds like she is trying to tear your home apart and put a gap in your happy home....Oh i hope he don't end up marrying her,if he does then she will really start then...Well my son ask me to come here to this town where i am at now,he lives here.He is well off and has lots of rent houses here in town and the surrounding towns,so he calls me on the phone at my home in Splendora,thats near Houston,anyway he said i have a perfect home for you ....so he talks me into coming here right? so girl it cost me to come here..well everything was fine at first but he got upset,i think its because my middle son came to visit and those two don't get along,so he wrote me a nasty letter,and acted like he did not want us here anymore,so i packed all my stuff up...Well my husband is getting his disability from the VA here in Kerrville Tx..now i can't leave until we get him approved,and it makes me uncomfortable being here..My son's wife is really sweet to me and told me not to pay attention to him..so he has not told me he's sorry and i have not talked to him..sometimes my kids gets on my nerves..