Why is he jealous?

United States
February 2, 2007 12:07am CST
Recently I went out to a restaurant with some friends. While there I saw a guy that I used to know and who had a crush on me. He noticed me and came up to talk to me for a little bit. We just talked about life and how things were going. He asked me if I was with the same guy and I said yes. My boyfriend knew this guy as well and didn't like him at all, mostly because he kept trying to get with me when I was with my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend about seeing that guy and he didn't really get mad but he didn't like it at all. He asked me if I was going to go back to that restaurant to see him again and I said no. He also asked me if he was my boyfriend now and I said no. What the hell did that mean? I asked him if he was mad and he said no but he said I shouldn't have talked to him and that he was probably going to try to hook up with me again. I can definetly understand why he doesn't like this guy but I also think that he knows me better than that and I would never do anything. He is so annoyed by this guy, you have to understand this guy would not give up when we used to know him. He would always try to cause trouble between me and my boyfriend. Once he even came to my boyfriend's house when we first started dating and told me my mom was looking for me so I would go with him. I didn't thankfully. That was a long time ago but my boyfriend is still pissed I guess because he hates the guy and is even telling his friends that he might go down to the restaurant and kick his a$$ for talking to me. I probably should not have told him about seeing that guy again but I didn't want him to hear from one of my friends and then wonder why I kept it from him. What should I do?
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@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
3 Feb 07
you did the right thing in telling him becasue if someone else had told him he would believe that you are trying to hook up with this guy... i would ask my b/f why he is so insecure the things this guy did was a long time ago not like last week and there is no reason why you cant talk to other people when you are out in public its called having manners
@Gmens91 (389)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
You can't blame him for doing that. The guy had tried unsucessfully in the past to break you up, and he was probably thinking that he will try again. I think you were right in telling him that you saw the guy, because if he hears it from someone else you'll be in worse shape.Just tell your man that you love him and had stuck with him through all this time. Reassure him that you will never leave him for that guy and ask him to trust you. Tell him not to stoop down to the guy's level; he is, after all, the bigger man
• United States
2 Feb 07
Seems like he has over reacted a bit. Depending on how long you have been together he should not see this guy as a threat. It's ok not to like they guy, but he should trust you enough to know you aren't going to let anything. Maybe there are some other things going on in your relationship that need to be looked at. He seems to be insecure for some reason. Good luck and I hope he doesn't do anything dumb likebeat the guy up.