My mom tore the pages of my diary?Does anybody have the right?

@berry9 (590)
India
February 2, 2007 12:19am CST
I stopped writing diary when I discovered others sneaking through it.Im now scared of people who might criticize me for some silly things i write in it.i could speak to none,so i speak to my diary.But then what if they read everything?Last week I found some pages missing in it and then I asked my mother if anybody took my diary.she said she was the one that tore those pages because i wrote something about her.
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@techsam (158)
• India
2 Feb 07
This is way below the belt!! Stuff like personal diaries are way too personal for anyone to read unless you want them too.... No one not even your mum has teh right to go through them. I think its time you had a talk with with your mom about this - i mean a free and fair talk.... you have to make her realise that you are an individual with your thoughts and feelings, your own personal space and she should refrain herself from entering that space. It not invited. This is something you have to bring out into the open, you must do so. You can't let this go so easily!! She has gone through your diary today, god knows what else might be turning up in her scrutiny tomorrow. Draw the line.... even our parents should realise that as we grow up we too need space entirely our own, strictly off limits. I too have faced a similar situation..... My mum went through my PDs (4 yrs worth stuff). It let to a big time showdown, as i was very furious and i guard my spce fiercely..... since then, i don't have anyone intruding into my space..... and things are still excellent!! i hope you understood what i tried to say!!
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@berry9 (590)
• India
3 Feb 07
when i ask her she fights with me.she says she has the right for anything.who knows if she is sneaking into other stuff im keeping.
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4 Feb 07
Well, keeping diaries at the first place is quite a bit of a kerfuffle. All your feelings are out for anyone to peek in.
@Orfspell (122)
• Portugal
5 Feb 07
If she sneaks your diary can sneak everything. I say this without knowing her but that what i think
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
2 Feb 07
No. I think Diaries are your personal belongings and it is the way you expressed yourself and your feelings. Nobody even your mom has the right on such a personal matter and she even has no right to open it. Even in our own house we should have a little space that we can call our own and we are the one who is entitled to it. Cheer up berry9! Why not try to compose a diary thru your computer and make it secure by putting a password on it the one that is really hard to guess.
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@berry9 (590)
• India
2 Feb 07
thankyou.that is what im doing now.
• Brazil
5 Feb 07
no one have the right!! this is a invasion of privacy and that's terrible wrong, I also sugest u start writing in your computer and put a password
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
i would suggest that you do not stop writing diaries for yourself because scientifically it is very very good for our mental and emotional health. you get to say something you want to yourself and to anyone, you express your soul.do not be afraid of your mom, they are very possesive of themselves.do make another one and eventhough she would find it again and tore the pages once more, just continue writing no matter what the consequences are. it is good for you.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
As a mother, I feel your diary is your thoughts and your property. Sure we moms get nosy and wonder, but you have a right to your thoughts, just as much as your mom does. Parents dont always agree and get along,and you vented about that, she shouldnt have torn the pages out.Even though she did, they remain your thoughts and feelings-which is something she tear out. Good luck sweetie!
• India
5 Feb 07
first of all keeping your diary just like that is quite careless thing.it can give rise to many issues and quarrals. now if she is desperately sneaking into your stuff then you should do the same to her...so that she could understand your feelings
@berry9 (590)
• India
5 Feb 07
that was a wonderful advice.
@cuddleme01 (2727)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
am sorry about that. your mom shouldnt do that. You have your own privacy. She should respect that. whatever that is that you wrote in your diary that offended her, is not a justification for her to tear your diary. She doesn't have the right in the first place to read your diary. That's intrusion of your privacy. Diaries are meant to be personal, that is YOURS ALONE TO THE EXCLUSION OF ALL OTHERS.
@hopeful28 (1439)
• Singapore
4 Feb 07
Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear that. I had similar experiences with my mom and it is not a good feeling to know that she goes through my things and takes the liberty to throw things away without consulting me first. I've always felt that she doesn't respect my privacy so I find myself having to hide things which I consider private away in a 'safe' place. My opinion is that no one has the right to go through other people's things, even our parents, especially when we are no longer children and need the due respect.
• United States
4 Feb 07
Oh so sorry... Its really a bad attitude showed by ur mom. I accept that the mother is very respectful for us, we should not react at her. But I would like to say all the mothers please don't behave your children as like your property, Children are not your slaves, they are beautiful gift of God, please be careful about your attitude with the children, God will not forgive htose parents who do not show tenderness to the youngers. God also will not forgive those younger who donot obey their elders. Therefore Parents should keep their relation with their children very balance. Neither leave them free of all restriction nor put them in a store room like a slave. relation should be balance. GFod Bless U
• India
2 Feb 07
if its a personel one should not have their personel rights to tore,, if its a public it can be seen, when its came to personel no one shpuld touch it...
@mcarps79 (1262)
• Uganda
2 Feb 07
i think if u hv written so much bed about here that is ....also bed...and also if she has tore...why you are making issues...just ignore this matter as friends... but what is the issue is still hidden....depends on the issue...how big that is....if issue is silli...then forget the thing...why we shud stores such thing which create quarral....